Have you been dating someone special but you’re not sure where you stand? You might be wondering ‘does he like me.’ Here’s how to know.
When you like someone, it’s easy to start dreaming of a grand future. But, wondering ‘does he like me?’ will just drive you crazy. Basically, you need an answer to calm the confusion in your mind.
Now, you might think it’s impossible to know unless you ask him, but there’s an easier and less stressful way to find out. Look for the right signs, even if they’re subtle.
Almost always, it’s extremely easy to find out if a guy likes you. All you need to watch out for is the way he behaves around you. On the other hand, if you’re crushing on a shy guy and want to know if he’s interested in you, you just need to give him the right opportunities to express his mind. [Read: 50 cute things to say to your crush and make them feel special]
Does he like me? Decoding a guy’s mind through his behavior and words
Reading a guy’s body language and the small signs he throws your way can reveal whether he really likes you, or if he’s just bored and having a bit of fun to pass the time.
The next time you bump into him, sit near or walk past him, pay close attention to his behavior. In all probability, you’ll have your answer in no time.
If the big ‘does he like me’ question rings in your mind all day and the suspense eats away at you, use these signs to read his mind. [Read: Male body language – 48 subtle signs to instantly read a man’s thoughts]
1. He changes instantly
If a guy likes you or is interested in impressing you, his behavior will change almost instantly as soon as he sees that you’re around.
If he’s laughing, he’ll suddenly sober down. Or if he’s sitting quietly, he may get loud or try to be the center of attention among his friends. [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read his mind]
2. You catch his eye
When a guy likes you, he’ll always watch you from far away, especially when you’re with your own friends and oblivious to anyone else who’s around.
If you’re laughing at a joke, turn around quickly and catch his eye immediately. You may just find him staring at you with a big smile plastered on his face because he’s probably laughing with you in his mind.
3. The final glance
If you’re wondering, does he like me, watch out for this subtle sign. Does he make eye contact with you just before he steps out of a room, no matter how occupied he is or who he’s with?
Big chances are, he wants to take one last look at you, and he’s secretly hoping you’re looking at him too so he can lock eyes with you, even if it’s just for one more second. [Read: 20 clear signs of attraction in a first conversation]
4. He faces you
No matter where you sit down at an event or a gathering, you’ll always find him positioning himself in a way that gives him a chance to stare at you directly without craning his neck.
He may sit down facing you, or sit away from you at an angle, but no matter where he sits, you’ll see that he always has a clear view of you.
5. He shows off a lot
He indulges in antics or does something funny when you’re around him. And he always looks at you first to see your reaction. It doesn’t matter if he’s playing a game, pulling a friend’s leg, or just hanging out in the cafeteria.
If he does something eye-catching or worth a look, he’ll look for a sign to know that you noticed him in his moment of glory. [Read: 30 alpha male characteristics that make you a real alpha]
6. He tries to get closer to you
When a guy likes you, he’ll want to be in close proximity to you even if he doesn’t exchange a word with you. Does he stand next to you in an elevator? Does he walk closely past you even if there’s a lot of space around?
He’s probably dying inside and hoping to hold you in his arms one day. [Read: 33 fun and sexy ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]
7. It’s not just glancing, you catch him staring a lot
Do you find this guy staring at you constantly? Or does he look away quickly as soon as you turn your head in his direction? These signs are big giveaways that show that a guy is interested in you.
8. He gets annoyed
If you want to know if a guy likes you, try flirting with another guy when this guy is around. If he truly likes you, he may get annoyed watching you talking sweetly with another guy. And at times, he may even walk away. [Read: How to make a guy jealous – 20 wicked ways to win his attention]
9. He loves a surprise
Does the guy’s face light up with a happy grin as soon as he sees you out of the blue?
If a guy likes you and suddenly sees you when he least expects to see you, he’ll involuntarily smile widely to himself. So if you’re wondering, does he like me, all you need to do is watch his expression to read the signs.
10. He tries to smooth talk you
The way he speaks with you is different from the way he speaks to others. When a guy likes you, he’ll speak more boldly with you or seem more interested in what you have to say.
