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How to Cuddle with a Guy & Snuggle Up to Feel Cozy or Turn Him On

Close physical contact with another person is healthy. So, if you want to know how to cuddle with a guy and make him love it, here is how to do it right.

how to cuddle with a guy

Most people think that guys hate to cuddle. There was so much evidence to support that these rough and tough guys just didn’t like snuggling up under a blanket, even if it was with a girl. But when some girls have fights with their boyfriends, they figure out that it’s not necessarily true. Believe it or not, guys really do like to cuddle. So, you want to learn how to cuddle with a guy the right way.

Guys enjoy so many different things about it, and girls certainly aren’t the only ones who love the feeling of being wrapped in someone else’s arms.

How to ask a guy to come over and cuddle

Since you’re reading this feature, you might be worried about how to ask a guy to come over and cuddle because you think it might be weird. So, how do you do it without being awkward? 

First, you have to ask yourself some questions. Is there some part of you that thinks it’s weird? If so, then you will probably put out a strange vibe and he will pick up on it. 

Do you think it’s weird to ask someone to come over and cuddle with you? So, try to get over that.

Next, what exactly are you looking for with the cuddling? Do you just want a cuddle buddy? Or do you want it to lead to more? [Read: 15 cuddle buddy rules to avoid turning into f*ck buddies]

Let’s look at a couple of different ways to ask a guy to come over and cuddle. We’ll start with a weird and awkward way.

If you feel awkward, you might say something like, “Look, I know this might sound kind of odd, but do you think you might want to come over and cuddle for a bit? But, like, not have sex. Because that would be even odder if I asked you that.”

You see, if you ask them with a mindset that what you are asking is weird, then they will think it’s weird. It shows low self-confidence. Then, they will answer in a weird way and it will just be icky.

So, you need to remove the strangeness from your cuddle request. In order to do this, then just be completely honest and clear when you ask. [Read: How to cuddle someone – a guide to snuggle up and feel the love]

Don’t beat around the bush. Just politely make it obvious what you’re looking for and what you want out of the cuddle arrangement.

You can ask via text, on the phone, or in person. Sure, you might still be a little nervous. This is normal because it makes you vulnerable. But just be brave and direct when you ask a guy to cuddle with you.

The benefits of cuddling

There are actually a lot of physical and psychological benefits that arise from cuddling with someone you care about.

Your heart rate and blood pressure reduction help you bond with your partner via the release of the “cuddle hormone” oxytocin, and it also helps to foster better communication between you and your significant other. Talk about the reasons to convince your man to cuddle up with you at night! [Read: The surprising benefits of cuddling and how it makes your life better]

How to cuddle with a guy and make him enjoy cuddling you

A lot of guys are too caught up in their self-pride and the idea that they have to be “manly” that they’re afraid to show their soft sides. So trying to cuddle a guy with a mindset like this can be more than a little difficult.

Luckily for you, we have a solution for this very problem. We’ve uncovered what it takes to get a guy to cuddle with you and actually enjoy it. Here is your complete guide on how to cuddle with a guy.

1. Don’t ever call it cuddling

Or snuggling, for that matter. The second you start talking about cuddling or getting all snuggled up with him is the same moment he will get a little freaked out. Some guys don’t mind the word “cuddling,” but others get really nervous when hearing it.

You should leave these words out completely when talking about snuggling up with a guy. Instead, you can ask him to come to relax with you, sit with you, or really anything else that alludes to sitting closely together. [Read: How to ask a guy to hang out and make him want to even if you’re shy]

2. Never pressure him into it

Pressuring a guy into cuddling with you is a huge mistake for a lot of reasons. By pressuring him into it, you’re basically forcing him to do something that he doesn’t want to. Even if he ends up liking cuddling, if you pressure him into it, he won’t be into it, purely for the fact that it was forced upon him.

You have to let a guy cuddle you on his own terms. So never get angry if he doesn’t immediately want to be cuddly and affectionate. Just be patient. [Read: 14 signs you’re ruining your first date unknowingly]

3. How to initiate cuddling with a guy

Start by positioning yourself next to him. The first step of how to cuddle with a guy is to be somewhat sneaky in your approach. First, just start out by sitting next to him. This doesn’t create any suspicion, and if you feel good about your chances of cuddling with him, then you might even be able to inch in a little closer.

Wait for a time when he’s really relaxed and might be slightly distracted with a movie or even video games. This is a great time to slowly sit down as if you’re just relaxing next to him.

4. Slowly move closer to him

In order to get close enough for him to reach over and pull you in, you have to scoot on over closer to him. You should preferably be close enough so your thighs brush against each other when you’re sitting by him.

