Is He Married or Dating Someone Else? 20 Warning Signs To Watch For

So you met this guy, he makes you laugh, and now you’re asking is he married. Don’t worry; other women have asked this too! Keep reading to find out how.

is he married or dating someone else

Every once in a while, you may meet a great guy who’s all that. On a rare occasion, you may find that this guy behaves rather suspiciously. Now is he married or dating someone else, or is he just a guy with a lot of secrets? Either way, that’s not good news for you.

You may not go hunting for a married man, but every now and then, you may find yourself in his arms, when you least expect it. Even when you’ve sworn that you’ll never date a taken or married man, life will always surprise you.

Even if you are the type to stay committed, some men want the best of both worlds. In other words, it’s crucial you find out the answer to, is he married or not, before moving further.

[Read: Having an affair with a married man – My true experience]

Why do taken or married people date others?

It’s not a question of whether he is married, but more about why he’s dating around. You can’t have everything in life, especially not in your dating life. But some people are just either incapable of commitment or long-term relationships and they’d rather see other people behind their partner’s back, even after making a promise to someone else.

It’s a heartbreaking thing to witness this, which is why you should never let yourself fall head-over-heels for someone who’s married or taken. Don’t blame yourself if you find yourself falling head over heels in love with someone who’s dating someone else, or worse, married to someone else! Sometimes, these guys try every trick in the book to hide that fact!

But do blame yourself if you don’t see the gaping signs a guy is married. Especially when your date starts acting suspicious, that’s when you should begin looking for answers to the question of is he married or dating someone else.

Do this for yourself, so you avoid getting in a huge mess later on. Trust us, you’ll thank us for this later on!

What are the signs a guy is married or taken?

While every married man is extremely careful about leaving a trail of breadcrumbs for you, there are always a few subtle signs a guy is married that can give even the best of cheaters away.

So is he dating someone else while pursuing you at the same time? Follow the signs a guy is married. [Read: How to have the perfect start to a new relationship]

1. He pays by cash

Now, this could mean he either has a lot of money on his hands or a built-in atm in his butt. These days, everyone’s way too comfortable using plastic money or apps. And if someone consciously chooses to use cash over every other mode of payment every single time, that’s just way too strange!

If you’re dating a guy who never ever uses a card or his phone app, he’s either got bad credit or doesn’t want another woman to know of his extracurricular activities with you behind her back.

Of course, there could be another reason for this, but if it matches the other signs a guy is married on this list, he might already be taken!

2. The story of his life

Do you know anything about his life? Or does he convince you that he’s a secret agent? A guy who’s married may have several reasons to change the conversation when you ask about the details of his work because he wouldn’t want you visiting him there.

A single guy would be happy to show you off. If he fails to reveal anything about his personal life and worse, is making up stories and they never seem to line up, there’s your answer to whether he is married or dating someone else. You can tell someone’s intentions by what they choose to reveal about themselves.

If a guy is serious, he’ll have the guts to tell you about his life, no matter how uncomfortable and risky it might seem. If all your dates revolve around sexual explorations in bed, he may not really want you to know too much about him, and he may not care to know you better. [Read: 15 signs a guy just wants sex and is only using you for his enjoyment]

3. Have you ever met his friends?

You’re a great chick. Any guy would want to flaunt you in his arms. So has he introduced you to his friends after the first few dates? If he’s treating you like a well-kept secret, perhaps his intentions are to keep it that way.

Just like the previous sign, his intentions are reflected by his ability *or inability* to introduce you to his friends. If he always comes up with an excuse each time, he doesn’t want you to find out that he’s married or taken. [Read: The secret relationship – Why would someone want to keep things low key only]

4. Those happy, happy dates

How does he behave with you when you both go out to a burger joint or a coffee shop? Does he put on his high performance vision goggles and scan the room now and then?

If a guy constantly looks around like something’s bothering him when he’s on a date with you in a public place, he’s obviously scared to be seen in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong chick. A guy with honest intentions will never feel anxious to be seen in public around you.

Also, watch how he asks if you can just go somewhere private. This is okay a few times but if private settings are all he prefers for all dates, clearly something fishy is going on! He just wants to avoid you finding out that he secretly has a wife or girlfriend.

