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How to Get Your Boyfriend to Propose: 10 Hints to Get the Ring

You’re in love and want to live happily ever, but he hasn’t popped the question. Here are some great tips for how to get your boyfriend to propose.

how to get your boyfriend to propose

Many ladies fantasize about their big day from a very young age. The beautiful white dress, walking down the aisle, seeing the man of your dreams waiting for you at the end – it’s all very romantic! But how do you actually make it happen and get your boyfriend to propose?

This can be more tricky. If you feel the time is right for you to take your relationship one step further and get engaged, that’s wonderful. But often, your partner might be a little less keen. Proposing is a big step and a huge commitment, so he’ll no doubt want to make sure that the time is right. He might just need that little nudge of encouragement to push him over the edge!

How to get your boyfriend to propose

So, if you want to know how to get your boyfriend to propose, what should you do? Here are 10 great tips to help him get the message and take the plunge!

#1 Be cool! There is nothing that is going to make a guy put off proposing more than if he feels he is being backed into a corner. This might very well make him run the other way.

You might be desperate to get married, but you have to understand that this is a huge and life-changing decision for him. If he feels totally pressured into it, it’s going to be hard for him to take the plunge. [Read: 13 signs he wants to marry and spend his life with you]

#2 Tell him. While keeping your cool is important, you still need to make sure that he knows that you want to actually get married in the first place. If you overdo the cool and casual approach, he will have no idea that you even want to get married in the first place, and, therefore, might just not have the motivation needed to actually pop the question.

If you have been going out for a while, you will probably already have had a conversation about the future. But if you haven’t, or haven’t mentioned marriage specifically, let him know in a mature and sensible way exactly what your thoughts are on the matter. Then at least he will know where your head is at. [Read: 11 reasons why he hasn’t asked you to marry him just yet]

#3 Don’t compare yourself to others. Just because all your friends got married two years ago, and you still haven’t, doesn’t mean that it’s your “turn.” Every relationship is different, and some people take a little longer to want to settle down that others.

If you keep pointing out to him how everyone else around you is married, he will just feel as though you are whining at him, which will make him want to do it even less! This is a really important tip for how to get your boyfriend to propose.

#4 Don’t give him a choice! Okay, so this might sound a little sneaky, but by offering him options, you are giving him a “get out clause” where he can choose not to get married just yet, if he feels like the time isn’t right.

Don’t make it too open-ended either. Saying something like, “Do you think we’ll get married in the next 2 years?” is better because it gives him a timeframe to think about. [Read: Men women want to date Vs. Men women want to marry]

#5 Make him feel like he couldn’t live without you. If you want to know how to get your boyfriend to propose, he is only going to do it if he really believes that you are “the one.” Getting him to see that takes time! You need him to feel like if he ever lost you, he would be completely heartbroken.

Make sure that he understands and appreciates everything that you do for him – but do this subtly. If you can make him realize that he is so lucky to have you, it will only heighten his desire to get your relationship locked down sooner rather than later! [Read: 15 classy ways to make a guy go crazy over you]

#6 Share everything with him. The closer he feels to you, the more likely he is to want to marry you. If he feels as though you are the person who he can trust the most in the world, and someone that he can completely be himself with – who sees him for just what he is – then he will surely want to spend the rest of his life with you.

#7 Hang out with married couples. Seeing your friends happily married and still having fun will show him that marriage is nothing to be frightened of, and it’ll make him more ready to make that commitment to you too.

He might be worried that getting engaged and married will eventually change your relationship, and that might be scary for him.

Seeing how your married friends are exactly the same will help put his mind at ease, and it’s another great tip for how to get your boyfriend to propose. If your married friends are willing to give you a helping hand by talking about how wonderful married life is, that probably won’t go down too badly either! [Read: 20 reasons to get married and live happily ever after]

#8 Build it up slowly. Don’t go from zero to one hundred – take things slowly and build up to the point where marriage is the next obvious step to take. Move in together and see how that goes first. Then, *providing you are both animal lovers of course* why not get a pet and see how you get on with that?

Moving your relationship forward in steps like this will make it a much easier transition when the time comes for him to get his head around the idea of proposing to you.

So, if you are still in the dating stage, you might have your work cut out for you. But don’t worry, you will get there eventually… we promise! [Read: Should I marry him? 17 big signs that scream “yes!”]

#9 Be more independent. Having your own life outside of your relationship is healthy, regardless of whether you are thinking about getting married or not! However, showing him that you are an independent woman, and giving him the freedom to have his own life and enjoy things without you, will show him that you trust him and are willing to set him free.

Doing that will only strengthen your relationship and make him feel more ready to take that plunge and make that lifelong commitment to you. [Read: How to get a man to marry you – 10 steps to get that sparkler]

#10 Accept his decision. At the end of the day, you can’t force someone to marry you! If he isn’t ready to commit, you have to deal with his decision – and there isn’t a whole lot you can do about it. Don’t have a tantrum, and don’t get too upset.

It might be that he just needs a little bit more time to get his head around the whole idea. In the meantime, if the relationship is worth waiting for, then you’ll know. And if it is not, then maybe it is time to say goodbye and find someone who does want to offer you that kind of commitment!

[Read: Why is he delaying it? How to get him to propose by reading his mind]

Getting married is a big decision, but an exciting one too. With these tips for how to get your boyfriend to propose, you are so much more likely to convince him that now is the right time to get down on one knee.

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Bethany Locke
Bethany was born and raised in Scotland and now resides in Brighton where she lives with her partner and rather disobedient cocker spaniel pup. She works as a f...
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