However, you have to do this slowly so he doesn’t really notice that you’ve gotten so close. You can do this by fidgeting a little bit and pretending that you’re trying to get more comfortable. This will land you right next to him without drawing suspicion. [Read: How to make a guy horny and rock hard just by casually sitting next to him]

5. Find an excuse to initiate contact

This is a whole lot easier when you have something to be talking about. Engaging in a conversation that is light and fun and also gives you an excuse to give him a little punch in the shoulder to push him over a little bit.

Another way to initiate contact is if you two are watching a scary movie and something frightening happens that causes you to grab his arm. Look around you and discover different ways you can use your surroundings to initiate contact of any kind. [Read: Movie date guide to building sexual chemistry in no time]

6. Make him want to hold you close

A favorite go-to hint to a guy to cuddle is to say something about how you’re cold. When you hint to a guy that you’re cold, this usually prompts him to wrap an arm around you or give you his jacket or sweatshirt.

There are a lot of different ways you can do this. Overall, you really just have to use your surroundings and get creative. This can sometimes be the hardest part of knowing how to cuddle a guy, but if you make him want to hold you close, it’s likely that he’ll do so for a long time.

7. Lean into his embrace

Once you’re finally in his arms for a hug, lean into him and relax in that position. Make sure your body language lets him know that it’s okay that he’s holding onto you so tightly.

You want to appear happy and comfortable. Otherwise, he might think that his embrace isn’t wanted. So lean into him and even rest your head on his chest or shoulder. [Read: Romantic hug vs friendly hug and how to feel the difference instantly]

8. Gauge his reaction

If a guy reaches for you and pulls you into his embrace, you have to watch his reaction. Some guys will be relieved that they finally have you in their grasp, and other guys will get nervous and maybe a little insecure in themselves because they think you might not want it.

If he reacts in a nervous way, snuggle up to him so he knows that you’re enjoying being wrapped in his arms. And if he seems like he’s enjoying himself, you can relax into him even further.

9. Let him further the cuddle

We all know that there are tons of different cuddling positions. Usually, when you’re first starting out, you’ll begin by just leaning against him as his arm wraps around your shoulder. That’s the most common beginner cuddle, and that’s because it’s easy to undo if one party isn’t quite feeling it.

Don’t try to lie on him or further the cuddle in any way, because it might make him a little nervous. Let him make the next move when cuddling to ensure that both of you are comfortable where you are. [Read: What is cuffing season and how to snuggle up with a cuff buddy ASAP]

10. Do this every time you see him

Guys have to get used to cuddling, as it’s not something that usually comes naturally to them. If you want to make cuddling with a guy a regular occurrence each time you see him, you have to go through these steps each time.

That way, you can work up to a point where you can just walk in and he’ll be there to pull you into his arms right away. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches to feel connected and loved]

Is it okay to cuddle with a guy friend?

While it depends on the two people involved, the general answer is… yes. It’s a fun activity, and it’s normal for a lot of people to express their affection with physical signs like hugging, holding hands, and cuddling. Think about it – relatives and friends hug, so cuddling is just a hug that lasts a lot longer.

However, you both should probably get clear on your feelings for one another so that he doesn’t get confused.

First, ask yourself what you want out of the cuddling. Do you secretly like him and hope it will lead to more? Or, are you just in the need of some close physical contact? [Read: Does my guy friend like me? 25 signs he’s crushing on you]

If you like him, then great. But keep in mind that he might not feel the same way. He might cuddle with you just to be nice and not hurt your feelings. You might get the wrong idea and think he likes you back.

If you don’t like him and you think he likes you, then cuddling with him will send him the wrong message. So, keep his feelings in mind so you don’t lead him on.

But if you have a feeling that you both like each other, then that is the best scenario. Cuddling is sort of a way to test the waters and ease yourself into something more if you’re on the same page about it. [Read: 23 signs he wants to kiss you and how to predict the moment when he’ll make the move]

How to cuddle with a guy and turn him on

If your objective for cuddling with a guy is to turn him on, then there are a few things you can do to make that happen.

1. Play with his hair

When someone plays with another person’s hair, it’s a flirty, romantic thing. Think about it. You don’t cuddle with your brother and play with his hair, right? This gesture shows sexual interest. And most guys are turned on when they think you want him.

2. Rub your hands on his arms or legs

You can roam your hands around parts of his body. Touch is a powerful aphrodisiac, so why not use it to your advantage. Slide your hands on his arms, his legs, and his chest casually as you’re snuggling up. Eventually, he’ll get the idea. [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a guy who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]

3. Put your head on his chest

If you are in a position to do so, put your head on his chest. Tell him you can hear his heartbeat. You can also rub your hands on his lower stomach closer to his private parts. While you do this, you can also put your face close to his when you talk. This is a great position to be in for him to kiss you.

[Read: Do guys like to cuddle? 19 truths you never knew before]

Cuddling with a guy can seem like a really easy and natural thing to do, but it’s actually a lot more complicated. This complete guide on how to cuddle with a guy will have you in the arms of every guy you want.

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