With the hookup generation taking over society, there’s nothing quite like a sophisticated, mature relationship with a guy who’s a bit older.
You must admit, an older man has a unique appeal that younger guys don’t have. Unlike younger guys who are all into the excitement and the thrill of dating, the older man takes a slower, yet better thought of approach. He doesn’t woo you with free drinks at the hottest bar in town. Instead, he’ll take you out to a rustic little hole-in-the-wall restaurant with a quartet playing in the background.
When you reach a point where you think that all the guys your age have nothing to offer you, you may start setting your sights on someone who’s more refined, more sophisticated, and definitely more mature. It would be a refreshing change from all these man-children who are still running around, not knowing what to do with their lives.
Why you should date an older man
Need a little more convincing to give the older guy a shot? Here are some of the reasons dating an older man may do you some good.
#1 He’s more secure. It may be a given that the older man ranks a lot higher in the career ladder than guys your age. He may even be the head of his own company. This means that when it comes to money, he’s got no problem. But other than money, he is also more secure when it comes to his emotions.
He’s well past the days of reckless abandon and oscillating emotions. Instead, he’s at the point where he’s more certain of what he feels about himself and life, in general. This means that you won’t be getting any more episodes of “I’m not sure if I like-you-like-you, but I want you around.” Nope, the older man will just outright say what he feels.
#2 He has learned from his previous relationships. Depending on how much older your older guy is, he has already had his fair share of dating experience under his belt. He already knows that different women have different quirks.
Some women may be more vocal, more emotional, more tolerant, more relaxed or more sexual than others. He accepts this, and this helps mold his dating philosophy. What this means for you is that he’s better able to understand what makes you tick. [Read: 11 sure ways to know you’re dating a real gentleman]
#3 He knows more about sex. Older often means wiser, and wiser means he’s got a couple of tricks up his sleeve, right? He’s ahead of you in the game, so he’s probably got some high-level moves that you’d never have heard of. And since he’s not up to date on the latest trends when it comes to getting all worked up, as what the younger guys would read from their men’s magazines, you may be surprised that he’s got a couple of old school moves that you never thought you’d enjoy.
On a side note, so what if he needs a little pharmaceutical help to get him started? That just means he’s willing to go all in, just so he can pleasure you! [Read: 9 big issues on a man’s mind when it comes to having sex]
#4 He’s more patient with you. Your older guy has probably dated someone your age back in the day. He’s familiar with the mood swings and sudden impulses of twentysomething women. This means he already has some idea of what to expect from you. And unlike a younger guy who’s more likely to fight with you over your little quirks, the older man knows when he needs to back off and just give you some space.
#5 He knows how to get what he wants. He’s been through more years of life than you. He’s had more disappointments and failures in life. In all of the times he has failed, he knows how he managed to get back up and get what he wants. With younger guys, they may not be sure how to get something or someone they want. Heck, they may not even be so sure about what they want in the first place. But with older men, he’s had years to try and test his technique.
Don’t take this to mean that he would be manipulative. We’re not saying that. We’re saying that an older man has more knowledge, when it comes to the different means of getting what he wants.
For instance, he may know that simply saying sorry for arguing with you won’t work. But from his experience, he knows that women like you may be wooed by an item that reflects your interests such as a rare book or a vinyl record. Once he hands that to you as a peace offering, he knows that the odds are in his favor that you’d forgive him.
#6 He’s not overly emotional or jealous. Remember how we started off the list with the fact that most older men are more secure in themselves? This is because we know for a fact that there have been other women who have fallen for him and stroked his ego. What he needs now isn’t someone to stroke his ego, but someone whose company he can enjoy.
This is the reason he’s not overly jealous. He’s secure in the fact that you would like him for who he is, and not just some flimsy reason that goes out the window the minute a hot guy passes by. He knows he’s more established than some hot young guy who might just catch your eye, so he doesn’t feel the need to be threatened by them. [Read: 5 giveaways of an emotionally unavailable man]
#7 He’s more cultured. While the younger guys you’re used to dating may be into the latest heavy metal band or the coolest hip hop dance moves, the older man’s tastes would be considered more timeless. We’re not saying he’s stuck in the past or anything. We’re saying that he may be into things that have stood the test of time, and are still constantly being refined.
For instance, the older man would be more likely to be into art, acclaimed cinematic masterpieces, and music that even the younger generation can still enjoy today. He’s had more years than you to refine his tastes, and refined them he definitely has.
#8 He tends to be better at communication. He doesn’t want to waste time deciphering cryptic texts and reading emoticons like they’re hieroglyphics. If there’s something he wants to say, he’ll say it in as crystal clear a manner as he can muster. He would also expect you to do the same. So in a way, he’d be less inclined to encourage you to communicate in a way that’s open to being misunderstood.
Take the example of a common conversation between two people who aren’t quite dating. They’d probably say things like, “I’ll call you” or “let’s play it by ear.” With an older guy, he’d want to get rid of the ambiguity and just say what’s on his mind like, “I’ll call you tonight” or “I’d like us to have dinner next week.” Now wouldn’t that be a refreshing change from all the wishy-washy mixed messages other guys send? [Read: 11 signs you’re dating a real keeper]
#9 He may be looking to settle down. This is great news for the ladies out there who are tired of dating, and just want security and stability with a guy they like. Older men may be tired of the dating game. He’s not looking for the next fling to keep his bed warm for a couple of days. He’s looking for someone he can share his life with. A guy can only go so far without a loving woman by his side.
[Read: 8 little secrets women should know about men]
Though the age gap may seem like a magnet for trouble, taking the risk with an older, more mature man can open your eyes to new perspectives. Give it a shot, and see how it works for you.
