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Dick Selfies: Why Men Love Sending Dick Pics to Women

Ladies, this is a common thing! Men sending dick selfies. But why do they do it? What do they get out of it? And should we even respond?

Dick Selfies

It’s not a secret, everyone sends nude pics. You could be a mom of three or single, and you still, at some point, sent nude pics. However, it’s different than when a guy sends dick selfies. Women do it because men are visual. It gives ladies a chance to explore their own sensuality, but what about men? Why do they do it?

Despite their rugged exteriors, manliness, and overall lack of sharing feelings comfortably, men still need to feel wanted by someone, just like women. They want to feel capable of arousing someone, but also desire a sense of validation.

Much the same way women feel good when complimented on their size or bust size, men feel great when they get complimented on their dick size.

Dick selfies and what they mean

Of course, there’s more reasons. Let’s consider all the angles, and how to respond to the guys who send them to you.

#1 They’re horny. They think looking at it turns you on. Either go along with it if you feel like having fun, or ignore it if he’s bad news. You know the thing men do when they stand directly in front of you, naked, thinking a dick in your face during E!News turns you on? This is the indirect equivalent.

He seriously thinks it gets you to play along, either by sending nudes or having phone sex. At the very least, sexting, for sure. [Read: Naughty ways to tease your man and leave him hard]

If he’s your boyfriend, or just someone you want to have fun with *hopefully you’ve made that clear, and it’s a mutual thing*, then go right ahead. Consider it a funny way to spark things, even if the picture really doesn’t do anything for you *see #2*.

If he’s bad news, delete the picture, and block the guy, otherwise he won’t leave you alone. And don’t show your girlfriends and make a joke out of the guy. Be a lady. [Read: How to reject a guy or turn down a guy nicely]

#2 They think you work the same way as them. He thinks you’ll use it to masturbate. Since it’s meant in good faith, go ahead and thank and compliment him, even if you don’t use it *you won’t*. Moment of truth ladies, a man could have the nicest penis in the world, but chances are it does nothing for you in image form *differs by girl, but this is the most common reaction*.

Unless it’s there, in the room with you, and attached to the right guy, you probably could care less if he dressed it up in a tuxedo and sent you a picture of it. In male world, this means he wants you to have a good time, using the little *no pun intended* gem he sent.

If he’s a good guy, your boyfriend maybe, thank him, compliment him, and send something sexy back. Even if you don’t use it, he doesn’t have to know. Plus, just get off to him getting off to you. [Read: How to sext a guy – Your complete guide to safe and sexy texting]

#3 No, really, the whole size thing is a big thing. React to his size the same way you’d like people to react to your breast size. Yes, even if it isn’t big at all. Some men, usually younger men *teenagers, young adults, men with little-to-no experience, or even older men with baggage* tend to be insecure about their dick size. Yes, men experience body issues, much like women, but they don’t show that to the world at large.

Sometimes, they want to show you and see if you think it’s big enough. Hypothetically, if the man does have a small dick. Then what? Remember you’re a lady, and recall the one time you wondered if your breasts were big enough for a man to fondle joyfully and say something nice. Maybe the whole “motion of the ocean,” thing is true, maybe it’s not. [Read: Why are men so obsessed with their penis size?]

#4 He wants to take your relationship to the next level and bares himself. So, you see what he has “to offer.” Of course, this is the wrong way to do it. They probably aren’t in it for the long haul, so keep this in mind. This is the typical sleazy, fraternity guy. Oh, he’s done with college? No, he isn’t–not mentally.

He still very much tries to get you, and those other five girls he sent the same exact picture to, to sleep with him. He isn’t a quality guy, made clear by the fact prior to this, he showed no indication of really “getting serious.”

A gentleman treats you like the princess you are, holds off on the sexy time until you allow it to get to that point. Now, if you saw no signs of seriousness, and led him on, then you got these pictures because you made it seem like you were his female equivalent. Either join in on the “fun” knowing all this very well is true, or just ignore him.

If he persists, block him and hope you didn’t tell him where you work. Chances are, even if you did, he either doesn’t remember, or doesn’t care, since he’s got roughly five to seven girls he’s messing around with. [Read: 10 sneaky techniques guys use to get into your pants]

#5 You’re in a long-distance relationship, and he’s looking for a way to keep the fire alive. If this is the case, please your man! Send some nude pics back. This is one of those silly, sweet things that not every relationship experiences.

