Who wouldn’t want to be able to turn someone on? I mean, that’s basically why you go to the clubs. It’s all about how to arouse a woman.
Many men think to arouse a woman all you need to do is get some big arms and drive a motorcycle. Now, I’m not saying that that doesn’t work, but there’s way more to it. You guys just can’t think it’s that easy… right? Unless you’re Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling, you’ll have to put a little more elbow grease than that. And that is why you need us to learn how to arouse a woman.
You’re probably rolling your eyes, thinking women are so much work. It’s not that we’re a lot of work, we get aroused differently than men. So, what you need to do is know what turns us on and you’ll be well on your way to being Casanova, maybe.
How to arouse a woman – 15 moves that really work
Because putting on The Notebook will only get you so far, we compiled 15 tips to arousing a woman.
#1 Tap into your feelings. Women are emotional *so are men but are less likely to admit it*. What you need to do is tap into the feelings of what makes her the most aroused.
For me, I feel aroused when I feel really desired by the guy. For other women, it’ll be the need to feel safe. So, you need to use your words and body in a way that gives her those feelings. [Read: What turns women on and arouses them: 15 secrets unleashed]
#2 It’s all in her mind. Sure, we like attractive men, but for us, much of our arousal is mental. You need to get into our heads and turn us on. Be charming, share some laughs. Relax her and turn her on with your personality. It works every time.
#3 Get out of your head. If you’re not in the moment, we know. Oh, we know. You can actually see it in your eyes. So, either be in the moment or just don’t do it. It’s not going to be pleasurable for her if you’re busy thinking about your ex or the exam you have tomorrow. [Read: How to get a girl really wet and horny just by sitting next to her]
#4 Ask her what she likes. If you don’t ask, you don’t know. Right? So, just ask. Some women aren’t so forthcoming when telling you she doesn’t like how you’re doing something. If you ask, she guides you and shows you what she likes. It’s just so much more effective.
#5 Use all her erogenous zones. Her vagina is not the only erogenous zone she has, you know. I know you know that, but I feel like guys overlook everything else and only focus on that area. I mean, it’s an important part, but other erogenous zones such as the breasts or neck also arouse her. [Read: Top 10 erogenous zones that drive women wild in bed]
#6 Don’t rush. Why are you always rushing? We all know the end result, so just take your time. It’s not like there’s a surprise at the end. Enjoy the moment you experience with her. Taste her, touch her, really feel her and her body. Plus, quickies are fun but not all the time.
#7 Focus on foreplay. Men always seem to overlook foreplay. Let me tell you, as a woman, we hate that. We love foreplay, it’s the best part of sex. It’s steamy, it’s sensual, it’s exploring each other. If you want to know how to arouse a woman right, this is the ticket. Plus, women take longer to turn on than men, so basically foreplay is warming the engines. [Read: 20 things you can do to get a woman in the mood for sex]
#8 Eye contact. Don’t get creepy with the eye contact, but if you’re in bed, eye contact is a huge deal. Look into your girl’s eyes, it can be a sensual gaze or an intense ‘I want you’ look. The point is, the eyes are the window into the soul, so show her.
#9 Use your hands. When in bed, please guys, use your hands. You have two of them, so you can get a lot done. There’s nothing worse than a guy who kisses you and keeps his hands to himself. No! Grab us, squeeze us—we want to feel wanted. Show us you crave us. [Read: 11 sexiest hot spots to kiss a woman and turn her on]
#10 Tease her. We like being teased. Not bullied, okay? Teased. There’s a difference. Joke around with us, flirt a bit, that’s all a part of teasing. Don’t worry, we’ll do it back to you. This helps build the chemistry and sexual tension.
#11 Random PDA. So, we don’t want you slobbering all over us in the bus. However, a kiss now and then or putting your hand on our waist are gestures that show you’re into us. Some women like more PDA while others don’t, gauge it yourself.
#12 Be you. If you want to be successful in arousing a woman, be yourself. You can do all these tips just make sure you do them in your style. You don’t want a woman interested in some personality you’re using as a front. It’s not going to work. [Read: How to make a girl want you and think of you sexually]
#13 Don’t throw yourself at her. We want to see the guy is interested in us, but we don’t want a guy that shows up on our door in tears, sobbing his undying love for us. Women like a little masculinity. So, show us you’re interested but take it down a couple notches.
#14 Fulfill the fantasy. All women have a fantasy of a perfect night with a man they’re sexually attracted to. So, feel free to dim the lights, light some candles, cook a delicious dinner *or get your mom to cook it for you the day before*. Point is, let them live that fantasy, and their panties will be soaked. [Read: What girls find attractive: 20 traits that make you irresistible]
#15 Get a little facial hair going. If you can’t grow a beard it’s not the end of the world, fellas. Don’t freak out. However, women tend to like men who have a little stubble going on. Now, don’t freak out at the whole “parenting” thing, but women like men with beards because they’re perceived as better fathers. You can still grow the beard without having to have a kid!
[Read: How to get a girl to have sex with you – 10 steps that won’t fail you]
Now that you know how to arouse a woman, you have no excuses. Go out and put these words into practice. Don’t give up, it takes a couple failed attempts to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t.
