Learning how to be feminine isn’t as difficult as it looks. But if you want to reconnect with your femininity, keep reading this article to learn how.
Look, there’s nothing wrong with wearing sweatpants with lazy hair. This isn’t a bad thing, even though people like to think it is. But learning how to be feminine and bringing out that softer side isn’t bad either. Society led us to believe that being too feminine is bad, so we’re told to toughen it up.
All those little sayings, you throw like a girl or stop being a pussy, they get to you over time. So, you toughen up and become like “one of the guys.” Being tough isn’t a bad thing either, but we all have a feminine side—even men. Contrary to popular belief, you aren’t weak if you learn how to be feminine.
Since when has one gender been perceived as more fragile than another anyway? [Read: How to tap into the powerhouse of divine feminine energy]
What does femininity really mean?
We all like to think that being feminine means being soft or wearing pink or all those things connected to femininity. But it’s beyond all those things. Similar to masculinity, there isn’t just one definition of what it means to be feminine. Just because you’re not X and Y, you’re not feminine – it doesn’t work that way.
But if you want to start learning how to be feminine, you need first to let go of all the social constructs and what society made you think was feminine. Stop thinking that it’s weak if you show your emotions and aren’t as invincible anymore.
Stop thinking that you need to wear the perfect fitting dress and have fabulous make-up to be more feminine. Most importantly, stop seeing other women as your threat. Femininity doesn’t require you to compete against others or be above them.
Support other women as they are your people. They’re not supposed to be a threat. These are just some aspects of what it means to be feminine, as we’ll be discussing more on this feature.
How to be feminine
Are you wanting to learn how to be feminine? If so, that’s great. It wasn’t until my mid-twenties, where I started to want to be more feminine. The problem was I had no idea what to do. Putting on make-up or eating with a fork and knife was almost foreign to me. Okay, I’m starting to make myself sound like Tarzan. I wasn’t that bad, but you know what I mean.
And becoming feminine wasn’t easy for me. It’s still not easy for me. But if you’re here, you want to put in the effort and change. Good for you. I’m here to help you out and put you on the right path to reconnecting with your feminine side. Let’s bring that softer side out.
1. Free your mind
You probably didn’t think this was going to be a step, but it is. If you want to reconnect with your feminine side and want to know how to be feminine, you need to free your mind. Being feminine is about being free. Stop focusing on how you’re not feminine enough or what femininity is to everyone else.
Stop overthinking it and let go of all the social constructs you’ve been told, as we said earlier. You won’t learn how to be feminine if you don’t let yourself be free first. [Read: 12 easy steps to a dramatic life makeover]
2. Become more vulnerable
We always assume vulnerability is being weak, but it’s not. Being vulnerable is about opening yourself up. If you’re always acting tough, your guard is constantly up. You’ll never be able to let people into your life. Bring that wall down and reconnect with yourself.
It’s always scary to be more vulnerable, but it’s not as frightening as you might think. If you really want to learn how to be feminine, you need to be more vulnerable and open. Let others in, and you’re a step closer to being more feminine. [Read: How to open up by being vulnerable and welcoming life in]
3. Receive compliments and help
Having someone hold a door open for you isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It doesn’t mean you’re weak; it shows respect and politeness. Instead of responding rudely, accept the help and kind gesture. If someone compliments you, accept the compliment by saying, “thank you.”
Learn basic etiquette and receive support whenever needed, and that’s how you can be more feminine. If someone says something positive, appreciate it and express your thanks.
4. Practice self-care
This doesn’t mean you need to wax your whole body and get your nails done. Remember, the physical appearance is only a small fraction of what being feminine means. Instead, practice self-care. Do things for yourself that make you happy.
If you enjoy reading a book while taking a bath, do that. If you like yoga or going for walks, do those activities. This is your me-time, so better enjoy it while you can. A huge portion of being feminine is knowing how to care for yourself and prioritize yourself properly.
5. You don’t need to layer on make-up
Many people believe femininity is about make-up. It’s not. Sure, you can wear make-up and look more feminine, but femininity comes from within. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and confident. If applying Chapstick is a big step for you, stick to that. You don’t need to pile make-up on your face.
There’s no need to get obsessed with make-up to be more feminine as that’s not a requirement. You can do it if it helps, but you’re not more feminine just because you have make-up on. Remember that. [Read: How to unleash your inner vixen and use your feminine wiles]
6. Don’t be afraid to try new things
Being feminine isn’t about waiting at home for your partner with dinner ready on the table. That doesn’t make you feminine. If you want to reconnect with this side of you, try new things. If you’re more sporty, try something that’s completely opposite. Try painting or writing; explore your emotional side.
Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous and adventurous with trying a bunch of new things, even those that are beyond your horizon. You’ll only learn how to be feminine when you embrace trying new things!
7. Explore different clothes
Don’t be afraid to try new styles out; you may find something that you like. Even if you probably have a few sets of clothes that are closest to your fashion sense, don’t be afraid to explore other options. You might be surprised how many different clothes out there you’d like if you only took a chance to try them out!
