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How to Kiss a Guy Well: 21 Secrets to Arouse Him with Your First Kiss

Kissing is always fun and exciting, but it can be nerve-wracking too. So, here’s how to kiss a guy for the first time and what to expect next!

how to kiss a guy for the first time

Remember the first time you had a kiss with a guy for the first time?

You obviously had a hard time trying to work the right way to do it in your head.

But as soon as you approached that inevitable moment, you realized that it’s as natural, easy, and simple as breathing.

All you need to do is take things slow and easy and wait for both your lips to start moving against each other’s until they reach the perfect synchrony. As complicated as it may seem at first, it’s just as easy once you lock your lips.

When you have to kiss a guy for the first time, the first few seconds is always tricky.

You may have kissed a lot of guys. But you’ve never really kissed this guy before. Both of you have your own kissing styles and approaches, and it’s easy to turn a perfect opportunity into a confusion of sorts.

[Read: 15 secrets to make your first kiss with anyone really memorable]

How to kiss a guy for the first time and kiss him well!

If you want to know how to kiss a guy well when you kiss him for the first time, and turn him on, and part your lips from his with a memorable impression after the kiss, just use these steps on how to kiss a guy to do just that!

1. Come close to him

Yes, this is easy. All you need to do is come close. Don’t crane your neck out to kiss him from some distance. It’s not comfortable and you really can’t enjoy the perfect first kiss. 

The closer you are to him, the more both of you will enjoy the kiss and the more the chances are of you getting to arouse him discreetly.

2. Let him take the lead

Kiss him, but let the guy take the lead. Unless you’re making out with a first-time kisser, touch your lips to his softly and wait while he applies some pressure on your lips with his.

Don’t purse your lips or pucker up, it’ll stiffen your lips which will make him feel like he’s kissing a wall. Keep your lips soft and slightly parted. It’ll feel softer, plumper, delicate, and easily accessible. [Read: 25 tips to look cute and sweet when you’re with your boyfriend]

3. Keep it short, silly

The first kiss is the ice breaker, but it’s never more than that unless both of you are horny or extremely turned on. If it’s a romantic moment where there’s a lot of love or infatuation in the air, take it slow. 

If you want to create a memorable romantic kiss, the first kiss should preferably be a small soft graze of both your lips that lasts for a few seconds. Part your lips after this first kiss, look into his eyes, and follow this first little kiss with a few more soft kisses.

You don’t have to breathlessly eat his face the very first time both your lips touch. Instead, take some breathing space and look into each other’s eyes for a few seconds before going back in for a second, much longer and more passionate kiss.

But then again, if both of you are already horny, you can expect the very first kiss to last way longer and feel more passionate and lustful as well! [Read: Simple peck or a steamy makeout – What you should learn about a good first kiss]

4. Each kissing style is unique

Don’t force the kiss or jump right into it even if you’re worried that the kiss won’t last long. It might turn out to be a bad experience. Take it slow and learn from each other. 

As both of you softly kiss each other for a few seconds, both of you can slowly see how either of you move while kissing and follow each other’s cues to create a perfect new kissing style that works for both of you. [Read: The perfect first kiss – 22 tips to make it oh-so-amazing]

5. Part your lips

After a few soft grazes of your lips with his, linger your lips on his for a few more seconds each time. And along the way, part your upper and lower lips just a bit so you let him know it’s alright to use a bit of tongue when he’s ready. [Read: How to kiss with tongue – 20 sexy tips to make you a makeout maestro]

6. Placing your hands

When you start kissing him, slowly move your hand and place it on the sides of his shoulder, or just under his arm. It’s an intimate move that’ll bring both of you closer. And by doing this, you’re getting closer and letting him know that it’s alright for him to touch you back. 

By placing your hand on his shoulder or under his arm, you’ll give him enough space to comfortably move his hands against your face while kissing you. [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and leave him hooked]

7. Gentle body contact

If you want to know how to kiss a guy for the first time and leave him yearning for more, you should know that body contact between both of you can be really sexy and intimate at the same time. And the best part is that you’d be able to turn him on without ever making it seem like you’re easy to get.

As you kiss him, move closer and slide your hand over his back. Come close to him, and he’ll instinctively come closer to you.

If you’ve planned this move right, his chest would be perfectly positioned to graze your chest every time both of you move while kissing each other. And your passion-filled, heaving bosoms will be something he’ll always remember as part of his first kiss experience with you! [Read: 15 kissing techniques for that heartbeat-skipping kiss]

8. Move your face

As you kiss a guy for the first time, lift your chin up and turn your face sideways ever-so-slightly, so he can instinctively kiss your chin and neck.

This move is always more intimate than a plain kiss on the lips with no other moves. It’ll turn him on a lot more too, just like it’ll turn you on and have you gasping in seconds. It also gives him an opportunity to kiss you on your neck, shoulders and way below as well.

9. Spend a while kissing

A first kiss isn’t really the first kiss. It’s a series of several kisses that help you understand each other’s kissing styles and increase intimacy. 

If you want to have a perfect kiss with the guy you like, spend several minutes kissing each other the first time. And somewhere along the way, both of you would feel more connected and in tune with each other’s moves and techniques. 

