It’s great when guys like you. But now you have one, and you don’t feel the same way about him. So, here’s how to make a guy lose interest in you.
You know, we rarely get requests and messages from people asking how to make a guy lose interest in you. Usually, they’re asking us how to win someone’s heart or make someone fall in love with them.
So, it’s kind of surprising to think that some women want to know how to make someone lose interest in them. But, we’ve all had at least one experience where someone is really into us, but we don’t feel the same way.
Maybe you were curious at first, but after getting to know this guy, you realize it wouldn’t be a good match. While you know this, it’s not so easy to communicate these feelings.
[Read: How to reject someone nicely and make sure you don’t accidentally lead them on]
How to make a guy lose interest in you
Just don’t string this guy along. If you don’t want anything to happen between you two, you should cut the cord. We know it sounds harsh, but if you want him to get a clear message you’re not interested, let him know how you feel.
So, if you’re wondering how to make a guy lose interest in you, here’s what you should do and shouldn’t do. Just because you don’t like him, doesn’t mean you should traumatize him. Are you ready? Let’s get started. [Read: 25 signs your guy friend is falling for you even if he’s hiding it]
1. Understand what you want
We’ve seen people tell us they’re not interested in a guy, yet, weeks later, they’re trying to make him jealous and playing hard to get. Be honest with yourself and make a firm decision on how you feel about this guy.
Yes, he likes you, but do you like him or not? If you secretly have feelings for him, then why not explore them? If you aren’t interested, then decide you won’t play games. [Read: Why do I like a guy? 18 reasons why you actually like the guy you like]
2. Tell him you’re not interested
When someone likes you, they’re not going to suddenly lose interest in you. But, you should let them know how you feel about them.
Be honest and open with your feelings, and tell him that you’re not interested. Sure, it may hurt his ego a bit, but it’s better than him chasing you around without knowing where he stands.
3. If you feel comfortable, meet face-to-face
We’re not telling you to meet up with your stalker and tell him you’re not interested. Of course, decide how you choose to communicate with him based on your level of comfort with him.
If this is a friend and someone you respect, meet up with him and tell him how you feel. We know it’s hard, but over text or the phone, it’s easy to make room for miscommunication or even lead him on without realizing it.
4. Don’t be hot and cold
Remember, you want him to lose interest in you. That’s why you should decide what you want.
If you don’t know what you want, then you end up playing games. If you find yourself being hot and cold, stop what you’re doing and take a step back. Really consider what you want and how you feel about him. [Read: Blowing hot and cold – The 3 stages to explain why someone does this]
5. Don’t give him a lame excuse
No one wants to have this conversation, we get it. But, what’s even worse is when you have this conversation with a guy who likes you, and you’re not honest.
We know you don’t want to be harsh, and you shouldn’t be, but don’t make up excuses either. These excuses will only make him feel worse and not give him the closure he needs to move on.
6. Be direct
You don’t need to give him a list of his flaws, telling him what you like and don’t like about him. And you shouldn’t give him a five-minute speech about how you’ve been feeling, etc. Just get to the point.
He knows what’s coming, you know what’s coming, so don’t prolong the torture. [Read: How to tell a guy you don’t like him – 15 excuses and the nicest ways]
7. Let him talk
He may want to say something back to you. Don’t shut him down.
Give him the opportunity for closure by telling you how he feels. That way, he’ll get what he wants to say off of his chest, and the process of moving on will be easier for him to handle. The people who struggle to move on are those who don’t get closure.
8. Don’t ghost him
We’re not twelve years old. Do you know how horrible it feels to be ghosted by someone you like? We’ve all had it happen to us, and sometimes it takes a long time to get over.
Many of us would have rather been told they’re not interested. If you’re too scared to meet him face-to-face, text him, telling him you’re not interested in him. Yes, it’ll sting, but it’s better than ghosting.
If you contact him, you’re playing games. Once you tell him you’re not interested, that’s it.
If you agree to be friends after, give him time to process his feelings, and let him be the one to message you first. But, if this guy isn’t your friend, don’t contact him after this conversation. [Read: She rejected you, but still acts interested? What guys think when girls do this]
10. Don’t gossip about him
There’s no need for you to gossip about him and shame him for his feelings. Rejection isn’t easy, and if you spread gossip, it’s a really horrible move on your part. Treat him with respect, and let him move on with dignity.
11. When you see him, act cordial
He doesn’t have a contagious disease, he’s just a guy you’re not interested in. Unless his behavior is scaring you *he’s yelling at you or appearing to become violent*, act cordially with him.
But don’t act too nice. We overcompensate when we know we hurt someone. And that can blur the lines all over again. Be nice, but a little distant. [Read: How to tell a guy you don’t like him in the nicest way possible]
12. He’ll get over you with time
If he really liked you, it will take time for him to move on. The good thing is you’ve made it clear you’re not interested. The ball is in his court to get over you and move on to someone else. And he will, but he’ll need time. You can’t make his feelings change; he’s in control of his feelings.
The 19 qualities in a girl that all guys hate
Now that you have some ideas for rejecting a guy and letting him know you’re not interested, let’s focus more on how to get a guy to lose interest in you.
