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How to Make Him Regret Losing You & Find Your Way to a Better Life

When the relationship ends, a million emotions run riot. But, in the end, understanding how to make him regret losing you is actually quite simple.

How to Make Him Regret Losing You

Learning how to make him regret losing you can feel surprisingly heartwarming and vindictive sometimes. And at other times, it could be an unnecessary path that is best not taken. Giving it a real thought, I often wonder why we put ourselves through the agony of relationships in the first place.

Sure, they feel wonderful at the time. The heady days of having a crush, going on your first date, getting to know each other, the ‘are we/aren’t we’ stage, and then when it all becomes official you’re enjoying the time you spend together. It’s great, but then it can all turn sour so very quickly.

You see, you have no idea what someone’s true intentions are and for me, that’s terrifying. They might say they love you, they might say you’re their everything, but if that’s the case, why do they leave you suddenly on a cold Sunday morning?

Okay, so that’s a little poetic license, but you get the idea.

The fact is that good relationships can go bad for what seems like no reason and you’re left wondering what you did wrong.

[Read: 14 very real reasons why perfectly good relationships end out of the blue]

The chances are that you did nothing wrong at all, but that doesn’t make the quest for closure any easier. What many people end up doing is embarking on a question to try and make their ex-partner regret their actions. They try all manner of different strategies, focusing their time and a lot of their effort on trying to get them back.

Do you want my honest opinion?

It’s a real waste of your time and effort.

[Read: Why you should never go seeking closure after a breakup]

Understanding how to make him regret losing you for real really comes down to doing your best to put it all down to experience and moving the hell on. If he looks back over your time and regrets it, that’s good, and if he sees you out and about, enjoying yourself and looking great, well, his loss.

For me, that’s the single best way to learn how to make him regret losing you.

Forget the in-depth strategies, forget the plans and the accidental meetings, unnecessary texts and bordering stalking missions. Simply focus your attention yourself and do your best to live your life. Without a doubt, this would be the best way to not only make him regret ending the relationship, but also to make him think twice about doing the same to another unlucky partner in the future.

[Read: How to stop thinking of your ex and start succeeding in life]

How to make him regret losing you? Figure out your motivation

You might think I’m missing out on something here. You might think that I’m yet to discover this secret plan to turn the whole problem around and have him running back, but my way of thinking is a little different.

I ask myself this – why would I want to try and get someone back who left me high and dry in the first place? Why would I want to make someone regret losing me from their life if they couldn’t see my worth at the time? Why should I spend precious hours trying to accidentally bump into them looking my best when they can’t be bothered to text and ask how I am? [Read: How to stop thinking about someone you still like and move on]

You might think I have an iron will here, amazing self confidence and the like but the truth is that I’ve learnt the hard way.

I had an ex leave me for no reason. Once minute everything was great, the next he was gone. I was distraught, I beat myself up about it for months, wondering if I’d done this differently would he have stayed, questioning whether I should have paid more attention or tried a little harder.

It was exhausting. I searched for answers to the question of ‘how to make him regret losing you’ and I found all manner of weird and wonderful suggestions. I even found a spell on some random website.

Yes, seriously. An actual spell.

Then something clicked.

Perhaps it was that ridiculous spell that did it, because it asked for some seriously random ingredients. It was like the slap on the head I needed. Why was I wasting my time trying to get a guy to change his mind and prove my worth? I really had done nothing wrong. [Read: How to respect yourself and learn the secrets of self-worth and self-belief]

The chances are that you have done nothing wrong either. If you had, you wouldn’t be asking how to make him regret losing you, because you’d know exactly why he left in the first place. You’d be regretting your actions, and the fact that you have nothing firm to actually regret should tell you something.

Sure, it’s normal to start dragging things up and wondering maybe you should have done this differently or that, but if there is no hard and solid evidence to suggest that you committed a relationship misdemeanor, then quite honestly, you did nothing wrong. In that case ask yourself why you’re wondering how to get him to regret saying goodbye? That’s if he even gave you the decency of a goodbye in the first place. [Read: 15 things every girl does after her boyfriend breaks up with her]

With all of this in mind, what is your motivation for asking how to make him regret losing you? Why do you want him to regret it? Do you want him back? Do you just want him to feel the sense of loss that you did? Work it out and then do a little deep thinking.

It’s time to focus on number one

The best way to really make him question his decision (whether you actually want him back or simply to make him wonder) is to focus all your attention on you. In that case, there is no bad outcome. You’ll feel great, you’ll have that spring back in your step, you’ll start living your life and looking for new opportunities to increase your happiness, you’ll be healthier, and of course, he starts to look at you and wonder what on Earth he did to lose you.

There is a warning here however. If he left you in the first place and you start living your life, looking great and enjoying yourself, why does he suddenly want to change his mind and pursue you again? Is it a case of ‘I don’t want her, but nobody else can have her either?’ [Read: 16 signs your ex wants you back and can’t stop thinking of you]

You’re still the same person, you’re just happier and healthier because you’ve shed the baggage and you’ve started to focus on yourself. If past company starts banging on your door demanding another chance, I’m sorry, but it’s time to lock the door tightly behind you.

It’s also worth mentioning that social media can certainly help you in your low-key revenge plan here, because even if you’re no longer friends on Facebook, Instagram, etc, the chances of him spying on you still are pretty high. Let’s be honest, we all do it! That means posting new photos, checking in at new places with new friends, and generally looking like you’ve having a whale of a time.

Trust me, it works! [Read: 14 proven ways to forget an ex for good and actually move on]

Despite all of this, I still think that the best revenge here is to wave your hand and say goodbye in your own mind. There IS someone out there who won’t leave you and then need to be coerced back. There IS someone out there who you won’t need to try and make regret saying goodbye. Surely it’s better to be on the lookout for them, rather than trying to entice someone who is flaky at best? [Read: How to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you and breaking your heart]

Let’s be honest, if he left once, he might do it again – he’s a flight risk! Do you really want to live your life with that worry in the back of your mind?

Of course not!

[Read: Sneaky moves to make your ex boyfriend miss you and regret ever leaving you]

Learning how to make him regret losing you really comes down to focusing on yourself and realizing that a man who can leave you isn’t someone you want back in your life. Regardless of the reasons, being with someone who you worry is just going to walk back out again is not a happy way to live.

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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