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22 Flirty Secrets to Impress a Guy & Leave Him Totally Obsessed with You

You may not be his first love, but you can be the girl he never gets over. Use these 22 tips to impress a guy and always stay on his mind.

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Do you have a guy you want to impress? You may think that appearance is the only thing that attracts men, but you cannot be more wrong. Looks aren’t everything.

Sure, an attractive face could hold a guy’s attention for a few seconds. But to actually impress a guy and make him fall for you deeply and strongly, you need more than just looks. So what is the secret to impressing the guy you like?

[Read: How men fall in love – The 7 stages of love for men]

Why you want to impress this guy

Before you learn how to impress the guy, you must ask yourself why you want this and if he’s worth all the effort you’re about to put in. If you want to impress a guy and make him obsessed with you, it means you’re not just looking for something short-term. But if you just want someone to want you so you can feel powerful without considering how this would affect them, don’t.

The best way to do this is to figure out exactly what you want. You shouldn’t make someone fall in love with you just to walk away from them, like it’s some sort of games. You wouldn’t want someone to do that to you, right?

Also, it’s important that you know your worth so you won’t put yourself through hell for a guy who doesn’t deserve you. Sometimes, our feelings blind us and make us ignore all the red flags. So be careful and not let him walk all over you and take advantage of you.

[Read: How to get any guy’s attention in any circumstance]

How to impress a guy and make him obsessed with you

It’s not hard to become the girl who can impress any guy she wants. Keep these 15 tips in mind, and you’ll be awed and desired by the guy you like. [Read: How to impress your crush: 25 tips to steal their heart effortlessly]

1. Don’t be judgmental

Okay, maybe you have high standards. To be fair, everyone should keep their standards high so they won’t settle for the bare minimum. But keep in mind that nobody is perfect, and no matter how great a person is, there’s always at least one thing you don’t like about them.

So keep an open mind and respect each other’s differences. If you don’t like something, say it but don’t make a big deal about it. The guy you like may be passionate about a few things that you don’t appreciate, but that doesn’t mean you should insult him for it.

If you want to impress this guy, show an interest in what he has to say. You don’t have to agree with him, but you must be able to see things from his point of view and understand why he likes the things he likes. Share your truthful opinions but don’t get rude or judgmental.

And if you can’t listen to him talk about a topic without feeling offended or angry, why are you wasting your time trying to impress this guy?

[Read: 10 things girls should never say to guys ever!]

2. Don’t let him get away with things

Are you the girl who forgives a guy if he keeps her waiting for over half an hour before he turns up? Change that attitude. Don’t let a guy take you for granted or take it easy around you.

At the start of a relationship or when you just get to know the guy, it’s very important to ensure that he takes you seriously. Ignore him or walk away if he throws his weight around you, speak curtly to him when he gives more attention to someone else, and don’t think twice about scolding him if he mistreats you.

If you do this right at the beginning of the relationship, he’ll respect you more. [Read: 15 traits of a desirable high maintenance woman]

3. Smile and laugh a lot around him

Anyone would prefer a happy person over a grumpy one. Guys are mesmerized by a girl’s laughter. Laugh at his jokes if you find him funny, and give him all your attention when you’re with him.

You don’t need to initiate too many conversations, just sit back and let him know that you’re enjoying his company. Say something funny to make him laugh and make him feel comfortable around you. Also, smile as much as you can. You look a lot more beautiful when you smile.

[Read: The 80 best cute texts for him to make him smile & miss you more]

4. Don’t be afraid to debate

Men are awed by a woman’s emotional intelligence. Never let any guy behave like he’s more intelligent than you. Be aware of what’s going on in your world, and talk about it with him. Playing dumb could seem attractive for a few hours, but he’d get bored quickly and you’d be the butt of his jokes after that.

When a guy thinks you’re unintelligent, he’ll think of you only as his arm candy, not as his partner for life. But don’t get carried away and turn a debate into an argument. It’s not about winning; it’s about making him understand things from your perspective. [Read: Should a girl ever dumb it down it impress a guy?]

5. Be naughty

A naughty side is a huge turn-on to every guy. Sit really close to him and watch him get nervous around you. Brush against his body, but make it seem like an accident. Behave like a coy girl, but tempt him innocently.

