Sexy Sex Kitten: 22 Signs & the Best Ways to Coax the Minx in You

Are you a sex kitten? If you’re not so big on falling for someone but you love having sex, perhaps you could be one. Use this guide to find out! 

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A sex kitten is the sexiest little puss out there in the dating world. She’s bold, she’s sexy, she’s confident and she damn well knows it!

It might sound like it would be easy, but purring like a sex kitten is actually harder than it looks. It takes more than just sex appeal. You have to have a certain something that makes you irresistible to those around you, but not unapproachable or arrogant at the same time.

So, do you have that sex kitten in you?

[Read: 20 things that turn a guy on sexually when he sees a girl]

What is a sex kitten exactly?

A sex kitten is a girl who has a lot of sex appeal. And she knows it and exploits it to her advantage.

She takes pride in the fact that she’s desired by men, and uses her charm to get things done her way. For a sex kitten, it’s easy to make a guy fall for her, and yet, she doesn’t really fall for the guy. She just loves the attention she gets from the guys around her. It boosts her confidence and makes her feel good.

A girl could become a sex kitten for many reasons.

She may turn into a sex kitten if she becomes single again after a very long and boring relationship that ended with a bad breakup. Or, she may turn on her sex kitten side to put a lid on all the other things that she’s losing control of in her own life. She may use her sex kitten side to get a promotion at work. Or, she may have been a quiet girl who’s been overlooked all her teen years, and now suddenly, she’s all grown and curvy in all the right places to fill the centerfold of a men’s magazine. [Read: How to get any guy’s attention in any circumstance]

The reasons are plentiful, but the end result, well, there’s just one.

Every guy glances at her and desires her when she walks past him!

Almost all girls bring out a little sex kitten when they need a favor from a guy. They use their charm and femininity to make a guy go weak in his knees.

But a real sex kitten, well, she’s way better than that! She embraces her sexy side and uses it to not only make herself feel good but to get whatever she wants in the process. [Read: How to be sexier – 15 ways to unleash the sex goddess hiding within]

Wait, isn’t sex kitten behavior a little manpulative?

Well, that depends on how you look at it. There are different levels of sex kitten behavior. One girl may use her sexy side to get something she wants that doesn’t really hurt or upset anyone else. You could argue that’s something we all do from time to time. Is it still manipulation? Yes, in a small way.

However, there may be a girl who makes promises for sex and all manner of other things to turn a situation around to her liking, or simply to make herself feel good. Is that worse? Certainly. [Read: Am I manipulative? 20 signs you manipulate the people in your life]

While you can’t say that being a sex kitten doesn’t involve a certain amount of manipulation, there are different degrees. You’re manipulating a guy into thinking he has a chance with you, whether he actually does or not. Whatever your reason for doing this, it’s probably not because you’re totally into him too.

Let’s be honest. Guys have been doing this for many years and have never been judged for it. Yet, if a girl becomes a sex kitten, she’s likely to find a judgment of some kind heading her way. Unfair? Totally. [Read: How to manipulate a manipulator & escape their manipulative grasp]

16 signs you have a purring sex kitten in you

So do you like using your sex appeal to get guys to do your bidding? Or do you enjoy having sex more than falling in love? Find out if you’re a sex kitten using these signs.

1. You see men as a conquest

You like the attention you get when a man’s smitten by you, and you charm a guy and sweet talk him just to make him fall for you. Also, you like the fact that you can steal hearts whenever you want. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you instantly]

2. You love to flirt, in fact you’re a true power flirter

You feel powerful when you flirt with a guy or tease him with a few sexual remarks. It makes you feel good and you know the effect you’re having on him.

You can use this to your advantage and you know that – that’s what makes it such a powerful feeling.

3. You enjoy having sex often

You have sexual flings every now and then, because it makes you feel good about yourself and your body.

While you don’t have much intention of falling in love or finding someone to have a solid relationship with, you’re quite happy to have flings and one night stands. If this is the case for you, remember to always be safe! [Read: How to have safe sex in every in every single way it is possible to]

4. You know your moves

You need sex like other girls need love. It’s likely that you know more about sex and the naughty little tricks better than any other girl you know.

You take great pride in that and your skills give you confidence. [Read: The complete guide to riding a man and looking really sexy doing it]

5. You like to dress provocatively

You dress provocatively just to get attention. It makes you feel good about yourself, and you enjoy the attention you get when you walk past a guy who spins around just to stare at you for a moment longer.

Let’s be honest, we all enjoy that feeling, however fleeting it may be. But, for a sex kitten, that feeling is common because she’s always getting those sexy second glances.

6. You’re pretty flirty with your friends too

You’ve kissed or had sex with at least a few of your friends recently. Discreetly, of course.

However, you’re keen to keep it on a friendly basis and you don’t want anyone around you to start catching feelings. [Read: How to see a friend naked – The perverted ways to sneak a peek]

7. You’re a drinking games pro

You use booze as an easy excuse to flirt uncontrollably or have sex with someone.

You do this by pretending you’re too intoxicated to care whom you’re having sex with *when you’re clearly not*. After all, it is a good way to pretend like it’s all a big mistake in the morning.

8. Flashing a little skin is fun

You love flashing a bit of skin at a guy and pretending like you didn’t realize it while having a conversation with him.

You enjoy watching him shuffle around nervously because he’s trying hard to not become distracted. [Read: Real-life public flashing confessions from our readers]

9. A sex kitten keeps her emotions out of it

You don’t care about emotional connections when you’re having sex with a guy. You’ve been in love and you don’t care for it right now. All you want is mindless sex.

