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17 Qualities of a Good Husband & Why these Traits In a Man Stand Out

If you’re on the hunt for the ideal guy to spend the rest of your days with, what are the qualities of a good husband? These traits top the list!

Qualities of a Good Husband

If you’re thinking about the future and on the lookout for a man to grow old with, what are the qualities of a good husband you should keep an eye out for? If you’re searching for the perfect man, let me stop you right there. He doesn’t exist. This is a mythical creature created by Disney and other movie directors to cause a world of relationship anxiety!

The reason the perfect man is akin to a unicorn is because nobody is perfect. Be honest. You’re not perfect either! Nobody should even attempt to be perfect, because quite frankly, life would be extremely boring.

However, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be looking out for specific qualities in someone who you’re thinking about spending a significant portion of your life with, if not all of it. 

[Read: The 23 characteristics of a man that make him reliable and desirable]

The 17 qualities of a good husband that you need to look for in a man you love

Remember, everyone has different tastes, so these 17 qualities might have a few added extras for some or a few omissions for others. Be openminded, but remember that a good character usually includes the following qualities. 

#1 No worries about showing affection. Nobody wants to be with a guy who has issues showing any type of affection. We all need a hug and a cuddle every now and again. While you might not want to be in a constant bear hug, you do need human contact to show that you’re loved and adored. [Read: How to show affection in a relationship when it doesn’t come naturally]

#2 He’s an independent type of guy. One of the best qualities of a good husband is that he is independent and can stand on his own two feet. He doesn’t need to rely on anyone else. He can link up with you and create a life without barriers.

#3 He is strong in his decisions. A guy who can’t make decisions is going to stress the life out of you. What happens when life throws you big decisions to make? You need to know that you’re both on the same page. It means you need someone who is able to make strong decisions, just like you can. [Read: Masculine traits: The 21 healthy and unhealthy manly characteristics]

#4 He has good morals. If you decide to have children some day, you should know that the father is able to be a good role model and show his morals. Even if you don’t have children, a man with strong morals is a good man, and an extremely attractive one!

#5 He is loyal and doesn’t cheat. Surely I don’t need to explain this one! One of the biggest qualities of a good husband is that he is unwaveringly loyal to you. He would never cheat on you with someone else. 

#6 He gives you freedom because he trusts you. A man who trusts you will have no problems with you going out and living your life, seeing your friends, etc. He does this because he knows that he can trust you. You will always come back to him at the end of the day.

The flip side of this is someone who is constantly calling and turning up when you’re out, checking up on you and seeing what you’re doing. That’s not what you need! [Read: The signs of a toxic boyfriend that should make you move away fast]

#7 He always uses his manners. You might not be with me on this one, but there is nothing more attractive than a man who uses his manners! I’m talking about ‘please’, ‘thank you’, being kind to waiters in restaurants, etc. This is one of the best qualities of a good husband because it shows respect for others. 

#8 He shows his appreciation of you. Everyone wants to feel appreciated. A man who shows that he appreciates all the things you do for him will be a good husband and partner for life. [Read: 25 love-filled ways to say “I appreciate you” without words]

#9 He has patience. Every couple argues from time to time. A man with patience will be able to side-step small issues and realize that the bigger pictures matters far more. This means not simply jumping towards anger when something small goes wrong. 

#10 He doesn’t give up easily. A man who is wiling to fight for his family and keep working, even when things are tough is someone you can rely upon. You’ll feel more secure in your relationship because you know that his persistence and tenacity will keep you all safe and secure. 

#11 He isn’t at the beck and call of his friends. Let’s be honest, some guys go running when their friends click their fingers. While you want him to spend time with his guys, you also want him to put your relationship and family as a priority. A guy who is able to find balance between friends and family is a keeper. [Read: The 13 signs friends are ruining your relationship and what to do about it]

#12 He is hardworking. A hardworking man will always help you to achieve your dreams, just as you will help him achieve yours. At the same time, he will do his fair share in terms of providing for you and your future children *if you choose to have them*. A hardworking man is as sexy as hell!

#13 He knows that all work and no play is no fun! At the same time as being hardworking, you don’t want a guy who works all the time and has no time for fun. If a guy knows how to laugh, do silly things, and basically enjoy the time you spend together, that’s one of the best qualities of a good husband. [Read: What makes a guy a good life partner and the perfect husband material?]

#14 He is a positive person. While everyone has their down days, being with someone who is constantly negative will suck the life out of you and leave you feeling down. If your husband is a positive and upbeat person most of the time, you’ll live a happy life together. 

#15 He understands you and what is important to you. Your relationship will be much more successful and enjoyable if you understand each other. One of the qualities of a good husband is that he understands you at your very core and what is important to you. [Read: 18 qualities of a good man that sets him apart from the lesser men]

#16 He is consistent. A man who says one thing and does another is not a good husband. Equally, a man who says something and then changes his mind the next day isn’t someone you can reliably plan a life with. A good husband is consistent. He does what he says he’s going to do. Sure, we all make mistakes occasionally, but on the whole this is something to look for. 

#17 He doesn’t hold grudges. A guy who holds grudges based on the tiniest thing will be difficult to build a future with. Grudges can easily turn toxic and negative. Over time, these will eat away at your happiness. On the other hand, a guy who knows how to forgive and forget will prove to be a positive and enjoyable partner. [Read: How to handle the sting of resentment in a relationship and overcome it]

Remember, nobody is perfect. You cannot write these qualities down and then go out with a clipboard, ticking items off whenever you meet a new guy! Instead, focus on finding someone who ticks most items off your list, and be prepared to bend a little and compromise. It’s helpful to remember that you’re not perfect either!

Next, check out, these 25 must-follow relationship rules for happy love that can transform your love life forever!

The qualities of a good husband may vary from person to person. Overall, being a stand-up guy, someone who is humble, has good morals, a sense of humor and fun, and willingness to work hard for his family are things you should be looking for.

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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