If you want to spice things up in the bedroom, pegging might be what you need. Here’s all you need to know about how to have fantastic strap on sex.
This type of intimacy is very unique. When you decide to have strap on sex with your partner, you really trust them with an awful lot. There are many ways you can have this type of sex but today, we’ll be focusing on pegging your man and everything you’ll need to know.
Some women may choose to have strap on sex with other women but our focus is using a strap on with your man. Because yes, that is definitely something some men desire. It’s also a really sexy way to spice up your love life. [Read: What is pegging? All the backdoor facts to get you started]
Why some men love pegging
If you don’t know what pegging is, it’s a term used to describe a woman using a strap on to penetrate a man. And no, this does not mean the man has to be gay in order to enjoy it. In fact, many straight men love strap on sex with their girlfriends or wives.
The reason for this is simple: the prostate. Men have the prostate gland located inside their anal cavity a few inches. When a strap on is inserted, it gives them intense pleasure and can even make them have an orgasm through penetration alone. [Read: Drive him wild by stimulating the male g-spot]
Everything you need to know about strap on sex with your man
If you’re new to the world of pegging, strap into your strap on and pay attention. We’re about to get into all the details about having strap on sex you’ll ever need. Buckle down and get ready to learn what it takes to make your man cum with the assistance of a strap on dildo.
#1 Make sure he’s open to the idea. Obviously, you can’t have strap on sex with your man if he’s not into the idea. He has to be open to it. It’s even better if it’s his idea in the first place.
However, if you’re the one looking to get your kicks with this type of sex, convince him how great it will feel and get him open to the idea first. [Read: 14 tips to get your partner to open up about sex]
#2 Bigger isn’t always better – in this case. Find a strap on that works well for the both of you. Go shopping and decide on one together. The thing about guys is that they don’t need anything big to stimulate their prostate. Something small and functional will do.
#3 Cleanliness is key. The thing about pegging your man is that it can be a bit messy – for understandable reasons. If you want to make the most of it, make sure he’s clean and ready to go back there. Have him empty himself and take a shower. It’ll make the process much smoother and you’ll both enjoy it more.
#4 Lube it up. The more lube, the better in this situation. Don’t even attempt to have strap on sex with your man without it. Keep a bottle handy and use as much as needed. Communicate with each other so you know if you need to add more, too. [Read: The best 15 lubricants for sex]
#5 Get in the mood for fun. A drink or two never hurt anyone prior to some strap on sex. This is supposed to be fun. So loosen up a little! If the both of you are new to pegging, it can be a little scary. Setting the mood for a good time can help relax the both of you.
#6 Warm up that area. Don’t just dive right in with your strap on. You have to loosen up the area a bit. You prefer to have your lady bits warmed up before penetration, right? Well, the same goes for him. Get some anal play going and prep him for the strap on sex. [Read: 12 foreplay moves that work great on men]
#7 Slow and steady. Take your time with this. There’s no need to rush into it and go as fast as you can. Slowly easing into it is how you can both communicate and know just what the other wants.
#8 Relax a little. Or a lot. Strap on sex relies a LOT on relaxing. If your man is uptight, well, he’ll be too tight. It won’t work. Find a way for the two of you to unwind and relax together. Give him a hot oil massage – and finish with a happy ending. [Read: How to give a relaxing, sensual massage]
#9 Keep the line of communication open. Communicating during this time is crucial. You just won’t make it work right without it. You both need to be willing and able to tell the other what you want. He has to be willing to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t so you can adjust.
#10 Have fun with it and try new positions. Everyone has a certain position that’ll feel better. If the one you and your man start out in just isn’t doing it for him, try something new. This is supposed to be fun! You’re exploring new sexual activities. So let loose and have a good time if you want to make the most of it. [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life]
How to make it more enjoyable for him
If your man is reluctant and even a little nervous to give strap on sex a try, here are a few ways you can help him relax. It’ll make the experience much more enjoyable for him.
#1 Let him know how into it you are. He needs to know that you’re having fun too. You’re not getting any sexual stimulation if you’re pegging him. Which means he might be concerned that you’re not having fun. All that worrying won’t make it very fun for him. [Read: 23 tips for talking dirty and saying exactly what you feel]
#2 Make sure he knows it’s a no-judgment zone. You’re having strap on sex with him. There should be zero judgment. If he knows that you’re not sitting there thinking badly of him for liking it or making certain sounds, he’ll be able to relax more and therefore, he’ll have a much better time.
#3 Keep the mood light and playful. Getting too serious about something like this can ruin the mood. He might be worried and uncomfortable if things take on a serious edge.
For that reason, try to keep the mood light and be really playful. Keep the flirtatious energy alive so it’s not so uptight. [Read: Kick up the fun with these sexy things to do in bed]
#4 Ask what he wants from you. This is very important. Even if you try to keep the communication open, he might be shy. He may not want to open up about what he wants you to do.
So ask him. If he sees that you’re willing to do what he wants, it’ll allow him to relax and enjoy himself more. He’ll ask for what he wants and you’ll be able to give it to him.
#5 Enjoy it yourself. Having strap on sex with your lover is something you should love. He’s giving you full control and trusting you deeply. He’s allowing you to go where no one else has.
When he’s allowing himself to be in a vulnerable position with you, he’s showing you his love. So enjoy that! Enjoy the power and revel in it. He’ll see that and it’ll make it all the more better for him.
[Read: 14 ways to dominate your man in bed like the goddess you are]
Having strap on sex with your man can be a little intimidating. Here’s what you should know in order to make pegging him extra satisfying – for the both of you.
