Some people think it’s a myth, but a lot of women can attest to the fact that they’ve had multiple orgasms. Here’s how you can join in on the fun.
When it comes to sex, people want to experience bigger and better ways of achieving orgasms. This is why some people engage in various fetishes, because the bar for their sexual fulfillment keeps getting higher and higher.
For those of you who are reluctant to engage in uncommon fetishes, the best milestone you can achieve through cut and dry sex are multiple orgasms. If you can’t win over a partner with quality and variety, multiple orgasms are a way for you to maximize sex using quantity.
What are multiple orgasms?
Before we discuss what a multiple orgasm is, we would like to explain to you what a single orgasm can do for you. Scientifically, an orgasm is a sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle. In layman’s terms, an orgasm is what you’re aiming for every time you have sex.
It is basically a neurologic explosion that affects your whole body. When you experience an orgasm, the pleasure centers of your brain go haywire, but in a very, very good way. There are thousands of ways to express how an orgasm feels, but the simplest explanation we can give you is that it gives your brain and body a huge jolt of pleasure.
Now, imagine if that pleasure happens more than once within a short amount of time. That is what a multiple orgasm is. It may sound like a rapid overload of an overwhelmingly good feeling that can disappear within the blink of an eye. However, my experience showed me that that small window can feel like an eternity of pleasure – especially when it’s executed perfectly.
Multiple orgasms occur because of practiced execution, not out of dumb luck. The chances of achieving multiple orgasms are dependent on the people involved. You need to know how to elicit an orgasm and how to maintain it in order to achieve as many orgasms as possible.
Who can have multiple orgasms?
Although both men and women are capable of achieving multiple orgasms, it rarely happens to men. Some men are built for multiple orgasms, while others require the normal refractory period, which lasts about five minutes to an hour, depending on their physical condition.
With that being said, sorry guys, but I think we deserve this biological blessing, seeing as we’re designed to painfully shed uterine linings and bear your offspring.
Getting back to the topic, women are significantly more likely to achieve multiple orgasms, because women are believed to have a significantly shorter refractory period than men. Apart from that, we don’t need an erection in order to perform in bed. We just need to be reactive, genuinely enthusiastic, and have an ample supply of lube at our disposal.
Studies show that some women are incapable of achieving an orgasm, but those who can are all candidates for multiple orgasms. Their ability to achieve it relies on their willingness to work for it and their partner’s eagerness to help them.
What happens when you orgasm?
Since the topic of multiple orgasms for males has too little information, we will be discussing how women can achieve multiple orgasms. Don’t worry, boys. This article can help you as much as it can help your girlfriends.
Before we discuss how you can achieve or give multiple orgasms, you need to know how a regular orgasm is achieved. An orgasm can be achieved when a person’s body undergoes a complete sexual response cycle.
The SRC is composed of four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasmic and resolution. The excitement and plateau phases are focused on sexual chemistry and foreplay. The orgasmic phase speaks for itself. If you think that the last one isn’t important, think again. The resolution phase determines whether or not you can achieve multiple orgasms.
The resolution phase is where the refractory period occurs. It is when your sexual organs *the clitoris and penis* have been stimulated to the point that the sexual excitement discharge has rendered them useless, due to hypersensitivity or hyposensitivity.
Most women experience painful sensations on the clitoris when stimulated after climax, while some can’t feel any pleasure from its stimulation at all. In order to experience multiple orgasms, you need to maximize your time during the orgasmic phase before you lose or get too much sensitivity on your sexual organs.
How to have multiple orgasms
Tempting as it may be to just dive in and try it out, allow us to give you a few tips on how you can achieve this sexual phenomenon.
#1 The first rule of achieving multiple orgasms is this: Don’t stop until you’re satisfied. The most number of orgasms a woman has ever had in an hour was a whopping 134. If you plan on breaking this record, make sure to do some warm-up stretches, eat lots of carbohydrates, and drink lots of water.
#2 The second rule is this: Don’t push yourself too much or you’ll get hurt. If you get tired, dehydrated or dizzy, you should stop pushing for more than a few orgasms in one sitting. There is also a risk of traumatic contusions on your vagina, bladder and cervix. Multiple orgasms are awesome, but they’re not worth the medical bills if you’re not careful.
