16 Signs of a Cheating Husband to Stop Assuming and Find the Truth

You think they’re cheating on you. There’s a difference between thinking and knowing. To learn the truth, look for the signs of a cheating husband.

signs of a cheating husband

When you enter a relationship, you never think your partner is going to cheat. Sure, it may be a fear, but when you love someone, the fear subsides. But what about those niggling doubts that won’t go away? If something is off in your relationship, learn the signs of a cheating husband.

How to tell the signs of a cheating husband

Unfortunately, no one said the person you chose to be with is going to be honest. Even though you may think they are and they tell you they are, you really don’t know.

This is the hardest part of a relationship—you really don’t know what’s going to happen. Sometimes people surprise you. But if you feel something is off with your partner, take a good look at their behavior.

[Read: Getting back with a cheater – Is that even possible?]

But that’s easier said than done. How do you know if your partner is cheating on you? If you’re asking yourself this question, then either you’ve been cheated on before, or you feel something is up. Of course, everyone is different. People cheat in different ways and use their own methods to cover it up.

But there are some common signs that your husband won’t be able to hide, and those are the signs to keep your eyes on. Of course, listen to your gut, but you’re going to need more proof than that. So, here are the common signs of infidelity to watch for.

#1 He spends more time away from home. He used to come home every night for dinner, but now, he’s “working late.” In many cases, he could be working late. But then there are some men that  use it as a lame excuse, thinking we wouldn’t notice. [Read: The 15 glaring signs you’re being cheated on]

#2 He mentions someone new. Recently, he’s started to bring up someone new in conversation. If he’s talking about someone you don’t know, pay attention. Whether it’s a colleague, friend, or co-worker, learn about their relationship. 

#3 He has multiple social media accounts. Unless he’s a famous Instagram influencer, there’s no reason to have multiple accounts. However, many men will have separate accounts. One personal and one for other women. If he’s committed to you, there are no reasons to have multiple accounts.

#4 Late night phone calls. Who else should he be talking to at midnight? The answer is no one. If your partner is going into a different room to speak on the phone or making late-night phone calls, something is going on. He shouldn’t have a problem speaking on the phone in front of you. [Read: The cell phone rules to follow to build trust in your relationship]

#5 Everything has a password. You can’t touch any electronic device without a password. Now, most of us have passwords… that’s not the problem. The problem is when he freaks out if you ask for his password to use his computer or phone. Why freak out? What are you hiding?

#6 He’s angry at you. You had a good relationship but something changed. You can’t put your finger on it, but he’s become angry at you. Almost as if he resents you. And this behavior is because he can’t handle what he’s doing. Instead of telling you, he releases his stress onto you.

#7 He’s changed his appearance. Your man was never into his appearance, but now, he’s making sure he looks his best. What’s with the sudden change? It’s a little odd, right? Men don’t suddenly decide to improve their looks without reason. Something had to inspire them, and while it’s not the biggest sign, it definitely is one of the strong signs of a cheating husband. 

#8 He spends less time with you. You used to have date nights, but those nights have slowly faded away. Instead of spending time with you, he focuses on himself. As a couple, “we time” is crucial. But if he’s thinking about someone else, he’ll distance himself from you. [Read: 13 hints to make a guy realize he’s losing you]

#9 He’s spending more money. You’re not sure what he’s spending money on, but the numbers on your bank statement aren’t lying. If he’s spending money on things he can’t explain, that’s a problem. You may notice him trying to cover it up by purchasing gifts for you. But don’t get sidetracked.

#10 He’s glued to his phone. In today’s world, we’re all glued to our phones. But, with him, it’s different. His phone is heavily protected with passwords: ones you don’t know. And his phone never leaves his sight. He takes it wherever he goes. He can’t risk leaving it unmanned. [Read: Is it possible you are dating a serial cheater?] 

#11 He avoids family events. When it comes to cheating, it affects everyone, family and friends included. Because of guilt, your partner will most likely avoid family events, or he’ll leave early. Because he doesn’t want people to notice anything different, and he probably has other plans.

#12 He thinks you’re crazy. Ah yes, this is an old trick. When you bring up your concerns, instead of talking about it, he deflects the conversation. He tells you that you’re the crazy one, you’re the irrational one. When really, you caught him red-handed. [Read: 14 signs a narcissist is gaslighting and playing mind games with you]

#13 He showers you with gifts. He used to only bring you gifts on special occasions, but now, he’s showering you with gifts every day of the week. Strange, no? If he starts giving you gifts out of the blue, take caution. This is purely a distraction, something to take your mind off what he’s doing.

#14 Lack of sex. You’re sexually attracted to him and would like to have sex with your husband, but he’s not into it. He says he’s not feeling well or tired from work, but that’s unusual for him. If you’ve noticed a switch in your sex life, then that’s a clear sign something is wrong.

#15 He gets defensive. You may have decided to confront him about your feelings, and instead of sitting down with you and talking about it, he is offended. When people suddenly become defensive over a basic conversation, that’s a huge sign they’re scared of you finding it out. [Read: 18 ingenious ways to catch a cheating partner in the act]

#16 You feel it. There’s one thing you should never doubt, and it’s your gut instinct, especially when it comes to reading the signs of a cheating husband. If something inside of you is saying there’s something wrong, that’s because there is. Of course, if it’s paired with some of these signs, then your gut instinct is right. But always confirm your gut instinct with actual evidence.

[Read: Ignore the signs he is cheating on you at your own peril]

Now that you know the signs of a cheating husband, what do you think? After comparing them to your situation, do you think your husband is cheating?

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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