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How to Make Him Want You: 20 Secrets to Leave a Guy Smitten Silly

Understanding what makes a guy tick can be difficult. By learning how to make him want you, you can get him right where you want him instead!

How to Make Him Want You

Whether you believe in playing games in dating or not, you have to admit that sometimes, if you want to know how to make him want you, you have to twist things a little to get what you want. Let’s talk guys for a moment. 

Now, I’m completely aware that not every guy is the same. But I’m going to generalize for a second. GENERALLY, guys can be confusing when it comes to dating. Sometimes, you find a guy who’s completely honest and open about what he wants and he doesn’t hold back. *If you find this guy, hold onto him!*

However, most of the time, it’s a case of wondering what’s going on and living in a state of confusion for a while. 

If you want to make that confusion go away, you have to turn the tables a little. You have to learn how to make him want you, so that you are the one with the power. When that happens, you’ll find that he suddenly stops playing his own little games, and you no longer have to wonder what’s going on. Magic, right?

[Read: How to make a man chase you and get him to fall really hard!]

How to make him want you – 20 very easy things a girl can do to leave a guy smitten!

Okay, we’re definitely not about playing games. BUT sometimes, it takes the off chance of losing something for a guy to sit up and take notice. And realize just how much he likes and values a girl. And that’s what we’re trying to do here. Let him understand your value, and see just how awesome you all, all with the perfect hint of mystery, and before you know it, he’ll drop all his games and pursue you!

[Read: How to be mysterious without going completely overboard in the role]

1. Pretend you don’t care *just a little*

You probably do care. In fact I know you do, but you have to make him think that you can take it or leave it. When you do that, he suddenly wants to win you over, because guys don’t generally like to lose! It will not be easy, but you have to fake nonchalance and learn to be good at it. 

2. Be yourself

This is the easiest one, right? If you want to learn how to make him want you, you have to just be yourself. Don’t try and be someone you’re not, don’t try and change to appeal to his interests, just be you. There is no one else like you out there, so why are you trying to be any different?

3. Don’t care what anyone else thinks

The opinions of other people don’t matter and the only person you need to please is yourself. That’s got to be your new mantra.

If you want to learn how to make him want you, you have to forget what other people think and only focus on yourself. By doing that, you’ll show him that you’re not going to take rubbish from anyone, and that makes you instantly appealing to him. [Read: 15 classy girl moves that’ll make any guy crazy over you]

4. Show off your brains

Far too many people think that they have to focus on looks in order to get the attention of a guy. But it’s just not true! Guys like brains too and someone who is happy to show off their natural intelligence is super-sexy. Don’t try and outdo him on trivia, but don’t be afraid to show off just how brainy and smart you really are. 

5. Smile, laugh, and show your natural happiness

When you smile, your whole face lights up and you show the world your joy. That’s true beauty and it’s also very sexy too. Stop with the moody pouting. And instead, just smile and show people how happy you are.

When you smile, you’re also showing others that you’re approachable. And that means you’re also showing the guy you have your eye on that he can come over and chat to you too. [Read: The most charming ways to be approachable to a guy you like]

6. Pay him just the right amount of attention

You need to focus on him a little, but not too much. Show him that you’re interested in what he has to say. But don’t hang on his every word. Listen to what he’s telling you and take it in, but don’t ask endless questions. It’s a fine balance you need to achieve, but it’s one which will definitely teach you how to make him want you. 

7. Surprise him occasionally

Don’t make everyday surprise time. But occasionally, take him by surprise with either a small gift, a funny gesture, or something else which he’s not expecting. Life can be boring enough, and when someone comes into your life and shows you a little spontaneity, it’s alluring. 

8. Change up your look, but do it for you 

When you change something about yourself, he’ll notice. However, make sure that if you change your hair color, cut your hair, or wear something different, that you’re doing it for you and you alone. If he notices, that’s a bonus, but it’s more about the confidence the change will give you. [Read: How to look hot – 18 subtle tips to go from boring to flawless]

9. Don’t tell him everything, he doesn’t need to know it all

It’s all too easy to overshare when you’re trying to get someone’s attention. But by doing that, you’re showing that you’re pretty easy to get to know, and not much of a challenge. Guys like a challenge, so give him one. Tell him just enough to make him wonder about the rest. He doesn’t need to know everything anyway!

