Lingerie Selfie: How to Perfect the Art of Foreplay from Afar

If you want to drive your partner crazy with desire, there’s nothing better than a lingerie selfie. They’ll race home faster than ever before! 

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Is your sex life becoming a little boring? Are you stuck in a sexual rut? Never fear! It’s something that happens to the best of us, but you do need to focus on coming up with new ideas to stir up some renewed passion. Trying new things and making sure your partner remains interested in you is just a part of any relationship. You have to make an effort to keep your sex life fun and fresh. One way to do that is by sending your partner a lingerie selfie.

Too many people place foreplay far, far down on their list of priorities. They just want to jump straight in and go for it.

However, did you know that by taking the time to get both of you truly revved up, sex can be out of this world? Rule number one – don’t scrimp on foreplay!

[Read: What is foreplay? 17 sexy foreplay moves to get anyone hot & horny]

Why you need to keep things new and interesting in the bedroom

There are people out there who don’t think you should have to make an effort. They say it should just happen and if it doesn’t, then you’re not meant to be. Those people probably won’t find themselves in too many long-term relationships!

Because relationships are work.

After the initial honeymoon phase, you just don’t have the same drive to have sex as you did before. But you still need to make sure your significant other knows how attracted to them you are. So you have to make an effort and try new things that’ll bring the two of you closer together. [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life]

It’s also true that when you’ve been together for a while, it’s very easy to fall into old patterns and habits. You start off having sex one way, you move into another position, and then it’s over. You repeat this every time you have sex because it’s comfortable and familiar.

Comfortable and familiar are boring!

Trying new things can help to bring you closer and reignite the passion between you. When sex is boring, the relationship isn’t far behind. For sure, sex isn’t everything, but when things are on fire in the bedroom *not literally, of course*, there’s an extra spring in the step! [Read: 20 new things to try in bed at least once with your lover]

Take a lingerie selfie and start the foreplay early

One awesome way to add something fresh and exciting to your relationship is to take a few sexy lingerie selfies and send them your lover’s way. Of course, the idea sounds easy, but you want to make sure that you’re sending the very best selfie you can.

How do you take a hot picture when you’re all by yourself? Here are a few tips we have for getting that amazing picture and starting the foreplay from afar.

Before you go ahead, hop on to this guide on how to take good nudes and use these 36 sexy selfie tips to take the sexiest naked selfies ever!

1. Invest in some cute lingerie that makes you feel hot

This is a no-brainer if you’re trying to send a lingerie selfie. You have to get a few pieces that look really great on you and flatter your body type. Of course, you have to feel fantastic in whatever piece you choose. We suggest actually going to a store to try a few on, so you can see what looks best.

You never know how something is going to fit if you get it online. A few colors that make great choices are red, black, and even grays or whites. Get some with lace and then another that’s silkier. Having a variety only helps! [Read: How to pick the perfect lingerie to make you look great]

2. Find a spot with great lighting

Lighting is everything with any kind of selfie but is especially important for this type. Find an area of your home that has a lot of natural light. It’s the best for taking pictures and can help you snap the best photo to send your lover.

Of course, don’t stand in front of an open window and snap away – you might give the neighbors a shock!

3. Find your personal best angles

You have some angles that make you look like a Victoria’s Secret model and others that aren’t as flattering. It’s your job to figure out which makes you look the best.

We suggest getting in front of a mirror and turning and twisting your body until you find the right angle that makes you look the best. Then you just have to replicate it and take that picture!

[Read: Pussy selfies – How to take a perfect vag selfie on the first try]

4. Take lots of lingerie selfies so you can choose afterwards

And when we say ‘a lot’, we mean a lot! Take a bunch of lingerie selfies if you want to get the best shot. This way, you’ll not only become more experienced taking these sexy pictures, you’ll also have a ton to choose from when the time comes.

