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Sexy Girlfriend: 20 Seductive Ways to be the Girl of your Man’s Dreams

Are you keen to learn how to be a sexy girlfriend for your guy? First, you need to learn what sexy is, and then learn to embrace your own sexy side! 

how to be a sexy girlfriend

There’s just no denying that guys think with something other than their brain. It’s just the cold hard truth, and ladies have to remember that. Fortunately, being a sexy girlfriend doesn’t have to do with what we look like nearly as much as you might think.

In fact, there can be ridiculously attractive girls who just aren’t sexy at all. Sexiness is much more about how you behave and your attitude more than it is about the way you look.

Yes, your boyfriend may think visually, but it’s the cues he’s seeing that make him think you’re sexy. You could say that it comes down to the X-factor, that invisible force that you can’t quite put your finger on, but one that’s extremely powerful. [Read: How to be sexy, look sexy, & feel sexy without ever trying too hard]

What exactly is sexy?

If you want to learn how to be a sexy girlfriend, you need to know what sexy is. So, what does it look like? How does it smell? What does it feel like?

Some bad news is coming your way – what one guy thinks is sexy, another guy will see as a total turn-off.

You see, sexy is a totally personal deal and it differs from guy to guy. That’s why you need to own your own version of sexy and allow it to exude through into everything you do.

You can go down the route of copying someone else that you assume to be sexy, but it’s not going to work for you. You know why? Because you’re not being true to yourself. Yes, sexiness is about how you look and how you carry yourself, but most of that comes from within. [Read: How to build self-confidence – 16 ways to realize you’re worth it]

No, this isn’t an Oprah-style ‘love yourself’ chat, but in many ways she is right. If you love yourself, inside and out, and you look after yourself completely, you’ll carry yourself with a positive posture and your head held high. You’ll exude happiness, health and comfort within yourself. There’s nothing sexier than that.

The one thing that sexy isn’t is showing too much skin. You might think that because guys are so visual, they want to see a flash of side boob or plenty of leg on show, but that’s only going to get their attention for a short while.

If you truly want to be a sexy girlfriend, you need to grab his attention and keep it. Show him just enough but not too much. Keep giving a little and holding it back. It’ll work like a charm and he’ll be addicted in no time! [Read: 25 things all guys find very sexy and attractive about a girl]

Can you be sexy if you don’t feel sexy?

In short, yes. Haven’t you ever heard the phrase, “Fake it ‘till you make it?”

Well, that’s exactly how you can be sexy, even if you don’t know how to be or you don’t necessarily feel like you’re the sexy type of girl. Everyone is sexy in their own way, but you need to feel it to show it.

Although you may have gone through life never feeling sexy before, it’s just because you didn’t really know how. Sure, some girls are kind of born to be sexy, while others have to learn how to do it.

But either way, you can definitely be sexy even if you’re not feeling like you are. Let’s look at a few tips to help you exude sexiness without even trying. [Read: How to be more confident with 12 simple daily self-love habits]

How to be a sexy girlfriend and transform into the girl of your boyfriend’s dreams

If you want to shock your boyfriend and become the girl he’s always wanted, you’ll need a few pointers. Guys kind of have this image of the perfect sexy girlfriend, and that’s usually one who can make him feel things that he never has before.

That may sound like a tall order to fill, but with these tips on becoming the sexy girlfriend your boyfriend always wanted, you’ll learn how in no time. Now, go surprise him and be that sexy girl he knows you can be!

1. Find out what he likes

Different guys find different things to be sexy. One guy may think you in a large t-shirt with your hair all messy is sexy, while another guy might think that looks lazy and unattractive. [Read: 10 Methods to thoroughly master the art of subtle sexiness]

Get to know him more and find out what he finds sexy. Listen to the comments he makes about certain girls in movies and whatnot. You can also pay attention to how he reacts to certain things you do. If he seems to think it’s sexy, do it more!

2. Gain some confidence

Confidence is vital in portraying yourself as sexy, even if you don’t think you are. If you can have confidence, or even fake it, you’ll be much sexier to him than you were before. [Read: How self-respect affects you and your relationship]

3. Make eye contact often

Never underestimate the power of eye contact. The reason this is so sexy is because it commands attention. If you walk into a room and slowly lift your lids and give your man eye contact, you’re making a connection out of pretty much nothing. That’s sexy.

4. Have a sense of humor

You can ask a whole lot of people out there and they’ll all agree that in order to be a sexy girlfriend, you have to have a sense of humor. Nothing is sexier than a girl that can take a joke and not make a big deal out of it. [Read: Types of humor and how it affects your relationship]

5. Use your smile

Smiling is extremely warming and sexy. If you’ve got a great smile, USE IT. You can light up an entire room with a smile, and he’ll notice just how sexy that is.

6. Have a signature scent and always smell great

We ladies all agree that when a man smells good, it’s really sexy, right? Well, not surprisingly, guys think the same thing about when a girl smells good.