So, you’ve found a way to turn off your feelings and if you start to catch them, you move away – fast.

10. Your friends keep their boyfriends away from you

Your friends get wary when you start talking to their boyfriends because they secretly feel threatened by you. And your friends hate the fact that you’re so good at getting any guy you want.

This could start to cause problems in your friendships but you know that it’s their problem if they feel insecure around you – you’re just being yourself.

11. You love a good challenge as a sex kitten

You look at guys as a challenge and a conquest, not as companions.

If your friends meet a guy who seems too good to be true, you want to win him over and seduce him because you feel he’s a worthy challenge. [Read: 33 super sexy ways to seduce a man who’s not yet yours]

12. If you like a guy, you think about sex quickly

If you like a guy, you want to have sex with him. You don’t like distracting your mind with love, and you don’t like waiting for three or more dates just to sleep with him. If you want a guy, you want him right at that moment!

13. You love compliments

You love compliments that emphasize your sexual side.

If someone says your boobs look sexy, you don’t become upset or annoyed by it, it puts a smile on your face because you know your sex kitten tricks are working. [Read: 25 compliments for guys they’ll never forget]

14. People are easily attracted to you as a sex kitten

You don’t always say it out, but deep inside, you know that every guy you’ve talked to is sexually attracted to you. All you need to do is flirt a little with him to make him fall head over heels in love with you.

You know this and it gives you that sense of being able to take on the world. That’s what you love about being a sex kitten.

15. If you’ve got it, flaunt it

If you’re talking to a cute guy and his eyes drop down to your cleavage every now and then, you don’t try to cover it up quickly.

Instead, you take a deep breath and give him a better view. Why hide it when it’s so much fun to watch a guy losing his mind over a little bit of skin? [Read: How to look a lot better naked using 15 simple tips]

16. You know you have a gift

You truly believe that you can get anything done using your sexual prowess. Your sex kitten body has got you special favors in the past, and it will in the future!

How to encourage your sex kitten side

Maybe you’re reading these signs and you think you need to work on bringing out your inner sex kitten a little more. Well, anyone can do it.

You simply need to dig deep, take a deep breath, and find the confidence to allow that kitten inside to purr. [Read: How to feel sexy and desirable all the time]

1. Change your style

While a sex kitten doesn’t have to walk around wearing next to nothing, you should try and show a little skin every now and again. That could be a low-cut top or a short skirt occasionally, but remember not to show too much – one or the other will do.

There is a difference between leaving a little to the imagination, and going all out so a guy doesn’t have to use his imagination at all. 

Basically, dress to show your sexual side but in a way that makes you feel good. If you feel powerful and sexy, that’s what you’re aiming for. [Read: How to look sexy, feel sexy and be sexy without really trying too hard]

2. Focus on your strong points

A sex kitten is a girl who is super-confident and loves herself. So, do you need to work on the relationship you have with yourself? That means identifying your strengths and focusing on those a little more.

The more you focus on something you’re good at, the more you’ll be complimented on it, and the better and more confident you’ll feel.

3. Keep your emotions to yourself when trying to be a sex kitten

Sex kittens don’t have time for falling in love. They’re far too busy having fun and enjoying their sexual encounters. If you start to catch feelings, it’s time to step away.

If you really, really like the guy and you want to try and take things further, well, you have to question whether your sex kitten days might be numbered. But, if it’s just sexual attraction you’re feeling, embrace it and keep your emotions out of it. [Read: No strings attached – 17 important guidelines for NSA sex]

4. Steer clear of anyone who is already taken

You want to learn how to embrace your inner kitten, you don’t want to get a reputation for being a boyfriend stealer. So, only go after a guy if he’s single and not attached in any way.

It doesn’t matter if you know the girl or not, whether you even like her or not, do not try and steal her boyfriend or cause problems. That’s just not cool and it’s not sex kitten behavior you want to show.

5. Push away the stigma of being a sex kitten

If you feel somehow guilty for enjoying strings-free sex or you’re not sure if it’s the behavior you should be showing, then you need to kick the stigma out of your life.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying sex with nothing else expected, as long as the two of you understand that fact and you’re being safe. If you want to enjoy sex, go for it and embrace the fun! [Read: How to tell a guy you just want sex without feeling slutty about it]

6. Practice flirting

A sex kitten is a flirty feline who loves to flirt up a storm. So, start practicing.

Flirting is actually easy once you get into it, and it’s really more about enjoying the back and forth of banter than trying to impress anyone. Once you take that side out of it, you’ll be able to relax and enjoy it for what it is. It’s innocent and it’s meant to be a little sexy.

Just go for it and see where it takes you. The more you flirt, the easier it will become and the more confident you’ll become too. Use this guide on the 30 subtle, obvious and sexual flirting tips for girls and you can literally kickstart your sex kitten side within the next few minutes!

Embrace the sexy kitten inside of you!

As long as you’re hurting no one and you’re being safe at all times, there is absolutely nothing wrong with embracing your sex kitten side.

Everyone has one, it’s just that sometimes that kitten is sleeping and doesn’t want to come out to play.

Coax it out with a few kitty snacks and before you know it, you’ll be flirting up a storm and enjoying the power that being a sex kitten brings.

[Read: Different ways to hook up with a guy in different circumstances]

So what do you think? Are you a glamorous sex doll in the making or are you an experienced sex kitten who gets anything done with a little snap of her fingers and a peek of her cleavage?

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