15 Gut-Wrenching Signs Your Boyfriend Is Interested in Your Friend

You may have dated for a while, but you’re seeing the signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend. What are you supposed to do if that happens?

signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend

There are attractive people all over. We know they exist, but they’re not accessible to us. If your partner is eyeing your friend, that’s a different story. This isn’t just someone we pass when we walk down the street. It is someone we’re emotionally connected to. Your friend may be cute, so what do you do if you see the alarming signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend?

You can’t do much. He should know that there is a line that shouldn’t be crossed. It’s one thing to find someone attractive. It’s another to develop feelings for them. This, of course, isn’t what you want to happen. [Read: I have a sneaky suspicion my boyfriend likes my best friend]

How to read the signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend

When we’re in a relationship, we believe they only have eyes for us. At least, this is what we would like to happen. And listen, it’s normal for men and women to be attracted to other people who aren’t their significant others. It’s a hard thing to accept, but it’s something to acknowledge. We can’t let our egos get the best of us.

I know my boyfriend finds other women attractive. I’m not blind and if I see a good-looking guy, I can acknowledge that he’s good looking. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you become blind.

But sometimes it may cross the thin red line, so before you get hurt, watch out for these signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend. That way, you’ll be able to figure out what’s going on between him and your friend before you lose your mind.

#1 He brings up your friend a lot. Whenever you’re talking about something, never mind what the topic is, he somehow weasels your friend into the conversation. He’ll bring up things that they say or jokes they told, which is fine until it becomes obvious. If he’s constantly bringing them up in conversation, I would keep an eye on that. [Read: Emotional cheating and 10 bad things it can do to you]

#2 They talk. Yup, this one is something you should definitely keep an eye on. If they were friends before you started dating, that’s fine. However, if you see they’re talking quite often and only met each other once you started dating–it’s weird. If they’re always texting, calling, and sharing things on social media together, it’s not normal.

#3 He becomes the best boyfriend when your friend is around. Not that he’s a bad boyfriend when your friend isn’t around, but when they are around, he’s an improved version of himself. He does everything you ask, he does his best to make you happy. Weird… why does he do this only when your friend is around? Is he trying to hint something to them? [Read: How guys flirt: 15 subtle things guys do to impress a girl]

#4 He’s always creeping their social media. Okay, we all creep on people’s social media. I mean, that’s why it’s there. It’s the creeping tool. Although, if your boyfriend is always liking their posts and photos, constantly knowing what they’re doing, I have one question. Why? Why do they know all of this about them? And why does he care so much?

#5 He pushes to hang out with your friend. He doesn’t suggest hanging out with your friend once or twice, he’s constantly asking for you to invite them over or spend your weekend all together. If he wants your friend to hang out with you a lot, this could be because he wants to see your friend. Pretty sneaky of him, right?

#6 He doesn’t like any of their partners. If they bring over new dates, your boyfriend doesn’t like any of them. It’s almost as if he’s jealous. You see him getting annoyed and angry after they leave your place. Why does he care about their dating life? Unless… he likes your friend.

#7 He makes references about your friend being his “second partner.” You know how people use the phrase “work wife” or “work husband” to talk about people they connect with who aren’t their partners? Yeah, well, he’s doing the same thing only with your best friend. Sure he could be joking, maybe in hopes of not making your friend feel like a third wheel, but it stings. [Read: 12 unwritten work spouse rules to keep things fun and uncomplicated]

#8 He’s happy when he’s around your friend. Maybe they just get along well and it doesn’t mean anything, but if he’s instantly happy when your friend comes over, something is up. It’s almost like your friend is providing them the happiness they can’t get when being around you. [Read: Love triangles and its confusing complications]

#9 He called you their name. Ouch. Okay, in all honesty, it could be a simple mistake but it depends on the circumstances. If you all hung out and then he mixed up your names, it’s fine. If you are having sex and he calls out their name… not good. I repeat, not good.

#10 He gets to know their family. Well, this one is an odd sign, but it’s something you need to look out for. No guy would be willing to invest time getting to know someone’s family if they didn’t want or have to. He’s interested in getting to know your friend’s family though. Now that is weird.

#11 He’s horny after your friend goes home. After you all hung out for the day, you’re ready to chill on the couch and watch a movie. However, he’s suddenly all over you. And this isn’t something that’s normal in his behavior. It could be that he had a great day and is simply happy. Or your friend is on his mind.

#12 He watches your friend. When you hang out, you catch him staring at her. He doesn’t look at her like he would anyone else. When he looks at your friend, he’s engulfed by them. It’s the type of look you only see when someone is really into another person.

#13 He asks inappropriate questions. He could be testing the waters to see if you and your friend would be interested in having a threesome. Since he’s not stupid, he’ll make a lame joke to see your reactions. This doesn’t mean he likes your friend, but it does mean he may be attracted to them.

#14 He goes the extra step to take care of them. He may offer to drive them home which is really nice, especially if they don’t have a way to get home. It could also mean he wants to spend some alone time with them, and this is his final chance before the night ends. [Read: Cell phone rules every couple should follow to build trust in a relationship]

#15 You feel it. You just have this feeling something isn’t right. Listen, I’m not going to tell you that you’re wrong. It’s your gut feeling. If you feel something is off, follow that instinct. Remember, don’t jump the gun. Gather evidence before you say anything.

[Read: How to stop being taken for granted in your relationship]

What do you think? Have you seen these signs your boyfriend is interested in your friend? If so, it’s about time you and he sat down and had a little chat.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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