He uses a deeper voice to show off his masculinity even if he’s only asking you to pass the ketchup! [Read: How to talk to a guy – 34 secrets to sweet talk and and make him like you]
11. He’s being teased by his friends
This is a completely obvious giveaway and an obvious sign to find out if a guy is smitten by you already. When you walk into the same room where he’s hanging out with his friends, keep your eyes peeled and watch the behavior of his friends.
If his friends glance towards him, punch him in the arm, or even smile at him, he’s probably getting teased by his friends because you’re around.
12. He stands tall
When a guy likes a girl, he’ll want to show off his best side to the girl. Does the guy stand up straight or stiffen up when you walk past him?
He’s probably instinctively trying to show off his best physical assets to you with the hope of impressing you. [Read: The male body language and 48 subtle clues to read what he’s thinking]
13. He subconsciously copies your movements
If you’re sitting across from a guy you like, you’ll instinctively copy his behavior without even realizing it. So, if he sits back, you sit back. If he takes a sip of water, so will you.
It’s the same way with guys too. When a guy likes you, he’ll start to copy your behavior, and he won’t even realize he’s doing it.
14. The sexy grimace
When a guy stares at you and likes you, his intention isn’t just to get an eyeful of you. He also wants to impress you with his intense, sexual gaze. When the guy stares at you, take a quick glance at him to read his body language.
If he rubs his chin or his face slowly, or if he clenches his jaws and stares at you with a macho expression, the chances are, he’s trying to *look cool* for you! [Read: 13 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]
15. He’s constantly groomed
Does this guy look like he’s groomed himself just moments before you walk into the room?
If a guy’s constantly worried about his appearance or tries to be on his best behavior each time you’re around, he’s definitely trying to make a good impression on you.
16. He asks about you
When a guy likes a girl, he can’t help but try to find out more about her by asking around. Have any of your friends told you that a guy was asking about you or trying to know more about you? You’ve hit the nail here.
This guy is surely smitten by you, and wants to get to know you in a more-than-just-friends kind of way. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and sexy flirting tips to make any guy like you]
17. You bump into him often
Bumping into someone you know now and then could be a matter of sheer coincidence. But what would you feel if you keep bumping into the same guy in different places all the time?
It could be fate arm twisting you into getting to know him. Or the timid guy is keeping an eye on you and waiting for the perfect opportunity to walk up to you and say ‘hello.’
18. He comes out and tells you
If you’re wondering, does he like me, well, this is the easiest way to find out how he feels about you. He’ll just tell you. If you’re blessed with this, well, then the rest is easy from there.
Of course, many guys are scared of rejection, so you’ll probably need to continue reading. [Read: How to tell if a guy is into you – 22 hints he just can’t hide]
19. He stares at your mouth
There’s something called the ‘flirting triangle.’ No, it’s not where ships disappear but rather where the guy looks at you.
If you notice his eyes staring at your eyes, and then your mouth, and repeats the cycle, well, he’s doing the flirting triangle. He’s interested in more than what you’re blabbing about. He wants to kiss you. [Read: 23 signs he wants to kiss you and how to tell when he’s going to try it]
20. The full body scan
Usually, one of the clearest signs he likes you is when he scans you from the bottom up. Men are very visual and by scanning you, they’re checking you out. If they continue to scan you, they can’t get enough of your body.
21. He peacocks when you’re around
When they’re interested in a woman, men always try to act like the alpha male. We like to call it ‘peacocking.’
They have to show you that they’re the better option than the rest of the guys out there. So, if he’s trying to show you that he’s a “man,” then he’s into you. [Read: What is peacocking? The many types and why guys show off around girls]
22. He listens
There are guys that will just say, “yes” to everything you say, but if he remembers small details of stories you’ve told, he’s been listening. And what does that mean, ladies? He likes you.
Men don’t like to waste their time listening to people they’re not interested in.
23. He asks questions
He wants to know everything about you. Where you went to school, how many siblings you have, and he’s not asking you these questions because he has to. He’s asking you because he wants to know more about you.
If he’s taking the time to get to know you on a personal level, he likes you. [Read: 60 get to know you questions for a new romance]
24. He’s different around you
If he’s completely different around you and his friends, that may be the answer to your question, does he like me. He could be more talkative or quiet around you, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that he’s not acting 100% natural around you because he’s trying to impress you.
