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Losing Interest in Your Boyfriend? Signs You Should Never Ignore

Does your relationship seem to be more wane than wax lately? Have sparks fizzled? Here are all the signs you’re losing interest in your boyfriend, and fast.

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Relationships can be filled with all your attention, or they make you feel exhausted and bored, leading you to focus your attention on other things. If you are uncertain if you’re still into him, these eight signs show if you are losing interest in your boyfriend.

When you first start dating, you are super excited about them and every little second of their lives. You want to be with each other all the time, and you probably find yourself texting each other or calling to check in whenever you get a free moment.

When you’ve been dating each other for a little while, you might find yourself caring a little less about what they are doing. You stop texting about their work day, what they had for lunch, and the other little details you used to agonize over. When you’ve reached this point, it’s important to ask yourself if you are still into your relationship, or if you’re losing interest. [Read: 15 reasons why you’re getting bored with your relationship]

Going… going… gone – How to tell if you’re losing interest in your boyfriend

The signs below tell you if it’s just your ADD kicking in and causing you to not be so focused on your beau, or if it’s actually your subconscious trying to tell you you’re just over it.

#1 You no longer crave them as much sexually. If in the beginning of your relationship, you had passionate hook-up sessions and honestly swore to all your friends that he was and is the best sex you’ve ever had, but now you no longer even care to find out if that is true or not, then it’s safe to say you are definitely not as into him as you were.

When you really want to be with your man, and you are really into him, then trust me when I say you also really want to keep the passion going—because you crave it. You want to create the special connection you get when your sex is on fire! [Read: Fun sex games to play with your boyfriend and keep sex exciting]

#2 You don’t pay attention when they talk.  Another way to tell you’re no longer into your relationship is by how you make them feel when you have conversations with each other. For example, if you used to have energy-filled conversations, constantly inquiring about each other’s day, but you no longer really care how his work day went, it’s safe to say you’re losing interest.

If you find yourself daydreaming about other things, and paying more attention to the TV left on in the background when he tells you things about his day, then you aren’t nearly as interested in him as you once were.

#3 You don’t text or check in as often. When you are in a relationship with a guy you really love and care about, especially in the beginning, it’s a sure bet you text and call each other as often as possible. When you’re in a relationship you want to be in, you stay tuned in to each other at all times.

If you no longer check in, and you don’t send him selfies during the day because you want to remind him how beautiful you are, then you really don’t care about the relationship the way you once did. [Read: How to save your relationship: 16 practical ways to make it]

#4 You never want to do anything. If you find yourself always saying no to the things you used to say yes to, it’s a sign you might not be as interested in your relationship. If you no longer care to do things with him—for example, go to the movies, take a road trip, or just go out with some friends—then you are probably stuck in a relationship rut.

#5 You start texting other guys. This huge red flag shows you no longer care for your man. If you find yourself scrolling through your Rolodex, looking for those guys that used to wait in the wings, and text them to see what they are up to.

You no longer seek just your current boyfriend’s attention. If you need attention from other guys, you have, without a doubt, lost interest in your relationship. [Read: 10 common reasons why girls with boyfriends flirt with other guys]

#6 You find yourself with a wandering eye. It’s fine to think Brad Pitt or some supermodel is sexy *from far away*. And it’s okay if you and your boyfriend both know who your celebrity crush is. But that’s as far as it should go. You shouldn’t start pursuing these crushes in real life.

If you find yourself looking at every semi-attractive guy that walks past you, and you really don’t care if your boyfriend knows or not, then it’s safe to say you are not focused on just him. Your curiosity is getting the best of you. [Read: Am I cheating? 8 signs you’re accidentally doing it]

#7 Suddenly, you get annoyed with them easily. Just like your frenemy, whose every little photo or status post annoys you, you develop an irritation toward your relationship. It could be something as simple as eating a sandwich “too loudly.”

If you start screening their calls, and hit “ignore” every time they call you, because you think its annoying, then it’s time for you to have a serious conversation. Ask yourself if you are wasting both your time. If everything they do starts to annoy you, it won’t get better… it’ll only get worse. [Read: 16 clear signs you need to break up with boyfriend right away]

#8 You never want to spoil them. When you love someone and want to be with them, you take care of them. You want to much more than you need to. You find yourself asking what they might want for dinner over what you want, or you find yourself shopping for them instead of looking for yourself. [Read: How to make your guy realize he’s losing you – 13 hints that work]

But if you don’t care enough to take the time to cook them their favorite meal, surprise them with new lingerie, or get them some new shirts, these are all signs of you no longer being as into the relationship as you once were. When you really like someone and want to be with them, you want them to know that—all the time, anytime.

[Read: 22 big, early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]

Although losing interest in your relationship doesn’t always spell doom, it should give you pause and make you question if your current relationship is really what you want. It is up to you to decide if you want to revive it… or let it go.

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Charley Reid
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