28 Desirable Ways to Make Your Boyfriend Want You & Love You More

You love your boyfriend, but sometimes you want to feel even more desired and sexy. Here’s how to make your boyfriend want you more than ever!

How to Make Your Boyfriend Want You & Love You More

So, you’ve been together for a while, but do you think you need to know how to make your boyfriend want you and love you more? Or perhaps, love you better?

Most of the time, girls just learn to accept their boyfriends for who they are. Even though their boyfriends are nothing like the man of their dreams.

And over time, these girls compromise on their own wants and wait for their boyfriend to show the smallest romantic gesture to feel better about the relationship.

Seriously, don’t be that girl.

[Read: 33 traits of a good boyfriend you should never compromise on to be happy]

How to make your boyfriend want you: 17 ways to make him desire you a lot more

Every guy has the potential to be the perfect boyfriend, just as soon as he learns to follow the rules.

And it all starts with these 17 tips on how to make your boyfriend want you more, and 11 more tips on things you should avoid doing to be desired and wanted by your boyfriend.

The truth is, all of us take relationships for granted eventually, even if we don’t intend to at the beginning. But can you really blame yourself or your partner, when either of you doesn’t remind each other about it?

If you want to have a happy relationship and a boyfriend who appreciates you, don’t compromise on your wants and desires in the relationship just to make your boyfriend feel happy. He’ll start to accept you for who you are and take you for granted, instead of realizing how understanding, accommodating, and genuinely nice you actually are.

Sacrificing your happiness for someone is a good sign, but only if it’s mutual. There’s a thin red line between sacrificing and suffering in a relationship.

[Read: 30 super sexy and effortless ways to keep him interested in you]

Understand these tips on making your boyfriend want you more and use them. You’ll see the difference in no time.

1. Look good in his arms

Let’s talk about pleasing your man with appearances first. Guys are shallow, and the physical appearance of their girlfriend plays a big part in his ego and his desire to be with you.

Look sexy and have eyes turn towards you when you’re in his arms. If his friends think you’re hot stuff, he’ll desire you and want to be with you more. And he’ll never want to let go of you. [Read: How to look sexy, feel sexy and be totally sexy without even trying]

2. Respect yourself

Your boyfriend is not better than you. Falling in love is a mutual experience between lovers. Have an ego and be confident in yourself. If you truly respect yourself, your boyfriend can’t help but respect you and admire you.

3. Spend time with your own friends

Make your own plans now and then. Go out with your own friends and feel good about yourself, be it in having a good conversation or attracting the attention of another cute guy.

Believe in yourself, and remember that you’re still hot stuff. And the best part, he’ll miss you more when you aren’t available at his beck and call.

4. Have your own life

Your boyfriend is only a part of your life, not all of it. If you’re always with him or he finds you available all the time, he’ll only take you for granted. [Read: How to stop being taken for granted in a relationship]

5. Be a wildcat with fiery passion

Try new things in bed. If you want to know how to make your boyfriend want you sexually, don’t be predictable in bed.

Try new things and don’t let bedtime get boring. Enjoy sex and take pride in your passion and interest in exploring sex. [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]

6. Be a smart girl

Be aware of the world around you, be it on the news or in current affairs. Men always think they’re more intelligent and aware. Prove him wrong, he’ll worship you and take you more seriously.

7. Play hard to get when he takes you easy

Don’t let your boyfriend ever take you for granted. If you ever feel like he’s taking you lightly, put him in place.

It’ll scare him, true, but it’ll also make him realize that you’re not someone to be taken for granted. [Read: Why men like a chase to stay in love]

8. Display PDA

Men love it when their girl shows her appreciation in public. It makes them feel desired and lucky. Wrap your arm around him or place your hand on his cheek in appreciation when he’s being nice. He’ll be a lot nicer and he’ll be happy to have a girlfriend like you. [Read: What is PDA in a relationship? The full guide and how to use it in your relationship]

9. Walk away if he disrespects you

Snub him or avoid his calls when he disrespects you. He’ll be too scared to take you lightly. You’re not throwing a tantrum by doing this, you’re letting him know that you have self-respect.

10. Follow your own dreams

Be passionate about life and your own ambitions. Your boyfriend will never respect you or desire you if all you do is sit wide-eyed and stare when he talks about his ambitions and dreams, and have nothing to share in return. [Read: How to be a strong independent woman that men absolutely love]

11. Be nice to him

This might sound obvious, but for some girls – it’s not. Think about it, if your boyfriend isn’t nice to you, does it make you want him more… or less?

For most people, the answer would be less. We tend to like people better who are nice to us. So, don’t be mean or bitchy, because that will turn him off.

12. Look your best

While looks aren’t everything, they certainly are important to guys. They are very visual creatures, and when they see someone attractive, that turns them on.

Sure, it’s easier to bum around in your sweat pants and not wear makeup, but that probably won’t turn him on as much as when you look your best. You wouldn’t like him to be all greasy and smelly, right? So, do the same for him. [Read: How to turn on your boyfriend: 15 tips to get him hard and horny]

13. Be his best friend

Sometimes, couples are together romantically, but they aren’t really “friends.” In order to have a happy, healthy relationship that includes regular physical intimacy, a deep friendship is part of the plan.

