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Home Wrecker – The Other Woman in an Affair

Being the other woman in an affair can be demeaning and painful. But is the other woman the real home wrecker? Or are there others to blame too?


Click here to read the introduction and the real story on having an affair with a married man.

Without really realizing, I was actually the home wrecker and the other woman in an affair.

I didn’t want to be there, but you can see how I was drawn into a web of deceit and passion each time, in the introduction.

But was I the one to be blamed?

You know my story, you be the judge.

Home wrecker – The tag

When you’re in love with a married man, it doesn’t really matter if he seduced you into a relationship or whether you tricked him into having an affair. It’s all the same.

And you are the home wrecker. The bitchy other woman in an affair that’s twisted and painful.

But quite frankly, no one will care about you.

You may be having an affair with a married man, and things may be cruising along perfectly. But have you ever imagined what could happen if you ever got caught? Are you ready to face the humiliation of dating a married man?

Having an affair is easy, carrying the home wrecker tag for life isn’t.

What happens when you get caught?

Someone once said “All good things don’t really have to end, but when it does, it has to end in a bad way.”

Bless that person who said that, though he’s not particularly right. When you’re having an affair with a married man, no matter what, it definitely has to end when you’re the other woman.

The married man knows what he wants out of the relationship he shares with you, even if you’ve lost it somewhere along the way. You are nothing but a Japanese sex toy for him. I’m sorry, but that’s true.

He will not leave his wife, his kids, and his mum! And he wouldn’t want to leave you. And the worst part of it all is that, five years later, you’d feel like rubbish because you may have been able to live happily with another young man who could have loved you back in the first place. And that’s when you feel terribly lost and alone. [Read: Do you feel lost in life?]

If that’s not bad enough, there will come a time when both of you get caught.

Remember, even sneaky little rats do get caught, however nimble and nocturnal they are. It may be his wife, or one of his closer family friends. That’s when the bomb explodes. And sorry about this, but whether you like it or not, there will be no fingers pointing at him, every one of them will gleam like daggers in your direction.

Why not? You are the “home wrecker”, aren’t you? Why would a happily married man with kids want to walk out on his family?

You are the scandalous other woman and you do this to all men, you ruin their lives. It must have been you who tricked and deceived him into it. Everyone would say the same thing. And so would your married lover.

The story of the other woman in an affair

Let’s face it, gossip is hot stuff, even if at the expense of someone else. So when the word gets out on the streets, tongues will wag and heads will loll!

The home wrecker is the bitchy seductress [Read: Bitchy women]. Why couldn’t the girl tighten the buckles in her belt and chase the married man away? Like she didn’t know he was married! Yep, it’s all about you, the girl. Surprisingly, the guy stays out of the picture. You’re the evil one. His kids hate you, his wife chases you with a butcher’s knife and your common friends give you a wide berth. This is the worst phase of your life. [Read: How to deal with hate]

Trust me, this phase will eventually cross paths with reality, however secretive or careful both of you are. And the happy moments you’ve had over the years with the married man will be overshadowed by the pain and the humiliation you would have to put up with.

What about the brave ‘emotional and sensitive’ wreck of a man who was having an affair with the home wrecker? He’s super fine. He’s shagged your body and brains out for so long, and he’s happy about it. His wife welcomes him back after he apologizes and blames the whole issue on you, the scheming seductress, and they live happily ever after. This little issue may even prove lucky for that man, because it would show him how important his family actually is for him. You? Well, you are left in the dirt and the rain. The word is out. And yes, everyone hates the home wrecker.

The alternate ending – The moral of the story

If you are ever tempted to hook up with a married guy, shut your mind and walk away. If you’re already in one, it’s definitely time for you to walk away. When it comes to the seduction of a married man, there are no alternate endings.

The ending’s already been written and waiting for you with an ear-to-ear sadistic grin. You will be the loser and there is nothing you can do about it. The best test if you’re already involved [Read: Is he serious about you?]. Tell him you want him to break up with his wife and that you won’t have sex with him or even meet him until he does that. Avoid him for a week. See if he’s going to walk out on his wife. Of course, he isn’t going to!

Read between the fine lines, dearie, you’ve just been punk’d! And guess what, it’s not funny at all. [Read: How to overcome regret]

I know it’s never easy to walk out, especially when you’re so in love, but you’ll only be pushing the inevitable by shrugging it away. I was in the same lonely land of “home wrecker” one too many times. I was the other woman in an affair, and it did take me time to learn and accept that there was no future.

The walk out of this fairy tale will be painful, and the lure of a committed man will be exciting, and there will be a happy end at the end of the story. The only problem is that you will not be there in the last few pages of the book.

You’d be burnt just before the end, as one of the evil characters in the book, even if you’re an angel that you already are.

Mistakes happen, and we fall into traps of seduction all the time. But what sets a clever girl apart from the dumb and spurned ones is the thin line that differentiates the search for true love, and the gamble on an unattainable one with a ring in the finger. Be wise, and step out of the forbidden seduction of the married man. For your own good. [Read: How to find love]

These four features on having an affair with a married man may make you wonder if it’s really worth it. But I’ve been there, and there’s nothing worse than being called a home wrecker by his wife and kids. Well, other than being the other woman in an affair.

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