However, if he shows signs that he’s not comfortable with you getting too close, that’s your signal to stop. Nothing is more important than consent. [Read: 29 secret ways to subtly flirt & make them desire you subconsciously]

6. Don’t give in too easily

Even if you like a guy a lot, don’t give in too easily and try to please him from the very beginning. When you try to please a guy too soon, he’ll start taking it easy because he’d know that he’s already won you over.

No matter how much you like this guy, don’t express your mushy thoughts to him right away. Date him or spend hours talking to him, but make sure the feelings are mutual before you confess. Don’t say you love him too early, unless you know for a fact that he’s also feeling that strongly about you.

Impress the guy by matching his energy. Don’t offer him too much but not too little either. Playing hard to get can sometimes backfire and give him the impression that you’re not serious or not interested. [Read: How to make a guy chase you and get addicted to you]

7. Tempt him with your appearance

You may assume that people who like you won’t judge you, but that’s not always the truth. If you were dating the guy and he dresses terribly while going out with you, wouldn’t you feel a small twinge of disappointment when you’re walking down the street with him?

Dress well and look good all the time when he’s around. Look your best, awe everyone around you, and the guy you like will feel lucky to have a conversation with you. [Read: 25 ways to look really cute and melt a guy’s heart]

8. Smell great

Let your fragrance linger when you hug him goodbye or walk past him. Guys are suckers for good perfume, especially when the girl they’re interested in leaves behind a waft of perfume in the air. Try several perfumes and pick the ones that best suit your personality.

Spray the perfume on your wrists, behind your ears, around your neck, or just under the collarbone. A spray in your hair will also ensure that you leave your fragrance behind whenever you walk past a guy. Just remember not to rub your perfume with your hands because that just kills the fragrance. [Read: How to keep a guy you like interested in 30 super sexy ways]

9. Be kind to everyone

Guys are instinctively drawn toward kinder girls who seem pleasant and approachable. Be warm when you speak to everyone, even if you aren’t interested in dating them.

Don’t talk bad about the other girls. Don’t insult a guy who tries to talk to you just because he’s not a great conversationalist. But at the same time, don’t put up with guys that treat you disrespectfully.

[Read: How to be kind to yourself & others & love life instead of hating it]

10. Show your personality

There’s nothing wrong with being shy or having social anxiety, but if you want to impress a guy, you must show him that you have a personality. When you’re with friends, play an active part and be involved with them. Participate in activities, have fun, and take it easy.

He’ll find you a lot more attractive and interesting if you have something you’re passionate about. So if you don’t already have a hobby, find one. You’ll be a lot happier, too, because hobbies will give your life more meaning. [Read: How to be more confident with 12 simple daily self-love habits]

11. Be happy on your own

When you don’t need someone else in your life to be happy, that’s when you’re most powerful. A guy will come and go as he pleases if he thinks you can’t live without him. Show him that you’re perfectly capable of enjoying life on your own.

He’s an accessory, not a necessity. The guy will be so impressed by your independence that he’ll do anything to get your attention. [Read: Nothing makes me happy: secrets to make happiness your default state]

12. Show him that he’s replaceable

Don’t ignore all the other guys when one man gives you the attention. When you let a guy know that you’re only interested in talking to him, he’ll assume he’s already won you over. Show him that if he wants you, he must make an effort because other guys want you, too.

You’re not dating him yet, so there’s nothing wrong with you keeping your option open. You deserve the best, and only the best guy who cares the most for you will get to be with you. The more the competition, the harder he’ll try to woo you. [Read: Why don’t guys hit on me? 21 secrets to be way more approachable]

13. Don’t use him

Just because he’s sweet and caring, it doesn’t mean you need to use him all the time to run your errands. Ask for his help so he feels like a chivalrous gentleman when he’s around you, but don’t order him around like a servant.

If he’s looking for a serious relationship and you’re not up for it, find someone else. There are plenty of other men out there, so there’s no need to play with someone’s heart just for the thrill of it.

[Read: 40 things guys say when they like you & actions that mean a lot more]

14. Don’t text too much

When you like someone, you just want to talk to them all day every day. But most guys don’t spend that much time on their phones. They may text you a lot in the first couple of weeks, but the more they get to know you, the less they’ll text you. Sometimes it’s just who they are, so don’t be too nervous.

