You’ve heard of cunnilingus, right? It’s also known as female oral sex or “going down on a girl.” Whatever you call it, you want to blow her mind.
Most of the time we read features focused on how to give an amazing blow job, but what about for women? Women enjoy oral sex just as much as men do. That being said, like blow jobs, cunnilingus does take some skill, especially if you want her to orgasm.
How to give her the best cunnilingus of her life
You may be thinking, “But don’t I just move my tongue around really fast?” Listen to yourself, man. You think women are that easy to please? You should know better! But don’t be nervous, it’ll take some practice if you want to develop your… umm… talents. They’ll be appreciated, don’t worry.
You’ll have her begging you for more after using these tips.
#1 Find her comfort zone. She may not be relaxed. I know I wasn’t during the beginning of my oral sex days. There’s a head between her legs, I mean, can you blame her? However, if she’s not relaxed she won’t be able to fully enjoy it.
So, let her know she can relax, and that’ll ease her mental state. It takes us a little longer to orgasm, so she may be feeling self-conscious because of that. [Read: 8 tips and tricks to give her oral sex like a pro]
#2 Get her in the perfect position. She’s probably masturbated before so she knows what position is the most comfortable for her. However, if she lets you, place a pillow under her pelvis and keep her legs spread wide apart. Both these moves will enhance her sensations.
#3 Tease her. You don’t have to just jump right into it. Take your time and tease her with your tongue. Bite, lick, or kiss her inner thigh and slowly make your way to the vagina. When you’re there, tease her by gently licking her, then slowly get into it.
#4 Listen to her body. You want to pay attention to the way her body reacts to your movements. You can do that by listening to her breathing and how she’s moving her hips.
You’ll see what moves she really likes and what moves she’s not a fan of. That’ll help you get her more turned on. You gotta pay attention, fellas! [Read: Female confessions – the feeling of oral sex for women]
#5 Use toys. Now, you don’t have to use them right away. I suggest learning how to work your tongue and fingers first, and then you can step it up. But, lemme tell ya, using a vibrator is a great way to amp it up. Plus, women take an average of 20 minutes to climax from oral sex, so unless you have outstanding stamina, I would throw in the vibrator to prevent jaw cramping.
#6 Think of it like a movie. Cunnilingus is like a movie? Huh? Well, you know, they start out slow, you’re getting to know the plot and characters, then there’s some drama, and it ends with a finale. That’s what you want. Start off slowly, and then build up the momentum, increasing the pressure and speed.
#7 Do it if you like it. If you don’t like doing it, then she’s not going to enjoy it. Did you ever get a blow job from a girl who hated doing it? It was probably the most unsatisfying blow job of your life. So, cunnilingus is not any different with her either. [Read: 16 ways to get your girl to give you head and like it]
#8 Don’t re-enact porn. Porn is porn for a reason. Don’t try to be a cunnilingus porn star, so just admit that you’re not one. Let this moment be intimate and sexual, not like you have a camera in your face for 15 minutes of fame.
#9 Think of what YOU like. When you receive a blow job, you don’t want the girl to bite your penis. That being said, she doesn’t want you biting her clit – it’s sensitive. So, treat her clitoris like your penis when you are giving her cunnilingus.
#10 Use your fingers. Don’t forget your fingers. While you’re using your tongue, you can slip a couple fingers in there and finger her at the same time. Or, you can rub her anus for extra pleasure. Fingers are a great way to take some pressure from your mouth and give your tongue a break. [Read: Magic fingers – The sexual art of using your fingers right]
#11 Remove your ego. Your goal is to make her orgasm, I know. But if that’s all you’re thinking about, you’re actually taking away from the moment. So leave your ego at the door because you need to focus on making her feel good, not achieving your personal goals when giving cunnilingus.
#12 Get creative with your tongue. You should not jab her like you’re working a machine gun or eating ice cream. Oh, and pretending to write out the alphabet isn’t the best idea. Basically, whatever your friends told you to do, don’t do it.
All women are different, so some like a side-to-side motion, while others prefer a up-and-down motion. You can try out other ways and get more creative. But go by her reaction if you wanna get the best results.
#13 Don’t forget the anus. Many people neglect that beautiful little hole when performing cunnilingus. But not you! Not after reading this! Give some love to the anus by pressing it with your finger and inserting a finger inside of it. Just make sure your finger is wet or else it could sting. [Read: How to eat a girl out – 15 secrets to make her scream]
#14 Educate yourself. If you’re not sure where the clitoris is, before you stick your tongue down there, you should google it. Educate yourself about the vagina before you start exploring. [Read: Clitoris stimulation – 10 sexy ways to please the clitoris]
#15 When in doubt, go slowly. If you’re not sure what you’re doing, just go slowly. It’s the best thing you can do. She’ll let you know when you should speed it up, but until then, just take it easy. This way you’ll have time to figure it out, and it’ll also look like you’re wanting to please her. Which you are…
#16 Try not to stop. When you’re getting a blow job, the worst thing that could happen is when you’re just about to ejaculate and she stops. Same thing goes for her. Your jaw might be cramping and you’re tongue may be sore, but God damnit, you finish it.
[Read: 5 goofproof moves to make a girl squirt like she’s peeing]
Take these tips and memorize them. They’ll help you when times get tough and you’re not sure what to do. Cunnilingus may sound difficult, and I’m not gonna lie, it’s not easy. But with some practice, you’ll become a pro.
