Role Reversal: How to Read the Signs a Guy Wants YOU to Chase Him

Are you seeing a few signs a guy wants you to chase him? It seems that two decades into the century, we’re still playing games! Buckle up for a wild ride.

Signs a Guy Wants YOU to Chase Him

You might think that in this age and time, we should be over game-playing in love. Seriously, if I wanted to play games I’d buy a Playstation, not attempt to look for the signs a guy wants you to chase him!

Unfortunately, playing games dates back to the moment when romance was even invented. Because the initial stages of dating are so plagued with uncertainty, we’re all guilty of trying to manipulate a situation to our own liking, probably without even realizing it.

For instance, how many times have you made your social media profile look super-busy, simply because you want someone to wonder what you’re up to and turn up at the same places as you? If that’s not game playing, I don’t know what is!

[Read: The signs you’re wasting your time in a one-sided relationship]

Feeling confused about his intentions?

If you’re in the middle of an ‘are we/aren’t we’ situation with a guy, you will no doubt have come up against a few games of your own. Some guys are forward, making it clear what they want, then chasing you to get it. Other guys are a little more held back. You have to do a little detective work to figure out what’s really going on.

In some ways, you’re not sure whether the guy is shy and scared of relationships, or whether he’s just into game-playing and fancies making you work for it. Either situation isn’t so easy to deal with!

You’re confused because a guy on the edge of being in your life is acting a little in and then out. But maybe he’s showing you a few of the common signs a guy wants you to chase him.

[Read: The 3 stages of blowing hot and cold and why people do this]

Guys tend to do this for two reason. First, they’re not sure if you like them back. They don’t want to be the one to basically put themselves out there and ask. Secondly, they love the thrill of being chased and want you to play along.

The first situation is kind of cute, the second not so much.

Signs a guy wants you to chase him: Is he playing games or not?

So, how can you be sure which side he falls on? Let’s check out some of the common signs a guy wants you to chase him and work out why. [Read: How to recognize the kind of guys who play games with a girl]

#1 He’s always blowing hot and cold. In the words of Katy Perry, “you’re hot then you’re cold, you’re yes then you’re no …” Is this a situation you’re familiar with?

We’re all guilty of doing this from time to time. If a guy in your life seems to be all in one moment and then backs away the next, what are you supposed to think? Confused, that’s what.

Guys who do this are either playing you or genuinely not sure what they want. It could also be that he’s been hurt in the past. While he really likes you and part of him wants to give this thing a try, he’s terrified of history repeating itself. His fear drags him back.

The only way you’re really going to find out is to confront the dude. Ask him what the hell is going on! Tell him “I’m confused, one minute you’re all hot, and the next you’re disappearing or going all cold. Do you like me or not?”

Yes, it takes guts. Let’s be honest, it’s better than being on this roundabout of are we/aren’t we? [Read: How to get a guy to stop playing games with you for good]

#2 He’s told you he likes you, but action is lacking. If he’s told you that he has feelings for you or he likes you, but he’s not doing anything about it, what exactly is he playing at? Good question.

He has told you he likes you means that there is a foundation there, so you’re not really going out on a limb by making the move yourself. If you had no clue if he liked you or not, I’d tell you to be a little more cautious. But, he’s already given you the big news, so rest a little easier on that score.

Personally, I would go for it. If you like him back and unsure why he is completely inactive where his feelings are concerned, this is one of the big signs a guy wants you to chase him. I’d just go for it. If he doesn’t respond, back off and let him figure out what he wants and chase you instead, but make the move; otherwise, you’ll never know. [Read: 15 signs he thinks about you a lot even if he’s playing it cool]

#3 He’s distant with you but also jealous. Why would you be jealous of someone if you didn’t like them in ‘that’ way? Exactly, you wouldn’t! The fact he’s jealous means he can’t stand seeing you with other guys. That is a pretty big tick in the box that he likes you. However, ask yourself why he’s not doing anything about it. Could it be one of the signs a guy wants you to chase him?

I’d say so. In this case, I’d be a little annoyed that he wasn’t doing a bit more of the work. Is he lazy? Possibly so!

Personally, I think if you like someone, you should just tell them and figure it out from there. If he’s trying to make you chase him by not doing anything but clearly showing you the green-eyed monster when anyone else comes near you, call his bluff! Seriously, give him a shove in the right direction and poke that jealous monster – see what happens! [Read: 30 wicked ways to make a guy really jealous and get his attention]

I know, I know, I said I don’t like games, but sometimes lazy guys should be kicked into action!

#4 He makes his move and then goes MIA. This is a hugely annoying, but unfortunately it’s one that can and does happen. Why would a guy make a move, make it very clear that he likes you and then suddenly, poof! He’s disappeared into thin air!

Now, this could be for a good reason. Maybe he’s busy at work, something happened in his family, or he’s ill. Give him a few days. See if you get a text as an explanation. However, any longer than that and I’m afraid he’s showing you one of the signs a guy wants you to chase him! [Read: The definitive signs he is playing you for fun]

Do you want to chase him after he plays with your feelings in such a way? Depends really. If you like him and you’re pretty sure he’s just freaking out because he’s scared of relationships, then fine, figure out what’s going on. But if he’s a guy who loves to play with the affections of others, give him a wide berth! [Read: How to understand the games he playing with you]

#5 He just keeps coming back. Perhaps you’ve tried to make things work with this guy a few times. It just always stalls. However, if this happens and he always comes back, it’s either some kind of karmic connection that’s meant to be followed, or he’s playing games and trying to get you to do the chasing.

What you do is entirely up to you, but remember the reasons why it’s never worked out in the first place!

[Read: How to ignore a guy and get him chasing you]

If you can spot most of these signs a guy wants you to chase him in your current situation, you have a decision to make. What do you want?

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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