25. He leans in
Maybe your story is really interesting. It probably isn’t, but never mind, the guy is leaning into you like everything you say is fascinating.
If he’s leaning in, he’s trying to show you he’s attentive and interested. If he’s leaning back, it doesn’t mean he dislikes you – maybe you ate garlic.
26. He pays
Friends don’t pay for friends. If a guy likes you, he’ll pay for your drink or dinner. It’s more of a pride thing, he wants to show you that he can take care of you. So, if the guy pays–he likes you. [Read: 25 surefire signs a guy really likes you]
27. He can’t stop his smile
Is he always smiling around you? Even when you’re not talking? The guy is literally glowing from the inside out. Maybe it’s the shot of vodka you two just had, but we bet it’s because you’re beside him.
28. He completely ignores you
Okay, this one is annoying, but sometimes, guys think it’s a good idea to ignore the girl so that she comes to him instead. He could also be ignoring you because he doesn’t actually like you, but if there are other signs with this one, then probably not.
But seriously, if he’s doing this because he likes you, he’s immature. [Read: How guys flirt – 25 subtle things guys do to impress a girl]
29. He’s protective of you
He walks you to your front door or asks you to text him that you’re safe. He could just be a gentleman, however, usually, friends wouldn’t take it to that level. If he’s protective over you, it’s because he cares about you.
30. Jealousy
Other guys are checking you out, and you see him seething with jealousy. If he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t care if a guy was hitting on you or asking you out for dinner. Why be jealous? He would be happy.
So, if he’s jealous, he has feelings for you. [Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship and learn to overcome it]
31. He teases you
You know the old saying, if a boy teases you, he likes you. Well, it’s kinda true. If a boy teases you, it’s most likely that he’s trying to cover his feelings for you.
Try to turn this teasing into flirting if you want to move things forward.
32. He starts the conversation
He has no problem coming up to you to talk or sending you a good morning text. By him taking initiative, he’s showing that he’s interested in you.
If you’re the one starting every conversation, it’s probably a one-sided relationship. [Read: Dumb things we do in the name of that four letter word: LOVE]
33. He often compliments you
It’s normal if men compliment women. However, in this case, he notices the small changes you make. Maybe you colored your hair a shade darker – if he likes you, he notices.
34. He doesn’t look at his phone
You may be wondering if he even has any friends. He does and his phone probably has a list of missed calls and texts. But it doesn’t matter, those things can wait, because he’s with you.
If he’s not pulling his phone out every five minutes, he’s interested in spending time with you. [Read: How to be present – The guide to find your zone of calm perfection]
35. He’s planning ahead
“Oh, we have to go there” or “ Let’s try this out sometime,” yeah, he’s not saying those things to lead you on. He’s using these lines because he’s planning ahead of time.
He sees you in his future. [Read: Is he attracted to you? 16 giveaways to watch out for]
36. You’re number one
He should be studying for an exam, but instead, he’s out for coffee with you. He could have gone to the bar with his friends but wanted to watch a movie with you instead. He’s making you a priority.
He has other things to do, believe us, but you’re more important.
37. He touches you
Unless you’re really good friends, men don’t usually go out of their way to touch a woman, especially if they don’t like her. So, if he’s into you, he may hug you frequently or put his arm around you casually.
But, don’t take that so lightly, he wouldn’t lay a hand on you unless he liked you. [Read: When a guy touches you on a body part – How to decode his intentions]
38. He does what you like
If he finds out you’re into jazz or you like watching figure skating, he may suggest that he keeps you company.
He may hate jazz, but if you’re going he’ll sit through whatever he has to, just as long as you’re there.
39. He texts a lot
If you just hung out with him and he’s texting you right after you left, he’s into you. Though you may have gone home, he’s not done having a good time with you. If you’re staying up till 3am texting, he’s into you.