5. Those lonely, affectionate dates

As distant as he may have seemed in a public place, does he flip on the reverse switch when he’s in a beautiful, romantic plush restaurant that’s all lonely and romantic?

If a guy who doesn’t want to touch you with a barge pole in public suddenly becomes a passionate Don Juan wannabe in isolation, he’s either got a split personality or another woman back at home.

Clearly, he has an agenda, and he’ll only give you the affection you require when you’re both alone. Either he has a significant issue with PDA, or he’s hiding a secret from you!

6. Those interrupting phone calls

Does the man of the moment avoid answering phone calls when he’s with you? Ooh, that’s sweet, isn’t it? Add ‘totally romantic’ and ‘very considerate guy’ into your list of good things about him. But if his phone rings again and this time, he walks out of your earshot to whisper into the phone, add ‘possible cheater’ to that list too.

If he acts highly suspicious every time you’re with each other, this could answer your question of is he married or not. Unless he’s a secret agent or you’re in a noisy environment, he shouldn’t be acting unusual with his phone calls when you’re just hanging out. [Read: Is he cheating? 21 unintentional behaviors he just can’t hide]

7. His phone conversations with you

Most cheating husbands and boyfriends suffer from temporary amnesia when it comes to remembering that they can answer calls when they’re home, especially when they’re having a little fling thing with a woman like you. What about his speaking habits? Does he behave normally when you call him at odd or random hours?

Does he even answer your call? Or does he respond and speak with you like it’s a business call? If he’s very inconsistent in the way he speaks to you over the phone, watch his intentions towards you.

A serious guy would want to hear your voice and would very much be delighted by it. But if he’s married or taken, it’s just a significant inconvenience for him.

8. Hanging out in the hood

If he loves hanging out at your place all the time, but never invites you back home, he’s hiding something. Single guys love inviting dates over to their place. It brings him closer to getting another notch on his bedpost. This is an evident red flag, especially when you’re questioning is he married or dating someone else.

Especially if you’ve been dating for months and he’s never gotten around to bringing you over to his place, he’s clearly hiding something from you. Maybe it’s because he’s sharing his bed with someone else and doesn’t want you to know all about it. [Read: A guy with a girlfriend likes you – Now what?!]

9. His single status

When you talk to him about his single status, does he respond convincingly? Every single guy either knows how to cook a great meal or knows all his favorite restaurants in his neighborhood. If he can’t rattle off a long list of places to eat and places where he gets his laundry done, he’s obviously making up a few things. Like his single status!

Anxiety is a common theme for all taken guys and even if he tries his best to hide it, there are evident signs a guy is married that’ll show out of him. If you ask him about past relationships or how being single has been like, watch him tell you one lie after another.

10. Patterns in his travel plans

Many married guys who are working in one state may have their wives and kids in another state. Now when he’s got all the time in the world, he wouldn’t have any problem playing the dating game and being the protective family man now and then.

Does he have a very rigid travel plan, like him going away for one weekend every two weeks or something like that? If he’s divorced and travels to see his kids, this may seem like a valid reason. But can you contact him at any time you want to when he travels away, or does he have fixed slots for your call?

And if he’s really into you, perhaps, you could accompany him some time to his hometown. If he does feel awkward about you meeting his kids, then you could tag a friend along and spend the weekend with your friend and catch up for lunch with your boyfriend in the neighborhood restaurant.

Sounds simple, but it won’t seem so simple if he’s happily married and not divorced. [Read: Sleeping with a married man – 10 things most women don’t even consider or realize]

11. His reaction to spontaneous dates

How does he behave when you plan a few spontaneous dates with him? Does he look horrified or does he shuffle his feet and squirm as he makes up an impromptu excuse? Taken or married men are scared of unplanned dates and spontaneous plans.

So if you’re asking is he married or dating someone else, watch how his palms sweat or he fidgets around when you take him on a surprise trip!

Observe how he secretly calls or texts his partner or wife the minute he finds out you planned a spontaneous trip for the both of you. Probably to come up with some lame excuse why he’ll be home late “from work.” [Read: How to steal a guy from his girlfriend]

12. He wants you, baby, and he wants you now!

Every guy who’s looking for a quick fling or an affair will always sweet talk you, convince you, and ever coerce you into getting physical with him at the earliest. Think of it from his perspective, he knows any woman he dates will start to doubt him soon enough, so it’s always better to have sex as soon as possible.