This also helps you when you randomly want to send your partner a naughty picture but you don’t actually want to go put the lingerie on. All you’ll have to do is pull up an old picture and click the send button. Clever, right? [Read: How to send sexy nude selfies and not get into trouble]

5. Take pictures in different places

This is more for your partner than for you. The whole idea behind taking these sexy pictures is to get their mind to imagine the two of you intimately. If you really want to amplify that effect, take pictures in different parts of your home, in all the places you want to get busy with them.

6. Use the self-timer function on your phone camera

Sometimes taking the picture yourself can be pretty hard. What if you want to show off your entire body in the ensemble? Well, you could invest in a selfie stick, or you could just set a self-timer on your phone.

This will allow you to stand and pose away from your phone so you can get a better, sexier shot. [Read: Sexy and sweet snapchat ideas to improve your relationship]

7. What is your face doing?

It’s not all about the body, it’s also about your facial expression! Your partner will obviously take a very long, hard look at your body in that beautiful lingerie, but they’re also going to look at your face.

You need to show them that you really want them, that your lingerie selfie is just the start of what’s to come. Practice a sexy facial expression in the mirror and try to replicate it. Or, simply pretend that the camera is your partner – that should do it! [Read: The easiest and best sexy selfie poses to show yourself off]

8. Choose the best picture to send

After you have a good sample of pictures to choose from, pick the best one. But don’t just pick the one you like best. Try to choose a picture that you know your partner would like.

For example, if you like a picture that’s centered around your breasts but you know your significant other would like the one that’s focused on your butt, choose the latter option.

8. Send it in a quick text or even a Snapchat

Now’s the time to send it! If you’re not comfortable with sending the picture in a text, you can send it in a Snapchat. This way it disappears after a certain amount of time and you’ll also be notified if your partner takes a screenshot of it. [Read: How to be careful when sending dirty snapchats]

9. But, make sure you’re sending it to the right person!

It goes without saying that you should double-check before you press ‘send.’ The last thing you want to do is accidentally send your lingerie selfie to your boss.

That would leave you blushing and you’ll need a pretty good explanation the next day in the office!

10. Store your lingerie selfies safely on your phone

Also, a point about safety. If you have any sexy photos on your phone, be it lingerie selfies or even nudes, make sure that you password protect them and make sure that nobody is able to lay their hands on them who shouldn’t.

You could even store them in the Cloud if it makes you feel more comfortable. [Read: How to keep your naked photo safe!]

11. Make sure they’re not busy at work/with family

You have to make sure you’re sending the lingerie selfie at the right time. If you know your partner has a busy day at work, wait until his lunch hour or when you know they have a break.

If you know they’re spending time with family, make sure you send it when you know they’re on their way home or they’re not in the middle of a family dinner!

This will ensure that they have time to digest the picture you’re sending to them. Otherwise, they may only get a quick look, it won’t have a real impact, and they won’t be able to reply. [Read: How to sext the right way: 16 Tantalizing tips you can’t ignore]

12. Send a sexy text with it

Don’t just send the picture alone; send a naughty message with it! This is a perfect opportunity to take the foreplay to the next step. Get your partner’s anticipation soaring by telling them how much you wish they were there with you. [Read: 40 naughty, playful texts to keep things hot and horny]

13. Gauge their interest

Did they seem happy with the picture? Were they super excited? Did they tell you how amazing you look? Or did they reply with something short and didn’t seem that into it?

Sometimes, people aren’t that excited about getting a picture and seeing you in lingerie when they’re not there to touch you. Figure out if your partner loved it or not, and then continue sending them if they do!

14. Relax and have fun with it!

There’s no reason to stress right now. You’re flirting with your lover. It’s supposed to be fun and lighthearted. Don’t take yourself too seriously. If your partner can tell you’re having fun, they’ll enjoy it no matter what.

[Read: How to sext a guy the naughty and safe way]

Spicing up your sex life is all about putting yourself out there and trying new things. Who knows? Maybe you’ll love taking a lingerie selfie and sending it to your lover.

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