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Passion Party: What It Is, What Happens In It & How to Host One

You have probably heard of someone having a passion party, and now you’re curious. Here’s everything you need to know and how to make it fun.

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There’s nothing like a passion party to have a little fun and bond with your best friends. But you never want it to be boring. If it is, then it’ll just be awkward and uncomfortable – which will ruin everything about the get-together.

What is a passion party?

If you’re thinking this is just a giant sex party, you’re wrong. However, you’re not that far off. It’s not a party when a bunch of people get together to have sex, but it does involve sex toys and lubricants.

A passion party is when a bunch of ladies – and guys if they want to – get together to learn about different sex toys and products from a specific company. A rep from that company comes with all sorts of sex-related products and informs you and your friends about them.

Your friends then have the option to purchase toys at a discounted rate. It’s all about getting together and having fun together as girls. Usually, men sit these out unless they also want to have fun with dildos. [Read: 15 types of sex toys and all singles and couples must know about]

Why you should throw a passion party

Not only is it fun and different, but it’s also a little naughty and taboo too. Many women have been socialized to be prim and proper. They may like sex, but getting too kinky is something that might not have crossed their minds before.

That’s why passion parties that sell sex toys are the perfect solution. You come together with your friends to talk about sex and look at all the options out there to enhance your sexual pleasure.

Some women have problems achieving orgasm, and if you do, this is another big reason you should go to *or throw* a passion party. From vibrators to butt plugs, you will find everything you need to have a kinky sex life, whether you have a partner or not.

[Read: How to plan the perfect sex toy party with your friends]

Do your research first

There are different types of passion parties, and you can choose the theme you want. It can be a newbie’s guide, really kinky *like BDSM*, or you can focus on specific toys, or make it more romantic. Whatever you think you and your friends will like most.

Whichever one you choose, keep in mind that not every sex toy company will be exactly what you want. Some companies are better than others. It’s a huge market, so there is a lot of competition.

You will have to do a lot of research beforehand on different consultants who can run a passion party for you. Figure out what kind of party and toys you’d like to have, and then interview a few different places. You should even check reviews if you can.

Also, you will need to decide whether it will be a women-only passion party or co-ed. So, if you want men to attend as well, you should check with the companies to see whether they offer toys for both sexes. [Read: Homemade sex toys for men – A horny guy’s DIY guide to jerk off at home]

What happens at a passion party?

The person who throws the party will have to find a representative of a sex toy company, such as Pure Romance, to help out with this. There are always a wide range of products that you will see. Some examples include vibrators, edibles, role play costumes, butt plugs, body paints, and a lot more.

When you first get to the party, you will have your normal small talk with everyone attending. Usually, the women know most of the people there, but you might meet some new friends as well. You will mingle by eating snacks and wine or cocktails. The snacks will probably be sex-themed *see tips below for ideas*.

Learning while having fun at a passion party

The sex toy consultant will be there to educate the crowd and answer all of their questions. They will probably get the party started with some x-rated icebreaker games so everyone can meet and get to know each other better.

The icebreakers are important because it leads to a lot of laughter and sets a positive tone for the rest of the passion party. Everyone there should have a great sense of humor, too!

Keep in mind, whether you are hosting the party or just attending, it has to be a judgment-free zone. You can’t be critical of anyone because you want the whole party to be comfortable and fun for everyone.

While most of these parties are for women only, occasionally people will have a co-ed one. Either way, it’s fun, but the mix of the people involved will affect the atmosphere of the passion party.

When the party gets going, you might have the chance to test, taste, or lick some of the sample products. The consultant will explain how everything works, pass around things like lube, creams, perfumes, lingerie, toys, and lip gloss. If you don’t want to sample anything, you usually won’t be forced to.

The hostess might start out with the more mild sex toys and work her way up to the more shocking ones. The reason for this is that the crowd can get more used to seeing these objects before the toys get really hardcore. Plus, everyone has their own comfort level with kinky things. [Read: The vajankle and other downright creepy sex toys you probably don’t know about]

While a lot of the toys are for couples, there are also things that you can use if you’re single too. Just because you don’t have a partner, that doesn’t mean you can’t have some solo fun of your own with some of these toys. And once you do find a partner, you will be able to incorporate them into your relationship in the future.

You might be wondering about privacy. Because, let’s face it, if a sex toy shows up in the mail, you might get some strange looks from people. Also, you might be uncomfortable ordering products in front of the other party attendees. 

Usually, the consultant will meet with you in a private room or a quiet area by yourself. But of course, most people there really don’t care what you buy. But if you live with your partner, he might! [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying once in your lifetime]

Keep in mind that a passion party is about learning and sexual empowerment. Try not to be embarrassed or offended when you either attend or host one. Trust us, you and your friends will have a blast.