Try to match his texting energy. If he takes three hours to reply, do the same. And instead of waiting by the phone for his notification, keep yourself busy with something else.

And don’t ask him to report to you everything he does and wherever he goes, not even when you two are exclusive. He’s an adult with his own life, and so are you. You won’t impress the guy if you appear way too needy and controlling. [Read: 27 cool ways to ask someone to hang out over text & not sound needy]

15. Get along with his friends

What is better than a girlfriend? A girlfriend who’s also your friend. If you can get along with his friends and make them like you, he’ll want to keep you around. He’ll even ask you to join him and his friends the next time they get together.

Besides, if all of his close friends like you, they won’t let him mistreat you. [Read: 40 ways to have fun with friends, beat boredom & create new memories]

16. Be supportive

Be the support he needs in his life. Don’t piss on his hopes and dreams. You must have faith in the one you love. If you stay by his side through his tough times, he’ll know you’re someone he can trust and won’t ever let you go.

But this doesn’t mean you must agree with everything he says or does. Give him your honest advice when asked and be a shoulder for him to lean on. [Read: 17 signs of a supportive partner who encourages you & your goals]

17. Be a good listener

Just like girls, guys have feelings that they want to share. If you can show the guy you like that he can confide in you, he’ll be so impressed and come to you whenever he needs to talk about something. Don’t waste every conversation with him talking about yourself. Make him feel comfortable opening up to you, and you’ll find out so much more about him.

[Read: 30 weird facts about guys, their deviant mind, crushes & love life]

18. Remember details about him

If he mentions his favourite song, keep that in mind and bring it up the next time you get a chance. Don’t forget his birthday. Ask about his friend if he mentioned them a few times. Buy him a coffee that he always orders.

Guys usually do this for girls, so there probably aren’t many girls who would remember such things about him. These little things might not mean a lot, but you remembering them shows that you care about him. He’ll appreciate you a lot more for that.

[Read: 67 sweet yet small romantic gestures that show love in the biggest way]

19. Don’t act jealous

You may see him interacting with other girls, which makes you worry and upset. Well, it’s a huge turn-off if you confront him about it and make a scene. If you’re not together and haven’t talked about being exclusive, he’s allowed to talk to other girls, and you’re allowed to talk to other guys.

Acting jealous won’t make him like you more. It’ll drive him into the arms of a girl who’s not acting possessive before they even get together. Know your worth and preserve your pride.

If you catch him flirting with someone else, flirt with other guys and don’t pay attention to him. The less attention you give him, the more he craves it. [Read: Why am I so jealous? The real reasons why we feel it & how to fix it]

20. Make lots of good memories

When a relationship ends, people won’t think about all the bad times. They’ll grieve the good memories and miss all the good times that didn’t last. So, if you want him to always think about you, even long after you two ended *hopefully you won’t*, make a lot of good memories.

Go on many dates. Try new things together. Have deep conversations. Learn things about each other that nobody knows.

So the next time they do the same thing with someone else, you’re the one lingering on their mind.

[Read: How to write a heartfelt, touching goodbye letter & make someone cry]

21. Compliment him

Don’t go overboard with your praises, but do give him compliments once in a while. Guys rarely receive them, so he’ll think about your encouraging words and be happy for the rest of the day.

Tell him he looks good in his new haircut. Say you like his outfit. Let him know he smells good. Or just compliment him on how nice he is to you.

[Read: 25 compliments for guys they’ll never forget]

22. Be yourself

This is the most important tip that most girls who are trying to impress a guy seem to forget. You can show someone the best version of yourself without faking it. Remember that you should be proud of who you are. If you don’t even think you’re that great, how do you expect others to think so?

In order to impress a guy and make him obsessed with you, tell yourself that you are the best person in the world. And whoever gets to be in a relationship with you will be the luckiest guy on this whole planet. Say it and believe it.

[Read: 34 life-changing steps to fall in love with yourself all over again]

It’s time for you to try out these 22 tips to impress the guy you like. Love is a ruthless game, so make sure you play it good and right. Have fun, don’t break his heart, and know how to protect your own.

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