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How to Have Spiritual Sex and Experience Sex Beyond Orgasms

Sex isn’t just something done for pleasure. It will bring you together as a couple and strengthen your bond. Do you know how to have spiritual sex?

How to Have Spiritual Sex

Sex is great, right? It’s fun, it feels good, and of course, it serves a reproductive purpose – if indeed that’s something you want. However, it can be something that can improve a relationship and bring you closer together.

For a deeper connection with your partner, it’s a good idea to learn how to have spiritual sex. This will bring you closer emotionally and spiritually, enhancing your relationship beyond measure. The thing is, do you actually know what spiritual sex is and how to have it? This isn’t your usual quickie! [Read: Emotional intimacy or sexual intimacy? Is it a chicken or the egg scenario?]

What is spiritual sex?

Spiritual sex goes completely beyond the actual act itself. It goes beyond an orgasm, enjoyment, or the clothes you’re not wearing. It’s about connecting with your partner on a level that transcends the physical. It’s about mindfulness, enhanced experience and awareness, and of course, it also feels pretty good too.

Learning to go beyond the physical sensations of sex brings the two of you to a space where you love each other unconditionally and experience a deeper connection together. However, you need to learn how to have spiritual sex first. Then work to deepen your sensations together. Now, it won’t happen overnight but it be great fun while you’re practicing!

Ask yourself this – When you and your partner have sex, do you spend time focusing on each other’s needs, or do you dive straight in for instant gratification?

Let’s be honest, most of us don’t have the time to spend too long in the bedroom, as bad as that sounds! We should be making intimacy with our partner a priority. Like most things in life, intimacy tends to get pushed to the back of the list, or you simply do the minimum to get the job done. [Read: Intimacy with your partner is a key to making your love last]

A deep and meaningful relationship needs many factors to be met. One of them is an active and fulfilling sex life. However, that doesn’t mean you need to be swinging from the chandeliers every single night and trying out every move in the Kama Sutra.

It can be as simple as making sure that your bedroom is a decluttered and beautiful space, designed to help the two of you relax and enjoy the time you spend together. It can be about massages and long baths together. You really don’t need to be trying bondage and all other manner of sexual tricks to say that you have a fulfilling sex life! [Read: Sexy bedroom essentials – 16 ways to get your bedroom to scream sex]

How to have spiritual sex: It’s easier than you think!

When you transcend the need for physical gratification, you soon find that sex is about far more than reaching your climax. It’s not just about you, it’s about the two of you together and the experience you’re having together.

Of course, spiritual sex is very hard to explain unless you’ve actually had it. In that case, you should probably just learn how to have spiritual sex and find out for yourself!

1. Make sure your bedroom is a clear and cherished area

Your bedroom should not include an office, a workout area, and it should not be cluttered. Declutter your space and make it as minimal as possible. Never take your laptop into the bedroom and do not have a TV in there.

When you go to bed, don’t have your phone with you. This is a space that is sacred to nothing other than the connection you share.

You should also think about how you decorate the room. Learning how to have spiritual sex isn’t just about the act itself, it’s about the surroundings. Purples, blues, and greens are all good ideas for bedroom decor, because they connect with nature and a higher spirit. Avoid too many pictures on the walls and make sure that your bed is a comfortable and beautiful place to be. [Read: How to have the best sex ever: 15 ways to do it every single time]

2. Try rose quartz or rose flowers

If you’ve never tried crystals before, it’s time to give them a go. Rose quartz crystals are known for helping to promote feelings of togetherness, love, and deep connections. You can simply keep a small crystal on your bed stand or under your pillow.

If you like the scent of flowers, you could also try having a vase of beautiful red roses on your nightstand; however, make sure they’re fresh and not plastic ones as they really don’t do the same thing and won’t help you learn how to have spiritual sex! [Read: Beautiful sex – 17 blissful ways to connect sexually in no time]

3. Don’t just focus on your climax, tap into all five senses

Learning how to have spiritual sex is about using all five of your senses. It’s difficult to do that solely in the bedroom, so think creatively in the time before you go there. Cook a meal as a couple, have a bubble bath together, feed each other.

