Women find the big O easy, right? Not exactly. A woman’s orgasm is different from a man’s. Dig in, and check out 10 tips to guarantee her orgasm.
Knowing the right sex tricks to give her the big O is a skill worthy of bragging rights. Not only does it leave her in a sweaty, shuddering heap, but it also makes you feel good about yourself and your bedroom prowess. Therein lies a big question: can you do it again the next time around?
If you ask any woman who experiences climax from her partner, she likely says doing the same trick twice cannot guarantee the intended effects. Most non-self-induced orgasms happen out of pure luck on your part. Plus, there are a whole bunch of other factors, such as her mood, stress level, and peak of arousal *among other things* that even the world’s most brilliant lover cannot control.
Understanding female orgasm
Of course, you wouldn’t settle for luck alone… right? Take these tips and tricks into account so you’ll know how to push her buttons into an eye-fluttering orgasm every time you have sex.
#1 Women achieve orgasm differently than men. Compared to male orgasm, which is achieved in a simple and straightforward way, female climax is complicated. Giving her an orgasm is not achieved by attacking her sweet spots alone. You need to prepare her by warming her up to the right level of arousal. Pay attention to her reaction to stimulation. [Read: How to foreplay: The key for the best sex of your life]
#2 Female orgasm requires rhythm. While knowing the right erogenous zone to touch, fondle, or kiss remains essential in leading her to climax, it is more important to pay attention to how you touch her fun parts.
#3 Every female body is different. Even if you take pride in the fact that you’re one dashing Don Juan, the conquistador of the fairer sex, no single formula can be followed to guarantee an orgasm every time. Every female body is different from the other and each prefers a different kind of approach to stimulation.
Sex tricks and tips for a guaranteed orgasm
As mentioned, many other factors make or break an orgasm. If you got these covered, it helps her achieve a quicker and more powerful orgasm than she achieves by herself.
#1 Make sure she is relaxed and stress-free. If she’s tired, stressed, or even just burdened by a lot of thoughts, she may have difficulty reaching orgasm. So always see to it that she’s well-rested and in a good mood when you have sex.
If she’s not, then do something about it. Give her a massage, a body rub, a mild drink, or cook her a good meal to help her wind down and relax. [Read: How to give a good sensual massage and work your magic]
#2 Make preparations of your own. Take a shower to get yourself trimmed, groomed, and smelling nice. Little details help prompt arousal. Wear those butt-hugging jeans you know she likes, or the cologne she raves about. Either one make her wild. On the other hand, failing to take a shower or brushing your teeth throws her off… even if you managed to get her to bed.
#3 Don’t hold back on the foreplay. The road to female orgasm is a long and scenic route. Make sure you indulge her with lots of foreplay until she wants no more.
The female orgasm comes easily if she’s sufficiently aroused. So spoil her with a lot of kisses, touches, and fondling to get her wet and ready for the big event. Keep going until she’s so horny she’s begging you to stop and put it in already. [Read: 10 foreplay moves every guy needs to do to their ladies]
#4 Take care of her first and always finish last. As mentioned, the road to a female orgasm is a long road. Meaning, it requires patience and stamina on your part. Giving her an orgasm can be difficult if you feel spent from having one of your own.
Always take the lead and work your way through her first when you’re still full of stamina and endure the longer process of getting her to climax. [Read: How to be better in bed: 16 passionate ways to blow their mind]
#5 Know her “sweet spots.” Knowing her sweet spots or erogenous zones helps you give her an orgasm easily. Of course, you’re already familiar with the clitoris, vagina, and nipples as highly sensitive erogenous zones, but there’s more to the list than you can imagine.
The female body has a whole lot of areas, which may seem harmless, but tend to shudder in response to a touch or kiss. These erogenous zones can be quite different per individual, so know which part of your partner’s body aches for your touch. [Read: 11 sexiest hot spots to kiss a woman and arouse her]
#6 Mind her kinks and tastes. Every girl has her own little bedroom kink that surely turns her on. It increases your chances of providing her a good orgasm if you play along with her tastes. There’s a whole repertoire to these fetishes, so it is up to you find your individual partner’s tastes.
Some ladies are turned on by dirty talk, others by rough sex, others by using toys, and still others by role playing—and those are just the common ones. The possibilities are endless!
#7 Pay attention to her reaction. If you’re starting to work your way around her sweet spots, pay close attention to her reactions. Often, when a woman likes what you’re doing, she starts to arch her back, breathe heavily, moan louder, and claw into the sheets.
Most of the time, she tells you verbally if she’s loving it. If she’s just lying there, reactionless, it could be a sign you’re doing something wrong and need to change strategy. [Read: How to arouse a woman – 15 moves that work anytime, anywhere!]
#8 Use gentle, circular motions. Contrary to what porn leads you to believe, direct and aggressive stimulation of her clitoris and nipples are not pleasurable and may be painful. Remember these areas are home to thousands of nerve endings, which make them very sensitive to any form of stimulation.
If you want to help her achieve a good orgasm, use slow, gentle, circular movements of your finger or tongue. This action causes her to build sexual tension from the sensation of “almost touching” her sweet spots, which she releases later when she orgasms. [Read: How to eat a girl out: 15 secrets to make her scream]
#9 Take it slow. Yes, you may want to give her a good orgasm and you want to give her more than one, but you don’t want to rush things. Some men make the mistake of asking their partners “are you coming?” way too often during sex.
This pressures her and creates difficulty in achieving orgasm. So, don’t rush and take it slow. This helps you conserve your stamina and maintain your rhythm as you pleasure her into an orgasm. Sit back and enjoy how she writhes under you during foreplay. [Read: 18 sex tips for men to make her crave for a lot more!]
#10 Snuggle her afterward. After a successful orgasm, when she’s lying spent and basking in afterglow, snuggle close to her, give her a kiss, and caress her body. Her nerves still fire those feel-good chemicals, so her sweets spots will be more sensitive than ever.
Giving her kisses and caresses is a way of “massaging” her nerves to be more receptive to your touch. In this way, your touches feel better for her than normal.
[Read: Sex god secrets – How to make a girl cum every single time]
The female orgasm could be likened to a dam bursting after a great buildup of water. In that sense, she can’t achieve climax by a mere push of a button, but from tension accumulated by your touches and caresses.