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How to Make a Man Addicted to You: 17 Ways to Leave Him Mesmerized

You are obsessed with this guy, and you want him to feel the same way about you. That’s why you need to know how to make a man addicted to you.

how to make a man addicted to you

You want a man that loves spending time with you, kissing you whenever they get the chance, and looking at you with pure love in their eyes. Are you asking a lot by wanting this? We don’t think so! You need to know how to make a man addicted to you.

How to make a man addicted to you

Getting a man addicted to you isn’t easy. Sure, men are capable of this, but they can’t act like this with every girl they meet. They need to have a special connection with the woman they have eyes for.

So, it’s not as easy as the saying, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” There’s a little more to it than just cooking meatloaf.

The good thing is you’re here reading this feature. If you want to know how to make a man addicted to you, then you’re at the right spot. We’re going to tell you what you need to do to make him goo-goo-eyed over you.

1. Is there a connection?

Sure, you really like him, but do you know if he feels the same way? If he doesn’t, then it wouldn’t be too easy to get the man to be addicted to you.

So, how does it feel when you two are together? Do you think he feels like you are important to him?

You can try to make a man addicted to you, but if there’s not a connection between you two then it’s not really worth it. So, before you put in the elbow grease to get him addicted to you, ask yourself if he’s even worth it. Because if there’s no click between you two, then it’s not going to work. [Read: 15 intense signs of chemistry that reveal an instant connection]

2. Don’t jump to give him everything

Of course, you like him and want to do everything you can to make him happy. But that’s not what you need to do.

He wants to sleep with you, but you’re not going to let him. Remember, you want to make him chase you, that’s how he becomes addicted to you. If you give him everything right in the beginning, he’ll move on.

You see, if you become a people pleaser with him, he might walk all over you and take advantage of you. That is not what you want. Men don’t really respect women who are doormats. So, you want to have self-respect and not give him everything. Be a little selfish and take care of your own needs. He will notice and like you more for it. [Read: Why men love the chase and how to use it in your favor]

3. Be a challenge

Now, there’s a balance to everything. You don’t need to be ice cold towards him, but you do need to make him work for you. He needs to feel that he’s earning you. If not, he’ll get bored and wander.

You need to make him feel like he needs to work to deserve you. Because let’s face it, you’re a prize!

As the saying going, “people want what they can’t have.” It’s just human nature. So, if he perceives you as someone who he can have too easily, then he won’t value you as much. You have to be slightly out of reach, but not too far that he can’t actually catch you. [Read: How to show a guy you like him and yet be a tease and make him pursue you]

4. Give him space

When you like a guy, you want to spend as much time with him as possible. But that’s not the right way to do things.

Instead, give him a healthy amount of time away from you. It’s actually good for you too. You don’t want to smother him or he will want to push you away.

Remember, distance makes the heart grow fonder. The time apart will let him miss you… that’s the ticket. If you’re always around him, he won’t appreciate you.

You don’t want to be someone who is needy and clingy, and that includes not only face-to-face, but over text and social media too. Almost every guy hates clingy girls. [Read: 21 signs of a clingy girl and how to avoid turning into one]

5. Develop trust

If you want a man to be addicted to you, they’re going to need to trust you. If he feels he can’t open up to you, then this isn’t going to work. If anything, it’ll just be a fling. You need to let him find comfort and security in you.

In order for a man to really fall for you, there needs to be a foundation of friendship too. He needs to know that he can depend on you, and in order to feel that way, he needs trust. So, you need to be someone who has his back at all times. [Read: 18 signs a man is emotionally attached to you and ready to get even closer]

6. Listen

Let’s be honest, people aren’t good listeners. We may look like we’re listening, but we’re not. We’re thinking about what we’re going to say back or some situation in our minds.

But what will get his attention is your ability to actively listen. When he’s talking, listen.

But be aware that guys and girls like to talk and listen about different things. You might be totally bored when he gives you every little detail of the football game he just watched, but it will make him feel good when he knows you care enough about him to listen. [Read: How to get a guy to like you – 26 super moves that drive men crazy]

7. Show your soft side

We all have a soft side, and there’s no problem showing him your soft side. If you want to know how to make a man addicted to you, you also need to show him that you trust him as well. It’s a two-way street.

Open yourself up to him when the time is right, and he’ll see that you’re taking a step forward.

Having a soft side also means being feminine. Men like to be men. They like to “rescue a damsel in distress” once in a while. So, it’s okay be act like a woman and for him to act like a man. Feminism is great, but in the natural man/woman dynamic, women tend to show their soft sides. [Read: The damsel in distress and why men find her so irresistible]

8. Relax and have a laugh

People don’t want to hang around those who are walking around with a long face. They want to be around people who are positive, and light-hearted. Don’t be afraid to make a joke or laugh at his jokes. This will get him to see your lighter side.