[Read: Why do guys love to change and how to use this secret in your favor]

10. Give him little reminders of your best bits

How to make him want you? Remind him of your best bits. Leave your scent wafting around after you walk away, send him a little gift that reminds him of you, and laugh at a common joke you’ve shared at some point whilst you’ve been getting to know one another. These little details will make him think about you more and then he’ll want you. 

11. Flirt it up a little, but only a little

Now this one is controversial, but bear with me. I’m not suggesting you should try and make him jealous; actually I am, but only a little! You should 100% flirt with him subtly. But every now and again *not all the time*, flirt a very small amount with another guy and let him see. He’ll be confused, frustrated, and it will make him chase you! [Read: 30 wicked ways to make a guy jealous and make him insanely attracted to you]

12. Go AWOL for a short while

It’s important not to disappear for too long. But go quiet for just a couple of days and then pop back up. Make sure you have a good reason when you do reappear, but don’t feel the need to go into a huge explanation, and don’t apologize for it either. The key is to make him wonder where you’ve been and to keep him on his toes. “I was really busy with work” is enough of an explanation. 

13. Show your natural confidence

Confidence is super sexy and if you want to learn how to make him want you, you have to show your natural confidence. Wear what you want and wear it well, smile, laugh, make eye contact, be yourself, and don’t care what anyone else thinks. Also, go after what you want in life, and he’ll see that you’re strong and determined too – extremely sexy traits!

14. Have your own opinions

Someone who nods along and agrees with everything is a huge turn-off, don’t you think? It’s far sexier for someone to have their own opinions and to share them, but also accept yours as valid too. Don’t be afraid to have your own views on things and don’t be afraid to share them. It shows that you have your own mind and you’re not afraid to speak it. 

15. Be proactive in the bedroom and out of it

If anything sexual has happened between you, be proactive to make things happen and to initiate sex occasionally – it doesn’t always have to be him! However, if it’s not yet got that far, be proactive in other ways – arrange a date, text him first, do things which show him that you’re able to get things done without waiting around to be saved. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and very sexy flirting tips all girls need to master]

16. Give him a few compliments

Everyone loves compliments, but the key is to give just enough to make him think you like him. But not enough to make him think that he has you where he wants you. Be strict with your compliments and don’t give them out all the time; only compliment him when you truly feel like he deserves one. He’ll definitely want to earn more!

17. Enjoy your life and make him want to be a part of it

Show him that you have a life of your own and that you enjoy what you have within it. Then, he’ll want to be a part of your life and enhance it even more. This means going out with your friends and not cancelling on them, sticking to your goals, doing what you’ve always done, and allowing him to be a part of your plans when it suits you.

You could also be sneaky and share a few snaps and ‘check ins’ on social media too, just to keep his attention where it should be! It’s one of the best ways to learn how to make him want you! [Read: 20 subtle ways to make a guy miss you ALL THE TIME!]

18. Tease him

There is a difference between teasing and being cruel, so do bear that in mind. However, gentle teasing with a coy smile shows him that you’re into him, and makes him remember you for being playful and happy. Just make sure that you’re not being insulting in any way or choosing something that could cause offence. 

19. Show him you’re independent

An independent person is someone who deserves to be chased. You can do that by living your life for you, not constantly dropping everything when he calls, and having those opinions I mentioned earlier. Show your independence and he’ll know that he has to earn your attention. 

20. Be direct, but let him know you don’t need him

Guys love it when you’re direct. It cuts out the confusion and lets him know where he stands. However, you don’t need to let him know everything!

Be direct and let him see that you’re into him, but also make it very clear that you don’t necessarily need him in your life either. By doing this, he’ll see that he has to work hard for your attention and your affection, and that he can’t afford to mess up.

[Read: The science of attraction: 17 things that are far more powerful than just looks alone]

Learning how to make him want you a lot more might seem a little like game-playing at times. But it mostly comes down to being yourself, being strong, and not allowing his games to affect you. If you can do that, you’ll find him chasing you all day long!

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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