40. He doesn’t mention other women
If he wanted you to get the hint that he doesn’t like you, he would talk about other women. However, if he never mentions another girl, that’s because he doesn’t want you to think there’s anyone else. [Read: Does my guy friend like me? 15 signs he’s crushing on you]
41. He suggests a one-on-one
If he only wants to hang out with you in a group, he’s avoiding one-on-one contact which is not a good sign. But, if he’s asking to hang out with only you, well, this is a no-brainer and gives you the answer to your question – does he like me!
No guy would spend one-on-one time with a girl they’re not interested in.
42. He makes a beeline for you
When you are in the same room together, does he approach you right away? This is because he can’t wait to talk to you and wants to spend as much time in your company as he possibly can. [Read: 27 signs he likes you as more than a friend and wants to date you]
43. He seems kind of strange whenever you are with him
Believe it or not, guys can get themselves all worked up about a girl they like too! If he starts acting differently whenever you hang out, it’s probably because he is trying to make himself seem more attractive.
Does he get louder and start showing off and making jokes, or does he go all nervous, quiet and shy? Keep a lookout, and if you find your crush’s behavior changing, it probably means you’re having a serious effect on him! [Read: How do I know if he likes me if he won’t talk to me?]
44. He buys you a drink
Simple but effective. If a guy asks you if you’d like a drink, it’s because he wants to show you that he’s chivalrous.
If you like him, make sure you say yes! This might seem like an obvious one for telling if a guy is into you, but it’s usually true.
45. He asks you for your number… and then calls you
If a guy asks for your number, it’s a surefire way to know that he is interested in you. He obviously wants to keep that connection going and hopefully meet up with you again.
Of course, there are some guys out there who take those digits and then disappear into the night. So if he calls or texts you, then you’re on to a good thing for sure! [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]
46. He wants to be social media buddies
If he’s adding you on Facebook and following you on Instagram, that is a really great sign. He is clearly interested enough in you to want to get to know you better, to find out more about you, and daydream about you while checking out your profile pictures!
It also shows that he has nothing to hide.
47. He asks if you have a boyfriend
No, he isn’t just nosy! He wants to find out if you are free and single! Duh! [Read: 33 sweet signs a guy really likes you but is scared and afraid of rejection]
48. He gets all fidgety
Another telltale sign of nerves here – if the guy is getting all twitchy around you, it’s probably because he thinks you are pretty dreamy, and you’re making his stomach go all fluttery!
49. He acts all macho
If the guy you have a crush on suddenly goes all alpha male all the time when you are around, it is probably his way of showing off. He wants you to see him as manly and protective. This is his way of doing that, even if it might actually make him look like a bit of a doofus.
50. He remembers the little things
That movie you said you wanted to see – he gets tickets for it. Your favorite restaurant – he’s taking you to it. That random necklace you mentioned you liked weeks ago – he bought it for you.
This guy is paying attention to everything you say and going all out to impress! [Read: Does he like you as more than a friend?]
51. He arrives early and stays late
Whatever you have asked him to do, whether it’s a dinner date or helping you out with a project, he always gets there before you and stays after everyone else has gone home.
He clearly wants to spend as much time getting to know you as he possibly can. Awwww. [Read: 40 things guys say when they like you and actions that mean a lot more]
52. He goes quiet
When a guy is into you, he may shut down. We know this doesn’t help his case, but he may just be quiet because he doesn’t know what to say. If you like him back, give him some time and help him feel comfortable around you.
53. He compromises
Even if he doesn’t like the movies you like or the food you like, instead of arguing to get his way, he will meet you halfway or give in, so you’re happy.
Maybe he isn’t into sushi but is more than happy to go to your favorite sushi spot just to see you smile. When a guy does this, it’s a great sign he is into you. [Read: Compromise in a relationship – 17 ways to give and not feel like you lost]
54. He’s all over your social media
Not only does he follow you on social media, but he likes all your posts, watches all your stories, and maybe even comments. If he is sending you memes and tagging you in funny videos, he is totally into you.
He wouldn’t be thinking of you when mindlessly scrolling through his feed if he didn’t like you.
55. He stumbles over his words and gets sweaty palms
Just like you, when a guy is into you, he gets nervous. He may get flustered or stumble over his words. Or he may talk too fast.
There are so many signs of nervousness, from sweating to clammy hands and even gas. If he shows these signs, he is probably into you. [Read: Signs of anxiety – How to read the signs ASAP and handle them better]
56. You feel it
Sometimes you just know. A woman’s intuition is nothing to ignore.