The secret to this is to wear perfume *not a lot* right before having sex. Then use that same perfume when you go out together, and it’ll automatically make him think about when you two were intimate. And that’s really sexy. [Read: How to keep a guy interested in 30 super sexy ways]

7. Invest in some sexy clothing that makes you feel great

This doesn’t mean lingerie, necessarily. Different guys have different clothes they think are sexy. If your guy thinks you’re sexiest in a pair of leggings with a simple t-shirt, then go buy that!

However, buying something like lingerie that’s ONLY for his eyes can also be really sexy. However, you have to feel good in it otherwise your sexiness just won’t shine through.

8. Be interested in his interests

If he’s really into a certain book or movie or band, get interested in it, too. Obviously, don’t fake being into something just because he is. But gaining a genuine interest in his hobbies is going to be really sexy to him. [Read: How to make your boyfriend want you more than ever]

9. Play out his fantasies

Does your man always bring up the fact that you’d look really sexy in a nurse outfit? Well, then wear one and play out his fantasies!

Any girl that’s willing to compromise her pride – if the fantasy is embarrassing, at least – is going to be a really sexy girlfriend in the eyes of her boyfriend.

10. Don’t undress in order to be sexy

This is a really bad mistake that a lot of girls make when they want to be sexy. They start wearing less, showing more cleavage and skin, and getting sleazy instead of sexy.

Something that’s really sexy to a guy is when you’re really modest and appropriate in public, but a total sex machine when you’re alone. Save the undressing for his eyes – and only when you’re meant to be undressed. [Read: 15 super simple ways to keep yourself sexy at any age]

11. Have a healthy appetite

Girls who can chow down a burger and fries is sexy to guys. If you want to be a sexy girlfriend, then you’ve got to have an appetite.

We’re not saying you should fake loving crappy food. We’re saying that you should never hide or be embarrassed about the fact that you like to eat a lot of food.

12. Wear his t-shirt

When you’re just hanging out at his place, or you just got done having sex, throw on his t-shirt and walk around in only that. You wouldn’t believe how sexy it is for a guy to watch you walk around half-naked in his t-shirt.

13. Take it slow

Going straight for the sex when you first get together with your boyfriend is not sexy. In fact, it’s kind of trashy, and he’ll see you as more promiscuous than you probably are. Take things slow and build up respect first. [Read: 25 awesome ways to keep a guy hooked and happy in love]

Your man will think you’re SO sexy if he realized that you respect yourself, and he’ll also respect you – which only adds to how sexy he’ll think you are.

14. Touch him in all the right places, at the right time

No. Don’t grab his junk at every opportunity. That’s not sexy. But placing your hands in all the right places at the right times can work wonders in your favor.

When he walks past you, lightly touch his shoulder. When you hug him, brush your fingers through his hair. These little moments of contact can make you seem extremely sexy in his eyes. [Read: 16 more sassy ways to be really sexy for your man]

15. Be yourself

This is said time and time again, but there’s a reason for it. You have to be yourself if you ever hope to be seen as the sexy girlfriend.

When you’re trying to be someone else, you’re not genuine, and being fake isn’t sexy at all. Be yourself and you’ll find that the right boyfriend is going to find you to be the sexiest girlfriend he’s ever had.

16. Look after yourself

When you’re healthy on the inside, it shows on the outside. Make sure you eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly and get plenty of sleep. Drink plenty of water and get any heath concerns checked out.

Being sexy isn’t just about how you carry yourself, it’s how you look after yourself too – it’s an investment in who you are and how you feel. [Read: How to take care of yourself as a woman – 19 ways to power yourself]

17. Be independent

This doesn’t mean that you never make time for him, but it does mean you make time for yourself and your friends.

An independent woman is a sexy woman because she’s got her own stuff going on and she is showing her man that she doesn’t needs him, she wants him instead. Make sure you maintain a balance between being your man and seeing your friends/spending time on self-care.

18. Have your own opinions

A woman who can have a conversation and add value to it is a sexy woman indeed. If you want to be a sexy girlfriend, don’t just agree with everything your guy says, instead have your own opinions and be open to talking about them.

Don’t overpower him with your views, but show that you’re not a “yes” woman either. [Read: How to be a strong independent woman that men love]

19. Change your look when you want to

A sexy girlfriend isn’t afraid to try something new. If you want to try a new hairstyle, go for it! Perhaps you want to try a new look and you think it will suit you; in that case, try it out! Be fearless in changing things up occasionally and it will keep him on his toes!

20. Challenge yourself

Be up for a challenge! Don’t get stuck in a routine and always do the same things. That’s not sexy or fun. Yes, being sexy is about being comfortable in your own skin but you’ll be happier and more able to let your inner vixen shine if you’re enjoying life.

Try new things and push yourself at regular intervals. He’ll be transfixed by your bravery, and that’s super-sexy!

[Read: Tips to fall in love with yourself and be a better you]

Being sexy isn’t just about looking the part. There’s a lot more that goes into being the sexy girlfriend your boyfriend always wanted, and these tips will help get you there.

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