No one likes a Debbie Downer or an energy vampire. You want him to love being in your presence, not dread it. So, you have to have a sense of humor at all times. Life can be funny, so laugh at it – and yourself! [Read: How to get guys to like you without compromising yourself]

9. Avoid changing him

Many women date men who are “projects.” But why would anyone want this? If you don’t like him for who is he, then don’t be with him.

Trying to get with a guy who you want to change isn’t going to work. It’ll only leave you heartbroken because you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change.

And trying to change a man is not only exhausting for a woman, it’s downright near impossible. People only change if they want to change. Period. The end. [Read: Why won’t he change? Why men say they will but never do!]

10. Be independent

If you want to get a man addicted to you, then you have to be independent. Now, you can do everything on this feature perfectly, but if you’re not independent, it won’t matter.

No one wants someone who’s going to be stuck like glue. They want a partner who’s well-rounded and has their own life as well. Go out with your friends, spend time with your family. Show him you have other things in your life than him.

Spend time working on your career and your other ambitions. Make your own money, and don’t depend on him for anything. That doesn’t mean that he can’t help you out, but show him that you don’t need him, you just want him. [Read: 26 qualities of a great woman every man desires in his girl]

11. Support him

If you want to win his heart, then you need to show him you’re his number one fan. He wants to be with someone who’s going to support him, not judge him for his dreams and ambitions.

If he has a goal, back him up and show him you’re on his side.

Everyone has their bad days and when they make mistakes. But he doesn’t want a woman who is constantly pointing out his shortcomings. That is just depressing. So you want to be his biggest cheerleader and let him know you are always there for him. That will help make a man addicted to you. [Read: How to stroke a man’s ego and bring out his alpha side when he’s down]

12. Keep things interesting

This is a hard one, and will definitely take effort on his part as well. But, it’s important to keep a relationship interesting.

This isn’t just about sex; it’s also about general life. Go to a concert together, try a new restaurant, or take up a new hobby. By doing new things together, you will bond with a guy every time you create new experiences together.

Keeping it interesting also means keeping yourself interesting to him. Guys don’t always want to hear about your latest gossip. So, think about topics you can have deep conversations about. That will keep him coming back for more. [Read: 25 ways to be the best girlfriend and leave him addicted]

13. Try his hobbies

If you want a man to fall for you and stay addicted, try some of the things he enjoys.

If he likes mountain biking, rent a bike on the weekend and go with him. If he’s into watching football, spend one Saturday night having a beer next to him on the couch. He wants a partner who can fit into his life, and you need to show you’re the perfect match.

The tricky thing about this, however, is that you don’t want to change yourself just to please him. If you have to become a different person just to get him to like you, then it’s not worth it. You should be your number one priority, not him.

14. Don’t try to be mysterious

Sure, maybe it’s cute in the beginning, but being mysterious gets boring. Of course, you want him to become curious about you, but it’ll just look like you have a lot of emotional baggage. You don’t need to be mysterious to the point where you push him away.

Instead, it’s best to open up and let him get to know you. It’s difficult for a man to become addicted to you if he doesn’t really know you on a deep level. So, mystery is overrated. [Read: How to be mysterious without being too distant]

15. Have self-confidence

Confidence is almost like a drug. Almost everyone is attracted to it. Think about it. Do you want to go out with someone who hates themselves? Of course not!

Being around someone with low self-esteem is not attractive. So, you need to work on how you feel about yourself.

It’s not easy, but you can definitely start to feel better and love yourself more. And when you do, he will notice and become addicted to your vibe. [Read: How to be more confident in your body and learn to fall in love with YOU]

16. Don’t text or call constantly

Women are much more into communicating on a regular basis than men are. So, if you are constantly texting, calling, or messaging him on social media, he will grow tired of it soon.

Instead, let him take the lead. Wait for him to text you and ask you on a date. It can be difficult to resist this, but he will definitely be more interested the less he hears from you. [Read: How to make a man chase you – 20 subtle ways to make him fall really hard]

17. Be yourself

This cannot be stressed enough. If you want to make a man addicted to you, be yourself. That’s the most important thing you can do. So many women try to be like other women.

But you won’t be able to wear that mask for long. Eventually, it’ll start to fade. So, be yourself from the beginning and save yourself the hassle.

[Read: How to make a man fall in love with you – 25 subtle ways to charm him and make him desire you]

Deep down, we all want to know how to make a man addicted to you. You’ve seen Twilight. If you want to make a man head over heels for you, then follow these steps and he’ll fall harder and deeper with each passing day.

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