57. His friend says so
Has a guy ever come up to you in a bar and told you his friend over yonder thinks you’re attractive? If so, that is a definite sign he’s into you.
Guys sometimes send their friends to do their dirty work. [Read: 23 signs your friend has a crush on you]
58. He compliments your interests
It’s one thing for a man to compliment your appearance, but if he says you have great taste in music, movies, or hobbies, he’s really into you.
If he wasn’t, he wouldn’t bother wasting time trying to find out what you like, let alone compliment you on it.
59. He ignores other people when you’re around
It’s really easy to tell who’s into you when you’re in a group setting. If he sees you walk into the room and leaves anyone he’s talking to, just to come find you, he really wants you.
Trust us, no guy will leave his buddies to talk to a girl if they’re not interested in them. [Read: 35 cute signs of attraction from a guy who’s clearly falling for you]
60. He’s on his best behavior
When you’re hanging out with him in a group with his friends and they’re all making crude jokes, and you notice he’s being quiet and just laughing along, he’s into you. He doesn’t want to do or say anything that might offend you—in any way.
61. He laughs at all your jokes
Your jokes aren’t all funny—especially if you’re just not a funny person in general. But if he laughs at most of the things you say that aren’t even all that funny, he is thinking about asking you out.
62. He divulges intimate details about his life
No guy is going to tell his deepest darkest secrets to just anybody. When guys tell you personal information about themselves, it’s because they like and trust you. [Try: How to get your man to open up]
63. He raises his eyebrows when talking to you
It’s a proven scientific fact that a person raises their eyebrows when they’re interested in what you have to say. So watch his facial expressions the next time you’re talking to him. [Read: The very obvious flirting signs between a guy and girl]
64. He sits with his legs wide open
This symptom of interest is far more scientific than the others. When a male likes you, his primal instincts tell him to show off his best “assets.” And human nature tells us that his crotch is apparently what us women want to see.
We’ll leave you to decide whether you agree with that one or not!
65. He does the plan making
If he’s initiating when you’ll see each other next, where you’re going, and what you’re doing, he likes you. No guy goes to all that trouble for no reason.
66. He always seems cheery around you
He’s going to be in a good mood around you if he has feelings for you. So if you find yourself telling him that he’s “always happy,” it’s because he’s into you. [Check out: The big secrets to a perfectly happy relationship]
67. He tickles you
Tickling indicates that he wants to touch you, hear your laugh, and see that adorable smile you’ve got. All of which are huge signs he’s into you.
Of course, this one is likely to only be the case if he knows you well enough to actually touch you in that way. Otherwise, it’s just creepy and a little inappropriate.
68. He asks about your day
Guys aren’t really ones for small talk. But if he’s asking you about how your day has been, he wants excuses to hear from you—and maybe he really does care!
69. He asks personal questions
When a guy is just being polite, he’ll ask surface questions, like “what’s your job,” “where are you from,” etc. But if he’s into you, he’ll delve deeper into your personal information. [Next, read: How to tell if a guy likes you and 75 HUGE signs you just can’t miss]
70. You feel you can be yourself around him
The thing about having a crush is that you never feel comfortable around him; you’re always nervous. But with this guy, you feel yourself.
You can laugh, be goofy, and just have a good time. This is a huge sign that he’s into you because he’s going out of his way to make you comfortable. [Read: The signs he’s ready for a relationship with you and signs he’s not]
71. You’ve met his friends
Meeting his friends is a big deal. No guy will purposely introduce you to their friends if you’re just a fling. This guy wants his friends to meet you, and it’s no small gesture.
This is the final move before things get a little more serious.
72. He’s asked you about your feelings toward relationships
He’s had “the talk” with you and wanted to know how you feel about being in an exclusive relationship and if you’re ready for it. Well, if you’re still wondering if he likes you, you need to get your ears checked. [Read: The clear signs he’s ready for a relationship with you]
73. He doesn’t send you booty call texts
If a guy only texts you at night to see if “you up?” then he’s looking for a booty call. But is this guy texting you during the day and staying in touch all the time? If so, there’s more to this interaction than just sex.