A kiss that doesn’t feel right will always leave you in doubt about whether the chemistry’s missing. Instead of worrying about chemistry, just take it slow and easy and learn along the way. [Read: An embarrassing first kiss story that shows where things can go wrong in a first kiss]

10. Move your hands

Enjoy the kisses, but don’t stop there. If you want to know how to kiss a guy for the first time and leave him wanting more, you need to do more than just kiss him. 

While kissing him, move your hands away from his back and gently move them along the contours of his shoulders and chest. It’ll bring both of you closer and give him the confidence to do the same to you. 

Enjoy the kiss and enjoy each other’s sensual touches as both your fingers move along each other’s bodies for the first time.

But if you’re not ready for where his hands are leading him, especially if he’s inching closer to your breasts or your pant’s zipper, clasp his hand gently and move them to a place on your body where you’re comfortable with him touching. He’ll get the point and wait for your approval the next time. [Read: 21 big signs he wants you bad and is irresistibly attracted to you]

The most important things to remember while kissing a guy for the first time

Want to kiss your first kiss with a guy even better? here are a few subtle details you should always remember to make sure any kiss of yours feels like a dream come true for a guy!

1. The best position

Seated kisses are best if you plan to spend a while kissing and making out, especially if you’re in the car. It’s more comfortable, relaxed, and you don’t need to worry about weak knees after a while.

2. Standing kisses

Kissing a guy while standing face to face is perfect for short, romantic soft kisses, especially the first goodnight kisses after a date. [Read: How to make out with a guy for the first time like a real sex goddess]

3. Difficult makeout kisses

Kissing while standing can be uncomfortable at times, especially if you want his hands to get under your shirt. He’ll have to lift your shirt all the way up in a standing position, which is definitely inappropriate and hard to do on a romantic date.

4. Communication

You don’t need to talk at all through the entire kissing experience. Your expressions will do all the talking.

5. Prepare for it

If you know you’re going to end the date with a kiss, chew gum, or have a mint so you can avoid bad breath. If there’s no gum around, have a few sips of water and lick your lips. It’ll moisten it and feel more supple during the kiss. [Read: How to get a guy to kiss you whenever you want him to – The secret moves that work like a charm]

6. Go with the flow

Once you have a vague idea of how to perfect the first kiss with a guy, you’ll never go wrong. So start slowly with a few lip grazes and work your way closer to each other.

7. End the first kiss right

End the series of first kisses with a warm soft hug, or even a gentle smile and a last soft kiss on his lips. It’ll be the perfect way to end the date and leave a lasting impression on him. [Read: How to tell if a guy likes kissing you and is turned on while kissing]

8. The final touch

Make a move one last time. Making a move to kiss him one final time before saying goodbye after both of you back away lets him know that you enjoyed his kiss and would love to initiate it some other time. [Read: How guys really fall in love with a girl in seven stages]

What to expect after you kiss a guy for the first time

When you kiss a guy for the first time, sometimes you wonder what will happen next. Well, the expectations for that really vary depending on under what circumstances you kissed him.

If you are at a party or bar with your friends, you might have met a new guy that you kissed. Or, on the other hand, it could be someone you know – or even a friend. Or you may be hanging out with a friend at home and both of you may end up kissing.

So, let’s talk about some different scenarios that might pop up and what you should do in each one.

1. A stranger

When you are at a party and you meet someone new, it can be fun. And if this guy is particularly attractive, it’s not a surprise that you want to kiss him. If he returns the affection, then you need to figure out what will happen next. [Read: How to become a good kisser – 15 moves to lose your imperfect pucker]

But, in this situation, have low expectations. Sometimes people are just caught up in the moment and so they go in for a kiss. Or, maybe they’ve been drinking and weren’t very careful because they have lowered inhibitions.

Either way, be aware that nothing could come of it. If he asks you for your number, then maybe there will be. [Read: Drunk kiss dilemma – So you drunk kissed someone… now what?!]

2. An acquaintance

Maybe there was someone there who you were vaguely familiar with, such as a co-worker or someone in one of your classes. In this case, they are a step above a stranger, but you still don’t know much about them.

So, this could be good or awkward. If you both really hit it off, it could turn into something more than just a kiss. But if alcohol was involved and one or both have no intention to take it any further, it could be difficult seeing them again.

You might just want to ignore it unless he brings it up. Let him take the lead in this situation. [Read: The major first kiss red flags that lead to a toxic relationship]

3. A friend

If you are talking to a good friend at a party or bar, or hanging out at home, then a kiss between you two can be good or bad, depending on the circumstances. You will need to figure out why the both of you wanted to kiss each other. Is it because you both have crushes and wanted to do it for a long time?

Or, it could have also just been an “in the moment” kind of situation.

In that case, you will have to sit down with your friend and talk about what the kiss meant to you both. Do either one of your want to take it further? If you want to start dating, let him bring it up first. If he wants to ask you out, he will.

[Read: 15 Types of kisses and how to decipher what each kiss and the location means subconsciously]

And that’s all there is to know when it comes to kissing a guy and leaving a memorable impression. Just use these tips on how to kiss a guy for the first time, and you’ll enjoy it more and definitely leave him wanting a lot more!

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Francesca Marie
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