For instance, you might initially be against the idea of wearing heels but grow to love them. So don’t hesitate to try different clothes if you want to embrace your femininity! [Read: How to revamp and reveal the hot and sexy you]
8. Get over the idea of competition
As we said, other women are not and should never be your competition. Women are always pinned against each other, but that’s not going to help you reconnect with your feminine side.
If you want to become more feminine, focus the attention on yourself, and don’t compete against other women. This isn’t a competition. Be more focused on supporting other women than being threatened by them.
9. Tone down the swearing
If you want to be more feminine, you need to clean up your language. This isn’t even about being feminine; it’s about looking mature and classy.
There’s nothing wrong with swearing, but it’s not precisely perceived as elegant and refined. So if you can, control your swearing or at least just reduce it by a bit. [Read: 10 quickest steps to be a lot more elegant and graceful]
10. Don’t gossip
Becoming feminine isn’t about making yourself feel good by pushing other people down. Being feminine is about working on yourself. You don’t need to judge or gossip about other women.
Remember, this is about you, not them. Gossiping is the opposite of what you should do in learning how to be feminine. Gossiping is how you tear down other people, so refrain from doing it. All it does is spread negativity and drama.
11. Care about things you care about
We know that sounds a little confusing, but we’ll explain. If you want to learn how to be feminine, drop the whole aggressive or indifferent act. It’s okay to show you care about things that mean something to you. It’s okay to show your emotions. This doesn’t mean you’re weak or broke.
This is similar to the second point, which explains vulnerability. You don’t need to act numb or indifferent because emotions do NOT make you weak no matter what. In fact, emotions make you stronger! [Read: How to build self-confidence – 16 ways to realize you’re worth it]
12. Let go
This is an important step you need to take. If you want to truly become feminine, let go of other people’s expectations and opinions. Live your life and free yourself from judgment.
Once you let go and accept who you are, you’ll be able to connect with your feminine side and show your femininity. You have to be free, and you can only achieve freedom by letting go. So stop resisting who you are and pretending to be someone you’re not. [Read: The ultimate guide to being more feminine and look more girly]
13. Maintain an adequate body weight
While physical attributes aren’t all that femininity is all about, it certainly plays a part. You need to maintain a healthy body weight, which is pretty self-explanatory. Don’t be obese, but don’t be too thin either.
Have a weight that looks and feels just right. Also, it helps to exercise regularly and eat a balanced diet to keep a balanced weight. Being feminine is also how your body appears so by taking care of your body, you also show off your femininity. [Read: 20 Hot tips: The ultimate guide to being more feminine]
14. Don’t be loud
Being loud won’t help you get anywhere near learning how to be feminine. Similar to not cursing and swearing so much, you won’t be seen as feminine if you’re too loud that your voice rises above all the other voices.
You might want to tone it down a notch and keep your voice down. We’re not saying to be too quiet either, but your voice should be somewhere in the middle of loud and soft. [Read: Feminine Wiles: 15 ways to unleash your inner vixen & hook any man]
15. Avoid acting like a know-it-all
Nobody likes a know-it-all, and this isn’t an attractive trait on a female. If you’re serious about learning how to be feminine, you shouldn’t be acting like you know everything and like you’re the best person in the room *because you’re not*.
Don’t speak more than you listen, but be open to learning something new everything. When you’re too assertive and become a know-it-all, it will put the others in the room. Not to mention, it won’t show off your femininity at all. [Read: 16 reasons why you’re always being taken for granted]
16. Be flirtatious and playful
Women are generally known for their flirtatious and playful side, so don’t hesitate to show this off. This is what makes women very feminine *and it also makes them incredibly adorable*. So if you’re on a date, flirt and be playful with your man.
We guarantee that this is one of the sure-fire ways to learn how to be feminine. Don’t be shy and awkward – flirt with him and show him a little bit of your seductive side. [Read: How to flirt with a guy subtly without really flirting at all]
17. Prioritize hygiene
Hygiene is everything when it comes to being feminine. You can’t be perceived as feminine if you don’t prioritize your hygiene and know how to groom. You can wear the perfect makeup and dress, but you won’t be as feminine if you don’t properly care for yourself.
You need to feel good to look good, and you can’t achieve that without proper hygiene. This is how you can look presentable – both for yourself and others. [Read: How to never lose your sex appeal: Master The art of Je Ne Sais Quoi]
18. Never compete
Women are known to compete against other women, but this is far from feminine. In fact, this is what destroys femininity altogether. So if you want to learn how to be feminine, you need to support other women and celebrate their successes instead of being threatened by them.
Competition isn’t healthy, and nothing about it shows off the good aspects of your feminity. So destroy the idea that you need to compete with other women and support them instead.
[Read: How to attract men: The irresistible secrets no one talks about!]
So, how to be feminine
So you see, it’s really not that hard to be feminine. You just need to embrace who you are and stop overthinking if you’re feminine enough or not. Start there, and you’ll find the rest of the steps on this list will be easy enough.
If you practice some of these tips for how to be feminine on a daily basis, you’ll slowly reconnect with your feminine side. Remember, patience is key, as you can’t be feminine overnight.