For couples who live in the same general area, sending nudes and sexting is one of those things that you either never do, because you’re older and prefer the real thing, or you do it when you’re in the early stages of the relationship.

It fizzles out. Later on you get to do it how you want, whenever you want, wherever *within reason* you want, and those pictures do nothing for you anymore. But for those who live far away from their partners, this is ideal to keep your sex life as intact as possible.

Hot pictures, sexting, dirty phone calls, and Skype calls are long distance relationship savers. If this is your situation, please your man, send some back, get nasty! [Read: 15 tantalizing tricks on how to sext the right way]

#6 Trying to spice things up. Keep it going and see what happens! It could also be for people who simply want to spice things up for no reason other than they feel like it. Or the couples who have been together for years, and simply haven’t kept that passionate, sexual fire lit as well as they could have.

Whatever the reason, it’s possible the guy wants to liven things up a bit, and enjoy some quality time being naughty with you. Keep it going, see what happens! At some point, he could say some pretty amazing things if you say the right words.

#7 He is reciprocating from your nude pics. This is him being a gentleman, so be a lady and thank him. If you sent the man some gorgeous pictures of yourself, then he obviously enjoyed them. He’s sending you some back! This is him being grateful and showing he likes you too.

Keep things going, say something dirty, ask for something specific, or let him ask for something specific. This isn’t a losing situation, since you sent the pictures first, and he clearly loved it. [Read: Sexting ideas – 14 tips to effortlessly sext like a real pro]

#8 You asked for it. If you do like it, then you’ll know how to respond, but if you don’t, then stop asking for the dick pics. If you read point two, most women don’t actually get off by a penis picture. Unlike men, women aren’t as visual, but rather, we need to be in the right frame of mind *dirty thoughts*. A man who talks dirty to us, and looks at us with lustful eyes is more likely to get laid than a man who sends the dick selfie with a winking emoji.

However, there are the unicorns. Women who actually ask for the penis pictures. This could be out of curiosity, in case they’ve never seen a particular man’s dick, or even just wanting to stare at it and think of how good it feels.

Whatever the case, if you asked for it once, he might think you like that kind of thing, and send other pictures of his dick even when you don’t ask. If you don’t like it, stop asking for the pictures.

Show interest, but don’t really get into it until he starts talking dirty! Men are willing to please, and if you simply ask for something you do want, then he’ll oblige and forget those dick selfies. Meanwhile, if you do like it, then you obviously know what to do with it by now. [Read: 10 reasons why women don’t admit to watching porn]

#9 They want to flaunt it to you, and whoever else they can manage. Delete the dick selfies and block the guy. Unlike guy number four, this guy didn’t so much as do anything that indicated friendship or even entertainment. This particular guy is the one who doesn’t care to even talk to you again, doesn’t care if you don’t sleep with him, doesn’t care about anything, because he “knows” he’s got an “amazing” dick, and simply wants to show it off.

This is the equivalent of the girls that show way too much skin on purpose, because they think they’re capable of getting anything and anyone they want.

These people don’t even want validation, they don’t need it. They’re just showing you for the sake of showing you. Better to block and move on, otherwise, you’ll just keep getting the pictures. [Read: 9 types of really pervy guys and ways to spot them instantly]

#10 He’s done it in every other relationship before. Or he’s inexperienced, and thinks that’s also what he has to do. What men don’t realize, and what’s been said twice in this feature already, is that words get a woman wet, but dick selfies generally don’t.

If the guy is super inexperienced, he might think this is what needs to be done. If he’s had experience, but he’s been with girls who wanted dick pictures, or girls that never directed him accordingly, then he’s going to assume you want to get dick pictures. [Read: Frexting: Why sexting friends is the naughty new trend]

Now, there is an alternative reason here, that falls under the same general lines: if you just started dating this guy, it could be that he wants to show you what he has early on, to get things hot and heavy, and work up to a more intimate status. This can either be out of good intentions, just trying to be sexual with you, or it could be he’s rushing into it, and doesn’t see you as a long-term girlfriend.

[Read: 20 clever ways to respond to an unwanted dick selfie]

Despite the welcome sight of a man’s dick if you’re about to get hot and heavy, it’s not all that exciting to see over a text. Dick selfies and penis pictures do less for a woman, generally, than words will, especially if they get really detailed.

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