74. He’s keen to help when you ask
A guy who is into you will jump at the chance to help you with something. But, he won’t assume you need help.
If you say you need help moving or that the copy machine is busted, he will help without complaint, but he won’t just take control if you don’t need it. [Read: How to get a shy guy to feel courageous and ask you out]
75. He encourages you
A guy who is into you wants you to be happy. If you mention you’ve always wanted to go skydiving and you get the opportunity, he will encourage you to do it.
A guy who isn’t into you will apply his own agenda.
76. He lets you know his future plans
It’s not that he’s about to drop down onto one knee and propose, but he’s gently letting you know what he wants in his future. That’s simply because he’d quite like you to be a part of it. [Read: The most important life questions to help you visualize your future]
77. He offers to buy you things
If you’re out and you see a cupcake you think is cute, he offers to get it for you. He’s not being presumptuous or flash here, he simply wants to treat you because it makes you smile. That’s one of the best ways to answer the question of ‘is he into you?’
78. He treats your belongings with respect
Put simply, he treats you, your belongings, and anything connected to you, with the utmost respect. He’s on his best behavior and he wants you to know it.
79. His friends try to leave the two of you alone
He’s no doubt told his buddies that he likes you, and they’re doing their best to give him the space he needs to woo you! If you’re all out together and suddenly you find that you’re alone, it’s probably because they’ve strategically moved away! [Read: 40 secret signs a friend likes you romantically even if they’re hiding it]
80. His actions match his words
He wants you to know that you can depend on him. When he tells you he’s going to do something, he does it. He doesn’t let you down or leave you wondering.
That’s how to tell if a guy is into you – he’s keen for you to know he’ll always be there for you.
81. He makes time for you, even if he’s tired
He could be dog tired, but he’ll still sit and talk to you on the phone for a while or help you when you ask. He doesn’t want to refuse because he’s worried you’ll take it the wrong way.
Plus, he just wants to be around you, tired or not. [Read: Does he or doesn’t he see a future with you?]
82. He drunk dials you
This is not a booty call, it’s completely different. If he’s drunk, he calls you. Why? Because when we’re drunk, our walls are down, and we act on our emotions.
You’re on his mind whether he’s drunk or sober, but when he’s had a few drinks, he can’t stop himself from reaching out.
83. He defends you when someone insults you
He’s not going to sit around and let someone talk trash about you. He’ll stand up for you and let them know that they’re out of order.
Of course, you don’t want him fighting for you, but it’s probably not out of the question, depending on what the person has said. [Read: Key differences – Protective boyfriend or controlling boyfriend?]
84. He takes care of you when you’re not feeling well
He might bring you some chicken soup or your favorite cookie. Either way, he’ll do what he can to make you feel better and comfort you when you’re sick.
85. Hugs last just a fraction longer than they should
A regular, platonic hug lasts just a couple of seconds and that it’s. However, one of the signs he’s into you is that hugs last just a little longer. You can feel it; it’s like he doesn’t want to let go.
86. He takes a deep breath when he sees you
You might notice him taking a quick, deep breath. This is a subconscious thing because it makes his shoulders look broader and his waist smaller. Evolution tells us this is apparently an attractive thing to women. [Read: Science of attraction – 17 things that are far more sexy than looks]
87. His voice changes into a slower, sweeter tone
He’s relaxed around you and he feels able to let his guard down. This is likely to happen after a few flirting sessions and once he’s got to know you better.
He’s over the deep voice, peacocking behavior and now he’s chilling. He feels comfortable around you. [Read: Attraction theory – what makes you desirable in someone’s eyes?]
Signs he’s pretending not to like you (but really does)
Are you still wondering does he like you? You should have a pretty clear idea by now but there are some situations in which a guy tries to hide his feelings. You can usually tell by checking these common signs.
if you’re noticing these, it’s likely that he’s crushing on you but trying his best to hide it. Only he knows why!
1. He starts talking to you and then pretends it was a joke
He starts to talk and you’re getting crush vibes, but then he changes tactics and pretends he was joking. Confused? you will be. [Read: 22 signs he is fighting his feelings for you and holding himself back]
2. He acts causal but often slips up
Do you notice small gaps in his behavior? Maybe he’s acting casual and aloof but then he slips up. These slip-ups seem to be happening more and more often.
