31 Sad Signs He Doesn’t Like You Anymore & Is Losing Interest in You

Your relationship started off great, but now it seems like he doesn’t like you anymore. Here are the signs to look for if you think it might be over.

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There’s nothing worse than a guy who loses interest in you. Did you really like him? Sure… maybe. Even if you don’t like him, you can feel your ego being slowly squeezed. What makes it even worse, is that when you see him distancing himself from you, then you try harder. We’ve all been there. Some are even experts at this when he doesn’t like you anymore.

For example, if a girl sees a guy losing interest in her, she might try even harder by being more attentive, messaging him more, and hanging on for dear life.

But instead of bringing a guy closer and making him like you, that usually makes them run away from you even faster. You don’t have to go through this. In fact, you can be the one to pull out before him.

[Read: Dammit, why doesn’t he like me back? 31 reasons why guys do this]

How to know when he doesn’t like you anymore

Trust us, you don’t have to wait to be dumped. In fact, that’s one of the most humiliating things that you can do… wait around for a guy to end it with you because he can’t stand you anymore.

But then again, sometimes it can be difficult to know if he doesn’t like you anymore. Here are all the signs you need to keep an eye on, if you want to take a step back and prepare yourself.

[Read: 19 ways to pull back in a relationship when you’re giving too much]

1. He doesn’t reply to your texts

This is a classic sign that he doesn’t like you anymore, or at least he’s starting to lose interest in you. Okay, sure, maybe he’s working or has a football game. But if he isn’t replying to your texts for over a day, that’s not because his battery isn’t working.

Some guys try to ghost girls via this method. The best thing you can do is stop double texting him because you’re going to look desperate. [Read: Double texting – What it is, how to avoid it and 15 must-follow rules]

2. Or, if he does, it’s one-worded replies

Or maybe he does reply to you because he feels somewhat guilty. He’s still an asshole, though, so don’t look at this with some hope.

If he replies with “k,” “lol,” “yes,” or “no,” it’s best that you just put your phone down or open your Tinder account. Get someone new – someone fresh.

3. He’s M.I.A.

You were supposed to go to a movie last Friday, but he never messaged you. He was supposed to come over for cookies, but he didn’t show up either – he said he slept through his alarm.

His alarm didn’t go off, or did his phone run out of battery? No. He probably doesn’t like you anymore, and he’s trying to ghost you. [Read: Why is he ignoring me? 22 answers to help you make up your mind]

4. He doesn’t ask you to hang out

He used to ask you to hang out all the time, but now, he hardly messages you. This isn’t because he has new friends, well, unless they’re women. If he isn’t asking to spend time with you, it’s because he’s losing interest and doesn’t want to.

5. He doesn’t care about other men wooing you

You can try to do the whole “I’m going to mention another guy to make him jealous” trick, but if he isn’t reacting at all, well, he doesn’t care about you or the other guy.

In fact, he’s probably happy there’s another guy, that way, he doesn’t have to man up and tell you he’s not interested in you. [Read: Do guys play hard to get? The truth, 21 reasons and what you should do next]

6. He doesn’t update you

When you have a relationship with someone, it’s normal to tell them about your day and what happened.

However, if he stops telling you about his day and the updates going on in his life, you’re becoming less of an important figure in his life. We know it’s hard to accept, but that’s just the case – it’s a sign he’s slowly losing interest and probably doesn’t like you as much anymore. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a really bad boyfriend you need to leave ASAP]

7. He spends more time on the phone when around you

If someone really finds you interesting, they’re not going to be spending time on their phone while around you.

If anything, their phone is tucked away in their pocket, and they’re fully invested in your time together. But if he’s swiping on Tinder and messaging his grandma, well, there ya go.

8. He talks about other women

If he’s talking about other women in front of you, he’s trying to hint to you that he’s interested in other women.

Sure, he could be doing this to make you jealous, but if he’s doing this along with other signs he doesn’t like you anymore, then that’s not the case. He’s trying to hint to you. [Read: Are you being taken for granted? 16 signs he doesn’t care about losing you]

9. He spends more and more time away from you

You used to hang out every Friday night watching movies at your house, but now he goes out with his other friends.

If he really wanted to spend time with you, he wouldn’t give up those moments with you. But he did because he is looking for someone else.

10. Physical contact fades away

If he used to have his arms all over you and now he doesn’t, well, that’s a good sign his arms have been around someone else. And that he doesn’t like you anymore.

You touch people that you’re attracted to – it’s plain and simple. If he’s not touching you like he used to, he doesn’t like you anymore. [Read: How to make him feel guilty for ignoring you and take back the power]

11. He treats you like a friend

This is the worst one. If he’s still hanging around you but simply stopped flirting with you, it’s painfully obvious that you’ve been friend-zoned.

Many people have been in this position. What’s worse is that they are not being honest with you and letting you know how they feel. Instead, they know you like them, and they’re ignoring it.

12. He gets angry at you without reason

Maybe you’re talking to him about some movie you watched or one of your friends, but this isn’t what he wants to hear.

Why? Because he doesn’t care, and listening to you talk is making him frustrated. Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do? You know the feeling. Well, that’s what he’s feeling. [Read: 19 signs he just wants you to leave him alone because he doesn’t care anymore]

13. Your habits annoy him

This happens a lot. Those habits that he used to find cute, or only mildly annoying, are now the worst thing to enter into his life.

He hates how you snort when you laugh, and he can’t stand how you slurp your soup.