#3 Foreplay is necessary. An orgasm is less likely to occur if you and your partner are not in the mood. Investing in foreplay assures that you get powerful orgasms that are even better when they happen over and over again.
#4 The clitoris is a one-woman show. Clitoral orgasms can only happen once before it experiences a significant refractory period. Multiple orgasms often rely on G-spot orgasms, because the inner walls of your vagina are not as hypersensitive as your clitoris after a climax.
#5 Your G-spot is your friend. Find it, put a big sign on it that says, “Must not miss,” and enjoy the ride. Always look for your G-spot or ask your partner to help you. The G-spot can encompass a huge surface area of your inner vaginal walls, but it can also be just a little speck on the vaginal sponge.
The tried and tested method of finding it is by asking your partner to put their finger inside your vagina and curl it, as if trying to touch the back of your clitoris. The G-spot has a slightly rough or bumpy texture, and pressing on it can sometimes make you feel like you have to pee. You can ask your partner to move their finger around, and you can help them search by verbally guiding them.
#6 After the first orgasm, don’t lose your momentum. When you stop pumping, grinding or sliding after an orgasm, the refractory period will be triggered, and the high from the recent orgasm will start to recede. The trick to achieving multiple orgasms is to continue hitting the G-spot until you feel that you and your partner are ready to stop.
#7 Stop when you want to, or if your partner’s too tired to go on any longer. Multiple orgasms are really fun, but they take a lot out of you. You might get exhausted, dehydrated or dizzy after a while. Sometimes, you can even get injured when you don’t realize how much it’s affecting your skin and muscles.
#8 Don’t forget to give back to the person who helped make it happen. You wouldn’t have been able to do this without an attentive and sensitive partner. Repay the sentiment by giving them one or two more orgasms for the road. Be generous with your skills and talent, because your partner will remember this the next time you want another round of multiple orgasms. [Read: How to get a selfish lover to be more giving]
What prevents you from having multiple orgasms?
Some people are unable to have multiple orgasms, no matter what they do. Others can’t achieve it, because they’re not doing enough or anything at all to make it happen. Here are the reasons why some people can’t achieve multiple orgasms.
#1 Being too tense. Sex is an awesome ride that needs to be savored and enjoyed. If you’re nervous or anxious about it, you won’t be able to get even one orgasm. Try to relax and make yourself comfortable before getting into it, so you can experience many wondrous orgasms.
#2 Laziness. Work with your partner or else you won’t get what you want. Just because your partner has a penis, doesn’t mean he has to do all the work for you. Don’t just lie there like a dead fish. Embrace the sensations, move your body with your partner, and pleasure him while he pleasures you.
#3 Insecurities. How can you embrace your body’s ability to enjoy pleasure when you can’t embrace the pleasure that your body can give? Insecurities will hinder you from enjoying the full extent of your multiple orgasmic experience. You won’t be comfy, you’ll feel guarded, and your partner will catch on to that. Just be confident, and don’t think about what anyone thinks about you and your body. [Read: 8 steps to be more confident with your body in the bedroom]
#4 A deconditioned body. Achieving multiple orgasms requires you to do an extreme amount of physical activity. Your body will be subjected to physically intense conditions like friction, pressure and nerve excitation. You need to be well-prepared for this task, and so does your partner. Work on your stamina, breathing and muscle strength, so you can achieve as many orgasms as you want.
#5 A lack of education. Orgasms don’t fall out of the sky. If you don’t know how to give or receive one, it’s highly unlikely that you’ll be able to experience one. It’s the same with multiple orgasms. You need to experiment, find what works for you and your partner, and then try again if you don’t succeed.
[Read: 10 foolproof sex tips every girl should know]
Multiple orgasms may not be the easiest thing to execute in the bedroom, but they’re well worth trying hard for. The next time you’re getting frisky with your partner, try to keep the stimulation going post-orgasm, and see if you can successfully try for a second, a third or even a tenth orgasm!