When he sees you as his partner in crime and can’t wait to talk to you about things, this is a perfect way to get your boyfriend to want you more.

14. Put away your phone

These days, most people are addicted to their phones. But unfortunately, that is NOT good for relationships. If you are spending so much time on your phone or social media that you are ignoring his presence, then he will not feel valued.

And if he doesn’t feel valued, then he may not be in the mood for physical intimacy with you. [Read: How to turn your boyfriend on while texting – 21 steamy sexting tips]

15. Be decisive, and not passive

Girls tend to be more passive and submissive. For example, if he asks, “Where do you want to go eat?” And you say, “I don’t care, what do you want, baby?” He might be annoyed that you are always making him make the decisions. So, stand in your power and step up with the decision-making in the relationship.

16. Stop gossiping and/or talking about yourself all the time

Gossip is something that guys don’t really relate to very much. In fact, some of them couldn’t care less about it. Just because you find something interesting doesn’t mean he does – and that includes talking about yourself all the time too.

He might roll his eyes and tune you out if you do it too much. And you definitely don’t want that if you want to know how to get your boyfriend to want you more! [Read: 20 Fun things to ask your boyfriend and get to know him inside and out]

17. Be active in bed

Believe it or not, guys hate it when their girlfriend is kind of “stiff” or “dead” in bed. If you just lay there like a starfish without much participation, then your boyfriend will get very bored.

That doesn’t mean that you have to start experimenting with S&M or get wild and crazy, but if you are kind of boring in bed, it may make him feel like sex is more of a chore than something he looks forward to. [Read: How to make love to a man – 31 hot ways to make him cry with passion]

11 things to avoid if you want your boyfriend to want you and love you more

Now that we’ve talked about what you should do, let’s talk about what you shouldn’t do if you want your boyfriend to want you more.

[Read: How to French kiss – 18 secrets to melt anyone with your deep kiss]

1. Don’t be too easy to get

Don’t be available for him anytime he calls you. Don’t change your plans just to be with him.

Let him know that you have a life too, and he needs to take you more seriously if he wants you by his side.

2. Don’t be a pushover

If he flakes, changes plans at the last minute, and leaves you in the middle of a date to hang out with his friends, or cancels a date for silly reasons, don’t accept such behavior. If he walks away, call another cute guy and hang out with him just to get back at your boyfriend. It’s the only way he’ll learn to want you more and respect you.

3. Don’t be eager to please him

Pleasing each other should be mutual. If you find that you’re the only one indulging in sweet gestures while he just behaves like a slob, put an end to it and make him work for your attention all over again. [Read: 25 sweet romantic gestures for everyday life]

4. Don’t be the first one to make up all the time

This is especially important if it’s not your own fault. If your boyfriend’s taking you for granted, and you find yourself being the one who has to make up all the time, ignore him for a while or give him a cold shoulder.

If he really cares, he’ll swallow his pride and come back crawling.

5. Don’t be clingy and needy

Show off your independence even if you’re just idle and sitting at home. Appear like you’re a girl who can sort her own affairs. He should know that spending even a few minutes with you is a privilege! [Read: 21 clingy girlfriend signs and how to avoid turning into one]

6. Don’t be a bad damsel in distress

Men love a damsel in distress, but only if you play the part in the right manner. Make him feel like a man, but don’t always go trailing him for help all the time. [Read: How to be a perfect damsel in distress who’s irresistible to men]

7. Don’t be a nag

Guys hate it when you treat them like a child. Because it reminds them of their mother!

And let’s face it – guys don’t want to have sex with her *ewwww*! So, if you go around and nag him about his clothes, how he keeps his apartment, his hair, or anything else, it will turn him off. So, don’t be a nag.

8. Don’t be a drama queen

Yes, girls are more emotional than guys. It’s just in their nature. However, guys do not like it! If you are upset about something, don’t go over into the deep end about it.

Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. Instead, talk to him more calmly, and he will respond better. He will probably help you solve the problem if you aren’t crazed and dramatic. Guys hate that. [Read: Attention seeking behavior and why someone people go looking for drama]

9. Don’t blame him for everything

Many people have a problem taking personal responsibility. It’s just easier to point the finger at someone else instead of looking at yourself and taking ownership for your own words and actions.

So, if you find that you are always blaming him for something, then that surely won’t put him in the mood to have sex with you.

10. Don’t talk about the future too much

Girls tend to be always thinking about the future of the relationship. They think about marriage, babies, houses, and happily ever after, way more than guys do. It’s not that men don’t think about it, but just a lot less.

So, if you are always talking about or asking what your future is with him, it might make him uncomfortable. And because of that, he may be less inclined to be intimate with you.

[Read: Why is he ignoring me? 22 answers before you make up your mind]

11. Don’t be jealous or suspicious of everything

Being jealous or suspicious of him is a huge turn-off for a guy. Many times, there is nothing to be jealous of. So, stop asking if other girls are prettier or sexier than you. And stop asking him of his whereabouts all the time.

These behaviors are an indication that you have low self-esteem, and believe it or not, that’s a turn-off for most men.

[Read: 25 super-cool and classy ways to make your guy go crazy over you]

If you want to know how to make your boyfriend want you more and love you more, sexually or otherwise, just follow these tips. And always remember to have self respect. After all, you are awesome!

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