Everything about you puts him on edge, and it’s because this is one of the subtle signs he doesn’t like you anymore and is trying to create distance. [Read: Should you break up with your boyfriend? 23 signs you HAVE to end it]

14. No more flirting

Ah yes, flirting is what creates sexual tension and shows the chemistry between you two.

But if he cut out the flirty behavior, then that’s a good sign that he’s trying to build a wall between you two. But really, if he stopped flirting with you, then what’s the point of wasting your time on him?

15. He doesn’t comfort you

Usually, when you’re having a bad day and the guy who likes you sees it, he’d try to make you feel better. Maybe he’ll hug you, buy you lunch, or send you a funny YouTube clip, you know, little things like that.

But, if he’s dodging you like a bullet or blatantly doesn’t care, well, then he doesn’t care. [Read: 16 reasons why your boyfriend’s so damn mean]

16. He doesn’t make you a priority

If he has gone from putting you on top of his priority list to closer to the bottom, then that is one of the signs he doesn’t like you anymore. We make time for things that are important to us, so if he’s doing his own thing before seeing you, then you are not a priority anymore.

17. He makes plans without you

Since you are not his priority, he is probably making plans without you.

Whether it’s going out with a group of friends or taking a weekend getaway, he never asks you to join in. That’s probably because he wants to be single, but he just hasn’t told you yet.

18. He’s not affectionate

When guys aren’t into a girl anymore, they don’t really want to be affectionate. If they’re not feeling it, then it’s difficult for them to act like they do by holding your hand or cuddling with you. It means he is trying to distance himself from you. [Read: How to make a guy want you back – The art of making him miss you all over again]

19. He blows hot and cold

If the guy is nice and seemingly into you one day, but then is cold, distant, and M.I.A. the next, then that’s because he doesn’t like you anymore.

Inconsistency is a big sign that the person is not very interested in you and won’t keep you around for much longer. Or worse, he’s just playing you and using you. He knows you’ll be at his feet with a snap of his fingers, and he likes the attention! [Read: How to tell if a guy is playing you – 40 signs he’s just using you for fun]

20. He won’t compromise

Maybe he used to ask your opinions on what to do on a weekend or meet you halfway. But if he won’t compromise with you anymore, that means he has gotten selfish.

And if he really cared about you, he would consider your feelings, wants, and desires – not just his own.

21. He doesn’t talk about the future

When you first started dating, he would talk about the future with you in it. It could be something simple like going to a concert six months from now, or it could be something big like marriage and children.

If he doesn’t talk about this with you, then he doesn’t see you as part of his life for much longer. [Read: Signs he sees a future with you or not – 30 things to look out for]

22. He doesn’t want to work on the relationship

You know that you have problems, and you even try to talk to him about them. But he seems very uninterested in working things out.

Maybe you even beg and plead for him to compromise and make things better between the two of you. But if he won’t bother to try, it’s because he doesn’t want to.

23. Your gut is telling you something is wrong

Your intuition never lies. So, if it’s screaming to you that something is off and he doesn’t like you anymore, then you need to listen to it. Your intuition is right almost 100% of the time, so don’t ignore these feelings.

24. Too many excuses

If he is coming up with lame excuse after lame excuse for not hanging out with you, then he is trying to avoid you.

We all know the difference between a legitimate excuse and a made-up one. So, if he’s just full of excuses these days, then he doesn’t like you anymore. [Read: 28 signs he wants to break up but is just too scared to say so]

25. Lack of communication

If he’s not talking to you about much of anything anymore, then that is not a good sign. When you like someone, you want to talk and you have good communication about everything under the sky. So, if he’s backing off of talking to you, then the end is near.

26. He’s secretive

When a guy hides his phone or walks to a different room to take a phone call, you know he is up to no good.

If he was really into you, he would be honest with you and have everything out in the open. But if he’s acting sneaky, then he is definitely being secretive about something.

27. He gets angry for no reason

If he seems particularly explosive with his anger for no apparent reason, then that is bad.

For example, if you ask him a simple question such as where is the remote control, he might jump down your throat. This is not an appropriate response to a question like this. [Read: How to tell if your boyfriend is mad at you and 19 things you should do ASAP]

28. He forgets important events

When Christmas, Valentine’s Day, your birthday, or any other important event comes around, he doesn’t even acknowledge it.

No present, no card, no flowers, no… anything. That means he has checked out of the relationship, a clear sign he’s losing interest in you and doesn’t like you anymore.

29. He doesn’t want to go out in public with you

Maybe you suddenly realized that you never leave the house with him. If you suggest going to a restaurant or a bar, he always refuses and prefers to stay home.

For whatever reason, he just doesn’t want to go out in public with you anymore. [Read: Secret relationship – Why would someone want to keep things low key?]

30. He asks for a break

Sometimes when a person wants to break up, they don’t have the courage to say it directly.

Instead, they beat around the bush to try to soften the blow. So, if he’s asked for some space or for a “break” from the relationship, then there’s a chance he doesn’t like you anymore.

31. He tells you

If he isn’t a complete jerk and cares about you, he’ll actually just flat out tell you that he’s not interested. This is pretty rare, as a lot of men are babies. We wish we were joking. If he tells you how he feels then, sure, it’s going to sting. But then you’ll know right away.

[Read: How to break up with someone you love – The breakup conversation]

If he’s exhibiting more than three of these signs, it’s time to start evaluating your relationship with this guy… because he doesn’t like you anymore and is clearly losing interest in you. Don’t wait for him to end it, be the one to dump his ass.

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