This is often why you’ll see him speeding through the stages of dating and immediately get you into bed. You might believe he’s confident at first, but it’s just him using his best moves because he doesn’t want you to see right through him.

When you’re wondering is he married or not, tell him you want to take things slow, and watch his reaction. [Read: 15 signs a married man is attracted to you and why you need to run for the hills]

13. He doesn’t save you under your name or pet name

When a man is married or taken, he’ll never want to keep your name under your actual name or pet name. Of course, he won’t do that, just in case you call or text him, and his wife or girlfriend gets suspicious. He might save your name under a guy’s name or something less obvious like “Kate from Work”.

14. He doesn’t reveal even the basic stuff

Unless he’s a secret agent, he shouldn’t be afraid to tell you the basic things such as his full name, line of work, where he works, or about his family.

He doesn’t give you anything, and he passes it off as “you’re still getting to know each other.” Even as months pass and you still haven’t gotten anything, that’s when you can know he’s taken or married.

15. He doesn’t give you his number

Social media is such a funny and ironic thing cheaters love using. So if he never gives you his number and communicates with you via Snapchat or other social apps only, you’re definitely the side chick. It’s pretty convenient, come to think about it, especially with Snapchat’s vanishing feature the minute one of you sees what the other sent.

So he could send you something explicit, and there’d be no proof once you’ve seen it. Snapchat is the best place to be when you’re either taken or married, too!

16. You’re just a booty call

You might be questioning is he married or dating someone. If this is the case, watch the frequency of when you meet up and when he contacts you. Does he only communicate beyond midnight to you, and it’s just for sexual reasons? Do you only meet up at night or when it’s most convenient for him?

Does he never put a label on your relationship, even when it’s been months? You’re definitely just a side chick. He does this because his wife or girlfriend shouldn’t find out about you, so it’s always at the most unusual hours you meet up or communicate. [Read: How to walk away from being a side chick and be someone’s #1 instead]

17. There’s a sign of a ring

Even if you take off a wedding band, a ring will show signs a guy is married even when you’ve removed it. Everyone knows this, so it’s pretty naive of him to think he can hide this.

Especially when you’re being intimate with one another, observe how his index finger hints at signs of a wedding band that he removes just before hanging out with you, either with a tan line around it or a deeper natural groove where the ring should be. This is something you can’t possibly miss, especially when you’re holding hands together.

18. He doesn’t talk of commitment

If you’re asking is he married or dating someone, watch how he reacts when you mention commitment. If he’s taken, he’ll run even just by hearing the term.

So if he constantly deflects, he might just be interested in a casual relationship, or he might be married. Either way, this isn’t a guy you want to fall in love with.

[Read: 20 signs a married man is in love with you & wants something more]

19. He hates hickies or scratches

When you’re making love passionately, sometimes, you can’t help but leave a hickey on his chest or neck. We’re not all teenagers, but it does happen. And likewise, sometimes you may claw his back just a little deeper with your nails as you make love and run your hands against his back.

So how does he react – either instantly or after he notices it? Does he stop you immediately, or push you away, or worse, get really annoyed with you for the rest of the evening? Now, why should it matter, unless he’s hiding you from someone else who’s more solid and real in his life?

20. He can’t perform spontaneously

When a man’s hopping between different beds on the same evening, it’s not always easy to get up, get hard and perform like a star all in the span of a few hours.

How does your new man behave when you initiate spontaneous sex? Is he always ready for it? Or does he use a silly excuse now and then like a fake headache or that his mind is too wired to focus on sex? [Read: 14 signs you’re only his side chick when you believe you’re the main one]

So, is he married or dating someone else?

The signs a guy is married are more obvious than you think, as it’s easy to spot the signs when you’re falling for someone taken or married. Especially when they give you a solid reason to doubt their intentions and they’re always sneaking around, they might be married or taken.

[Read: The secret relationship – Honest reasons why someone would want to keep you low-key]

So is he married or dating someone else? Observe these signs mentioned jere. If you can relate to the majority of these signs, there’s your answer.

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