Here are some qualities that most men find a turnoff. So, if you already have any of these qualities, or want to make him dislike you just a bit, maybe you could turn up the volume on them so he will become disinterested!
1. Criticizing other people
No one likes to be around negative people, and that’s exactly what criticizing is. So, whether you’re criticizing the waiter, the person on the sidewalk, or your best friends, guys usually hat that in a girl. They like it when you are nice, not a mean girl. [Read: Signs of sneaky people – 20 things that should make you run]
2. Expecting him to pay all the time
Whether you are dating him or just friends, guys don’t like it when you always expect them to pay for everything.
If you never take out your purse and offer to help pay, they will resent it very quickly if it happens all the time. [Read: 15 signs you’re a high maintenance woman most guys can’t handle]
3. Complaining
No one likes a Debbie Downer, either. If you are always complaining about the food at a restaurant, how your friends bug you, or how your boss is a total jerk, he will just want to tune out so he doesn’t have to hear it.
4. Fishing for compliments
Most men don’t like girls with low self-esteem. So, if a woman is always relying on someone else to tell her how beautiful, skinny, or smart she is, then that will turn a guy off.
Plus, it’s exhausting to constantly have to pump up someone’s ego. [Read: 19 wily signs a girl only wants a guy’s attention and not a relationship]
5. Getting too drunk
Most people like to go out and party and have a good time. And sure, it’s fun to drink and even get drunk sometimes. But if you get sloppy drunk – especially if you do it on a regular basis, this is something guys don’t like. They don’t want to have to be your babysitter.
6. Being on your phone too much
True, this is a bad habit for most people in the world, unfortunately. But you can control it if you try. When a guy is out with you, he doesn’t want you to have your nose in your phone while you ignore him.
7. Putting yourself down
As we mentioned earlier, guys like confident girls. So, whether you are fishing for compliments or you are actively putting yourself down in front of him, it is not something guys like to see in a girl. It just drags him down with you. [Read: Attention whore – 16 signs you’re an insufferable attention seeker]
8. Flirting with other guys in front of him
It doesn’t matter whether you are friends with him or if you’re in a relationship, most guys don’t appreciate it when you are flirting with other guys in their presence.
It’s just an ego thing, but paying attention to other dudes is a real bummer for most guys.
9. Constant interruptions
We all know that girls like to talk a lot, but if they constantly interrupt a guy, then that’s annoying. Guys like to speak too, you know. They have something to say, and they want to be able to say it freely without getting cut off.
10. Bragging about your ex
Yes, you have an ex-boyfriend. And yes, he was cute, rich, and very popular. Good for you.
But when a guy has to constantly hear about what an amazing guy he was *and that you miss him,* he will not be happy about that. [Read: The biggest dating turnoffs for guys]
11. Always canceling plans
No one likes flake people who don’t commit to plans. How do you feel when someone constantly cancels plans on you? You feel unimportant to them, don’t you? They are clearly not making you a priority in their life.
12. Leading him on
If you flirt with him and compliment him on everything, he will think you mean it.
If you talk in terms of “maybe we can go out sometime,” he will think you want to date him. So, if you don’t mean it, it’s best not to say it. Guys don’t like to be led on. [Read: How to lead a guy on – 15 shitty ways to play dirty]
13. Lying
No one likes a liar either. There are countless things a person can lie about. So, if he finds out that you are lying about anything *or everything*, that will be a major turnoff for him. [Read: Types of liars – 14 ways to confront them and not lose your cool]
14. Not showing appreciation
If he opens doors for you, buys your flowers, or does anything else nice for you, most guys would like to be thanked for it. So, if you don’t even acknowledge the effort he puts into making you happy, he will not be happy himself.
15. Taking hours to respond to texts
It’s annoying for anyone when someone takes forever to respond to a text. What message does that send when they do that?
It says you are not important to them and that you have better things to do than talk to them.
16. Constantly changing your mind
If he asks you if you would like to hang out and you say yes but change your mind the next day, that’s very irritating. Even if it’s changing your mind about what to wear, where to eat, or what to do, it can get very exhausting for him. [Read: Got flaky friends? Here are the reasons to ditch them]
17. Trying to change him
Regardless of what kind of relationship you have with a guy, if you are trying to change anything about him, that will make him angry. Changing his clothes or changing his personality, either way, he doesn’t like it.
18. Being overly jealous
Sure, most people have a case of the green-eyed monster sometimes. But if you are the kind of person who is jealous of anyone or anything, that is not good in the eyes of a man. [Read: How to recognize signs of jealousy in someone and guide them out]
19. Making a mountain out of a molehill
Guys hate drama. So, if you are always picking fights or getting upset about things that are really very insignificant, that will definitely make him not like you as much.
Bottom line
As you can see, there are many ways to get a guy to lose interest in you. We’re not suggesting that you do something out of your normal behavior to get rid of him.
But if anything on this list seems to be a bit like you, then maybe you will be able to cut him loose sooner than later.
[Read: Are we friends or is he interested in me? 16 signs to read his mind]
We don’t get asked this every day, but if you want to know how to make a guy lose interest in you, follow these tips and you’ll get him to walk away real soon.
