Many are itching to know the truth about sex after marriage. Do you have more? Do you have less? Does the pattern change? Read on to find out.
It is fairly obvious, in almost all circumstances, that being married means the two of you would be having sex at some point after the eve of your wedding.
With social norms being more liberated these days, sex is probably already on the table before couples even consider the thought of getting married.
And if that’s the case, why are people concerned about how their sex lives will change after they get married?
How people perceive sex after marriage…
If you ask people what they expect from their sex life after they get married, you might get two conflicting answers.
Some people think that you can have sex more frequently when you get married. Others assume that you’re going to have less.
The truth is that it can go either way, depending on how you deal with sex. Married or not, if someone is not into having sex with their partner every day, then nothing’s going to change unless the couple decide to change things together.
On the other hand, some think that having sex every day is the ultimate dream when they get married, but then again, that can only last if you and your partner are willing to work at it. [Read: How to create sexual chemistry and make it stay]
Either way, the two different possibilities are what make people reluctant to get married. They’re having the time of their lives with their partner in bed. Of course, they’re going to wonder whether things are going to change after marriage.
People’s perception of sex after marriage is greatly affected by how the media portrays it. Everything about marriage is a running joke. It’s funny, but it also made more people believe that it is true.
The most frequent assumption is that couples who are reluctantly married have less or no sex at all. Whereas couples who look all love-dovey have sex as many times as they can within a romcom’s allowed amount of screen time.
With that in mind, there are still two sides to a story. How can people decide which is which? Maybe if you experience it on your own, you can finally see the truth about sex after marriage.
Still, marriage is a very serious matter. You can’t just get married on a whim to check if your sex life is going to go on an incline or a decline. When you realize that your expectations don’t match up, it might mean the end of a perfectly good relationship. [Read: 12 real reasons why couples drift apart over time]
Lucky for you, we’ve got the statistics that will show you the truth about what goes on in the bedroom once you do get married.
Do people have more sex when they get married?
A study was conducted by the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University to find out whether married couples had sex more than single people.
The researchers studied the sexual habits and activities of more than 5000 people with ages ranging from 14 to 94, single and married, with fetishes and without fetishes.
By using a huge sample size like this with random variables, they were able to get an in-depth assessment of the most common ideas about sex among Americans.
For the purpose of this feature, we will be focusing on Western society’s views and activities relating to sex. So, what exactly is the verdict in the US? Do people have more sex after marriage? Or do they have less? [Read: 10 ways to make married sex feel like a one night stand from tonight!]
The Answer
People have more sex when they’re married. Not only that, they also have more oral sex. According to the study, 61% of single people had not had sex within the past year.
Of course, there are other single people who have had more sex than married couples, but that wouldn’t matter as long as most single people don’t engage in that sort of activity.
Again, blame pop culture for this assumption, because they usually portray attractive single people as horny individuals who have multiple partners within a week. [Read: The new hookup culture and how millennials survive through this]
Is the answer surprising? Not at all. Aside from social influences, the only reason why you would think that single people have more sex is probably because they have access to more partners.
The reason why you think married people have less sex is because of the idea that they’re so used to it that they might not even bother to keep doing it.
But the real truth is that married people have more sex because:
#1 It is readily available.
#2 Nobody gets sick of sex. Boring sex, yes, but sex in general, no.
#3 Married people have a deeper connection with their partners than their single counterparts.
#4 Married people sleep beside their partners. Single people usually sleep alone.
[Read: 17 of the best naughty ideas to spice up married sex]
So how much sex do married couples have?
The same study recorded the data from the married couples as well. Without comparing the results to those of single people, it might make you think that they’re having less sex.
For one thing, the study recounts how much sex couples have within a year, that’s 365 days, and most married couples don’t even go beyond 2 digits.
Here are the stats:
# Couples between the ages of 18-29 averaged about 112 times a year, or at least twice a week.
# Couples between the ages of 30-39 averaged about 86 times a year, or about 7 times a month.
# Couples between the ages of 50-59 averaged about 69 times a year or a little under six times a month.
For someone who hasn’t had sex in months, those stats don’t look too bad. Just because horny twenty-somethings look like they’re having sex every day, does not mean that real-life married couples aren’t capable of doing the same thing. [Read: 10 naughty ways to get over a sexual dry spell quickly]
What does this mean for married people?
The point of concern about this data, however, is that it was obvious how married couples were having less sex as they grow older.
There are a lot of factors that could affect this, but the most common and reasonable one would be old age.
You aren’t as energetic as you were ten years before. Your body is not equipped to handle that much fatigue, even if it feels really good.
Your bones get weaker. Your stamina gets lower. It’s the circle of life. But even then, you should consider yourself lucky that you and your partner are still having sex when you’re 59. [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life no matter what your age is]
Judging by the pattern, people who are 60 and older could be having sex as much as five times a month! So, have faith, all you single people out there.
Marriage is not the end of your sex life. There may be bumps and obstacles along the way, but that’s part of being an adult.
[Read: 10 naughty sex games for couples to feel horny again]
So don’t let anyone convince you that sex hits a dead end after marriage. And all those singles out there who’re flaunting their singledom with adulterous abandon, guess what? On most nights in bed, they’ve only got their hands for company!
