Is it better to show everything you’ve got, or wait for the big reveal? Learn why a grower not a shower actually makes for a better experience.
When it comes to the size of the thing they’ve got packing between their legs, men seem to put a lot of their confidence into the size. We’re not saying that’s necessarily a bad thing. Let’s face it, having a larger one makes getting laid and being good in bed a tad bit easier. That being said, some guys behave differently depending upon their size. The real difference in personality comes down to whether he’s a grower not a shower. For those of you who don’t know the difference, hang tight.
For sure, you could argue that size doesn’t actually matter, it’s more what he does with it. But, that’s not how guys see it. They take great pride in size and assume that’s all they need to tick off when it comes to pleasing their partner. The truth is obviously a little more complicated than that! [Read: The average penis – 10 easy answers that’ll make you a know-it-all]
What’s the difference between a grower and a shower?
It’s confusing for someone who has never heard these terms before. However, they are pretty self-explanatory. A grower is someone whose manhood is smaller when flaccid but grows to a substantial size when they’re hard.
A shower is someone who looks bigger when they’re flaccid but doesn’t really grow as much when they’re erect. Basically, what you see when they’re not excited is usually what you get when they are.
The argument about whether you want a grower not a shower or a shower from the start comes down to the fact that you’re not going to get any more than you already see with a shower. With a grower, however, the magic happens as he gets excited! [Read: Why are men so obsessed with their penis size?]
Why are there growers and showers in the first place?
According to some experienced doctors, genetics plays a large role in the overall category into which a man falls. However, collagen production and skin elasticity also present key factors to consider. So basically, how far a guy stretches his penis out is how big his erection will be.
Those aren’t the only reasons, though. It also depends on a person’s health. Certain diets foster better blood flow, which obviously means they’re going to grow much more than someone with poor circulation.
It could also come down to chance because let’s face it, nothing is ever easy to understand when it comes to penises. [Read: 18 fascinating and unknown facts about the penis]
This is why you want a grower not a shower
Some say there are arguments for showers, too. However, we believe the one you really want is the one who can surprise you with something—the grower.
While you may not be able to choose whether or not your man is a grower and not a shower, there are definite reasons why you want someone who appears smaller. Here are all the reasons why being with a grower is the way to go. [Read: How to know a guy has a big dick – 18 signs he’s big & well-endowed]
1. They’re not cocky
Excuse the pun. Growers tend to be more relaxed about their confidence than showers. Actually, showers tend to be kind of cocky and rude in their behavior. They’re all about, “hey, look what I’ve got” when really it’s the last place you’re looking.
This is because they all know they have something great in their pants and their package is something that would attract you. For this reason, showers come off as selfish and cocky. Something that’s not attractive at all. [Read: Big vs small dick – 21 best & worst qualities to pick the best penis]
2. They have mysterous confidence down-pat
When you’re with someone who is a grower, they always walk around like they have a small—yet important—secret they just can’t wait to reveal. And we all know how much women love mysterious men.
Safe in the quiet knowledge they have something great hidden in a package that might not seem so wonderful keeps them confident in the most enticing way. Their mannerisms will be confident in a subtle way. Something women love. [Read: 9 subtle differences between a confident and arrogant man]
3. They know not to judge a book by its cover
And for that reason, girls with less obvious attractive qualities have a better chance at snagging a great guy. These guys know what it’s like to have more to offer than what meets the eye. So, they’ll be more willing to accept a gal who might not have it all in the looks department but has plenty more to offer in her personality.
4. They will be very modest about themselves
Growers are definitely not men showing off their talents and attributes like it’s their job. These guys will be modest and humble when it comes to everything. Especially the unexpected package that they’re packing.
You won’t have to worry about their chauvinistic attitude causing fights, scenes, or any other unpleasant situation that you, as their significant other, have to deal with. [Read: The 10 types of guys in the world of dating]
5. You’ll be the only person around that really knows their secret
A fun little quality that’s more a personal reason you want a grower and not a shower. Growers may not look like much on the surface, but you know what they REALLY have in store for you when you get home.
6. You’ll feel great about yourself
This one can be hard to understand but bear with us. When you end up sleeping with someone who is a shower, you don’t see them get very big when you strip down.
That being said, when you’re with a grower, you feel so much more powerful when you take off your clothes and watch them go from nada to TA-DA! You’ll feel like you have a much bigger effect on their arousal when you’re with a grower. [Read: 6 naughty ways to tease your man and leave him hard]
7. First time sex will be less intimidating
The grower will be more nervous than you. Growers tend to be slightly insecure when it comes to getting naked in front of someone for the first time. This takes the pressure off you slightly.
You won’t have to worry about what you’ve got going on when you know your grower feels insecure about themselves too. Of course, in reality, neither of you have anything to feel insecure about because you’re about to have a wonderful time! [Read: Sleeping with someone new for the first time? 13 must-follow rules]
8. They may be less likely to cheat
This point can be argued to some degree, but we think it’s an important reason that you would want a grower and not a shower. Showers can have an attitude that they’re better than others. And feel they can get away with having sex with other girls because they know they’ll have luck. This is because of their large member being visible without them being aroused. [Read: Avoid them like the plague: 16 types of guys not to date]
Now, it’s said that people cheat for their own personal reasons and we 100% believe that. But we also believe guys who are showers and know they are, are more likely to engage in unfaithful behavior.
9. They’re more likely to want to please you
Even though they do grow to a decent—sometimes even great—size, growers still seem to be self-conscious about their size because it’s small when flaccid.
This makes them want to work that much harder to ensure you’re satisfied in bed. It’s as if they compensate for their small, flaccid penis even though their hard-on is perfectly average or bigger. [Read: 12 fun and sexy ways to please a woman in bed]
10. They’re more considerate of your insecurities
Growers understand what it’s like to have insecurities. They have a HUGE insecurity of their own. Growers get self-conscious because their penis looks small when it’s not geared up for use.
This means that guys who are growers and not showers have a better understanding of what it’s like to dislike certain parts of your body. They won’t poke fun at anything you don’t like about yourself since they wouldn’t want you to make fun of them. [Read: How to feel more confident in your body & fall in love with you]
We know why you want a grower not shower, but how can you tell?
You might be reading this and thinking ‘sure, I want a grower, but how do I know when he’s fully dressed?’ Good point. Let’s be honest, you can pretty much tell when a guy’s packing versus when he’s not. You just need a quick and very subtle glance. Now, we’re not suggesting you go around checking out guys and their packages randomly, but you wanted to know how to tell, right?
That’s the only way to tell whether you’re dealing with shower or a grower from the get-go, before either of you gets naked.
[Read: 12 common guys’ insecurities that women doesn’t realize]
Even though you can’t choose which type of guy you get, there are some solid reasons, if you could choose, go for a grower not a shower.