With the right group of people, some sex-themed snacks, and a lot of laughs, you will definitely have an amazing time.

How to make your passion party one to remember

As mentioned above, having a dull passion party is awkward. Since there are sex products and if you’re not letting loose and having fun with it, discussion and handling of the products can be really uncomfortable.

If you want to throw a sex toy party but aren’t sure where to start, we have some tips that’ll make it one hell of a night. [Read: Weird sex – the strangest and wildest sex acts you may want to try]

1. Alcohol is very helpful

The topic of sex and even sex toys can make some people uncomfortable. Even if you’re only with friends, it can get weird sometimes. For that reason, just supply some alcohol.

It’ll soothe people’s nerves and even make the evening a lot more fun. You can even have people bring different drinks and use penis-shaped straws to drink from.

Not only does this add a little silliness to the evening, but the alcohol will certainly help. [Read: The 87 best dirty truth or dare questions for a wild night with friends]

2. Have some games

Games are a great way to break the ice and get people to start having fun. Bonus points if the game has something to do with sex toys. You can even purchase a toy ahead of time and have it be the grand prize for the winners.

People will work hard for the prize and it’ll kickstart a fun evening. Do the game at the very beginning so everyone is in good spirits for the afternoon of sex toy fun.

3. Choose a fun rep

When you have a passion party, a rep comes to your home with all the products to display and talk about. Because they’ll be discussing the uses and benefits of different toys and lubes, you want someone fun.

Having a boring person talk about dildos will just ruin the night. You can talk to the rep before hiring them and even get some references so you know you’ll be in good, entertaining hands. [Read: How to have fun with friends with 30 boredom-beating games]

4. Don’t invite friends who aren’t into it

You might have friends that are very shy and uncomfortable when talking about sex stuff. If that’s the case, they might not be a good addition to the party.

You can still invite them so they won’t be upset with you but if they do want to come, just let them know what’ll happen. Tell them it’ll be a lot of sex talk and sex toys right in their face. That way they can make the decision to join or not.

5. Be active in the demonstrations

No, you don’t have to get up in front of your friends and use the toy right there. However, if the rep needs someone to demonstrate or use their hands on the toys or test out the lube, volunteer.

It’ll make your friends a lot more comfortable when you’re up there doing it all too. They’ll feel way better about jumping in and getting their hands on the demonstration dildos and vibrators. [Read: How to be funny and make people love your company]

6. Have lots of snacks

Snacks are a very comforting food. People tend to snack in uncomfortable situations. It’s a soothing mechanism that works fantastically. Always make sure there are plenty of snacks ready to go when your guests arrive.

7. Make phallically shaped goodies

When choosing snacks, get some penis-shaped ones. You can buy them or even make them yourself if you have or want to purchase molds in naughty shapes. It’s a fun way to feed everyone while sticking with the theme.

Plus, if there are penises everywhere, it makes the dildos and sex toys much less daunting. So go ahead and make that penis cake. Everyone will love it. [Read: 8 fun and flirty games for your naughty house party]

8. Put together gift bags

What’s a good party without some awesome party favors? Making a gift bag for everyone to take home at the end of the night is a perfect way to get people to go.

Not only will they be excited to be at the party, but it’ll be even more memorable if you send little toys and bottles of testing lube along with them. They might even like a sample so much they get the real thing.

9. Music is always beneficial

Music keeps people entertained when there’s nothing really going on. So if the rep is in between presentations and you still have some music playing, your guests won’t really feel bored.

You can even throw on some naughty music to fit the mood. Playing some Marvin Gaye or music with an underlying sex theme could provide a lot more entertainment than you think. They’ll be singing along and laughing with the music. [Read: The absolute best sex-related playlist guide]

10. Tell your favorite sex stories

Sure, girls talk about their relationship with their friends. And sometimes they talk about their sex life too, but usually not in detail.

So, at the passion party, you can encourage the people there to share their favorite sex stories. It could be the favorite place they did it, their favorite partner *and why*, or their favorite position/sex act. [Read: 40 sexy and dirty would you rather questions that’ll make anyone horny just hearing them!]

 11. Just have a good time

Don’t worry so much about what other people are doing. Enjoy your party for yourself. You wanted to have a passion party to learn about some sex toys and have a good time with friends.

So just do that. If your friends feel a little weird, it could be because you do. Loosen up and have a good time. They’ll follow and the more fun you’re having, the more fun they’ll have too!

[Read: The best group dirty drinking games for naughty men and women]

When it comes to planning a passion party, you want to make sure it’s a good time for everyone. These tips will not only keep it entertaining, but your friends won’t be able to forget it!

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