If you’re still wondering does he like you, it’s likely that he does and he’s hiding it.
3. He seems sad or resigned around you
Sometimes guys assume that they’re not good enough for a girl and it makes them feel sad. Of course, he’s probably a great guy and more than up to the task, but he doesn’t feel that way. His self-confidence is dragging him down.
Does he like you? Probably, but you need to show him that you think he’s great before he will open up. [Read: How to build self-confidence]
4. He’s overly cautious around you
If you feel like he’s got a big wall up around himself whenever you’re around, it’s probably because he’s trying not to show how he really feels. Our emotions have a habit of making themselves known if we’re not careful.
5. He’s curious about your dating history but never talks about his
Either he doesn’t have a dating history or he’s trying to show you that he’s available without saying it. If he’s quite curious about yours however, ask yourself why.
If he didn’t care, he wouldn’t want to know, right? [Read: How to talk about a past relationship]
6. He’s always around but acts like its no big deal
A guy isn’t going to always be around you if he doesn’t like you. Why would he waste his time? He could easily be around other girls!
If he’s always around but then acts like it’s no big deal, it’s because he’s doing his best to act casual.
7. He says you’re friends but never talks about other women
If you’re friends, you’re going to share stories about your dating trials and tribulations. If you hear zero news about the women in his life, it’s because there aren’t any.
Does he like you? Probably! [Read: Love your best friend? Why it’s best to back away right now]
8. He jokes about dating you
If he does this, he’s either cruel or he’s not joking at all.
9. His friends don’t hit on you
If his friends seem to be treating you like their sister and showing super-respect, it’s because they’ve been warned off. In this case, does he like you? Hell yes!
10. He blows hot and cold
If he gives you metaphorical whiplash with his hot and cold behavior it’s because he can’t handle the way he feels. His actions give him away, even if his words don’t.
It’s likely that he’s doing his best to hide his growing feelings, and by the looks of it, failing miserable. [Read: Mixed signals from a guy – The guide to interpret his intentions]
What to do when he’s into you
Okay, now you know how to tell if a guy is into you, what are you going to do about it?
Well, it really depends on two scenarios:
1. You like him
2. You’re not interested in him romantically
Your first decision is to work out which of these scenarios is yours. [Read: Do I like him? The easy questions to reveal the answer in a minute]
1. Don’t overthink it
Maybe you’re not too sure right now, but you’re on the fence. That’s okay. Why not spend a little time around him and see how you feel then?
You don’t have to rush or overthink this.
2. Pay attention to how you feel and work out if you like him
When you’re in his company, how do you feel? If he’s not around, do you think of him? Zone in on how he makes you feel and use that information to work out whether you like him or not. [Read: How to show a guy you like him and charm him while being a real tease]
3. If he’s too cryptic, don’t bother
If he’s sending you mixed signals, don’t waste your time on him. He’s either not sure how he feels himself or he’s playing games. Neither is a situation you have time for.
4. Talk to him about it
If you’re pretty sure you’re seeing major signs he’s into you and you think you might be into him too, talk about it. Suggest a date maybe.
If you’re sure you’re not into him, approach this conversation carefully but let him know that you see him as a friend only. [Read: How to express your feelings]
So, does he like you?
By now, you should have a pretty clear picture in your mind of the real situation. You’re either sure he likes you, or you’re pretty sure he’s trying to hide it.
You need four of these signs to confirm that he’s into you. Anything less is too much of a risk. So, four or more, and the odds he likes you only get bigger from there!
Either way, you need to work out how you feel first.
Knowing that a guy likes you can feel like a very powerful position. But, that doesn’t mean you can lead him on or make him feel bad about it. Approach this with empathy and care and assess how you feel before you say or do anything.
[Read: How to get your crush to like you – 22 ways to make them fall hard]
If you see these ‘does he like me’ signs, you don’t need to wait for a guy to ask you out to know that he likes you. Sometimes, all you need to do is watch his body language and read the signs when he’s around you.