Use the time leading up to your sexual connection to touch, caress, and feel each other beyond a basic level. When you do this, you build sex up to the point where it becomes clear and very focused. It makes every sensation more pronounced, and of course, more enjoyable for you both. [Read: The five sense so of sexy lovemaking everyone has to master]

4. Spiritual sex is also meaningful sex

Understanding how to have spiritual sex does mean trying a few techniques and going beyond the physical in other ways, but it can also be simplified. You have a close relationship, and that means you have memories and experiences together.

Do a little reminiscing about some of the more positive experiences you’ve shared together, and you’ll instantly feel closer to one another. Then, when you’re ready, you can take this to the next level and move things into the bedroom! [Read: Feel like you’re in a relationship rut? How to recognize it and fix it]

5. Be mindful of the scents you use

I’ve already mentioned the five senses, but one which often gets overlooked is the sense of smell. This is extremely powerful and has the capability to completely change your mood.

When you head into the bedroom, have a diffuser or a candle *be careful not to knock it over and set the room alight as that is going to seriously ruin the mood* to help create a sexy scent to the space. In terms of how to have spiritual sex, sometimes the way a room makes you feel can be a real catalyst to a deeper level. [Read: What are pheromones? The scent of sex and they role they play in love]

6. Start the process by having a relaxing bath together

Before you move into the bedroom, take a bath together, but don’t touch each other. Add in a few essential oils to make use of the scent tip. Sit at opposite ends, completely naked. Take the time to really look at your partner, and let them do the same.

Don’t allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. Simply bathe in the enjoyment of them delighting in every single part of your body, and lose yourself in theirs. Whatever you do, do not touch! That can’t happen until you move into the bedroom, this is about building up anticipation. It’s one of the best ways to learn how to have spiritual sex. [Read: The intense orgasm checklist to help you guarantee one every time]

7. Communication is key

The key to a deep and fulfilling connection of any type is to communication effectively. That also means listening to what your partner is saying, really listening, and not just speaking. When you communicate on a deeper level, you learn to accept each other completely as you are, without trying to change anything about the other person.

You feel more at ease and comfortable talking about anything. They become your best friend as well as your lover. All of this leads to a deeper connection, and of course, far better sex as a result. [Read: 14 steps for better communication in a relationship]

8. Try to make eye contact

Many people find it deeply uncomfortable to hold eye contact with someone, especially during intimate moments. However, eye contact during sex can bring you infinitely closer together and help you to go higher than the usual moment of climax. Practice beforehand to start feeling more comfortable but you may find that if you just go for it and overcome those first few seconds of awkwardness, it feels extremely natural and you get lost in the moment.

9. Prepare your body with luxury

Before you even get down to it, spend some time alone, preparing your body for what is to come. Of course, personal hygiene is key but why not add in a spot of luxury with some of your favorite body creams? Of course, this is before the special bath you’re going to take together. [Read: The perfect romantic massage to turn your lover on]

10. Go with what feels right and comfortable

At the end of it all, learning how to have spiritual sex is also about throwing out the rule book. That’s what makes this type of sex so special. It’s about connecting with one another on another level, but you do that by finding methods that work for you. The above are all suggestions that work really well, but perhaps you find something else that really hits the spot for the pair of you.

As you can see, learning how to have spiritual sex isn’t actually difficult. It doesn’t require meditation or other measures that need practice. It simply means focus on each other. Move past the physical gratification of what sex normally is.

Forget the routine, try new things, communicate, and make sure that you build up the tension before even touching each other for a second. You’ll soon find that learning how to have spiritual sex isn’t as hard as you first thought.

[Read: Tantric Sex – A full step-by-step guide to initiate tantric sex at home]

If you don’t try to learn how to have spiritual sex, you’ll never know what it is to achieve that deeper level of sexual bliss and connection. You’ll also miss out on something that could take your relationship closer to its full potential.

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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