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21 Thirsty Signs You’re Sexually Frustrated & Horny and Need Sex ASAP

Are you feeling a little agitated and can’t focus? These could be signs you’re sexually frustrated! Understand the signs to know when you need to get some! 

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We can all confidently say we’ve experienced periods with zero action. Everyone has had a dry spell or two, even desert dry. But, recognizing the signs you’re sexually frustrated can help you understand why you’re feeling the way you do.

Usually, this period passes when you meet someone worth sleeping with. After that, you’re out of the dry spell and back into the wetlands – pardon the pun. Although, there are times where the dry period lasts a little too long and sexual frustration comes into play.

You don’t know what’s changed in you, but you know you can’t stand seeing couples showing intimacy. If you see anything remotely shaped like a penis or vagina, you lose your mind. [Read: 13 signs it’s time to break the dry spell]

Why we need sex!

Sex is simply a part of being a human being. We need it in order to reproduce and continue our species. And we also need it to keep us sane. Maybe you usually credit most of your sanity to having regular sex and never going too long without it.

But it’s not just that. Sex is healthy, too. It boosts our immune system, reduces stress, and even increases our self-esteem. If you’re someone who has sex regularly, then you can really feel the adverse affects when you have to go through a dry spell. [Read: Why is sex important in a relationship?]

Why do we have dry spells?

Life! That’s the easiest explanation possible! You might go through a period of being stressed at work, a relationship might end or perhaps you’re not feeling too well. It might also have nothing to do with you.

Maybe you just haven’t met anyone you actually want to sleep with. Or, you do meet someone and they’re already coupled up or simply not interested.

There are countless reasons and most of them don’t place the blame at your door.

If you’re going through a dry spell, the most important thing to remember is that it won’t last forever! In the meantime, get down and dirty with yourself and enjoy a spot of alone time instead. Masturbation can be just as fun as sex with another person! [Read: 10 reasons you should have great sex every single day]

Major signs you’re sexually frustrated

The problem with being sexually frustrated is that it means you’ve gone past the point of feeling annoyed at your dry spell. Now, it starts to affect how you act and think. Understand the signs of sexual frustration and know when it’s getting to that point.

While you can’t really force your dry spell to end, you can try and manage it. But first, you need to know the signs.

We want you to have a healthy sex life. Before you go deeper down into a sexless hole of frustration, are you actually sexually frustrated? [Read: Physical signs of female arousal – 20 ways to recognize the horny girl mode]

1. You’ve given up on getting laid

You’ve officially hit the moment where you’re like, “screw it, I don’t need sex, I’m going to adopt 20 dogs and 8 cats.” Though we’re totally for you helping animals and adopting that dog, you can also do that while having sex.

If you’ve given up on getting laid, it sounds to us like sexual frustration with a dash of hopeless. Nevertheless, have hope, you will get laid. [Read: The secrets to getting laid on your first date]

2. You’re easily angered and annoyed

Your friends probably just love hanging around you right now (sarcasm intended). This is a common sign of sexual frustration. When sexually frustrated, your body reacts differently than when content.

In other words, you’re more short-tempered and quick to anger.

3. Food is now your pleasure

You used to enjoy sex but since you haven’t been having it lately, you focus your attention on food. We’re not judging, we love food, but emotional eating easily spirals out of control.

If you find yourself filling the void with food, you’re probably sexually frustrated. [Read: This is what you need to do to take care of yourself emotionally]

4. You find it hard to fall asleep

Well, you can, but it takes you hours to do so. You count sheep, watch your favorite TV shows on replay, yet you still can’t fall asleep. Sleep deprivation can be caused by sexual frustration.

Your body is full of energy *it’s been storing it due to the lack of sex*, and it’s ready to release it, but it has nowhere to go.

5. You’re very sensitive

People used to crack jokes with you or make comments about your work. Now, you don’t take things lightly.

If someone made a joke, you used to laugh it off. However, your emotions are now heightened. Don’t worry, you have nothing to feel insecure about. This too shall pass. [Read: How to stop being so sensitive about everything all the time]

6. You don’t masturbate

In the beginning, even during the middle of your dry spell, you still masturbated. Everything was fine. Now, you’ve stopped. Though you may not think it’s a sign of sexual frustration, it is.

If you’re no longer interested in masturbation, this is due to an accumulation of stress. Sex is a stress releaser which is why you’re tense. [Read: How do you masturbate? 13 different ways to be a hands-on pro]

7. You feel depressed

You think about sex as a faint memory, wondering how intimacy feels. It’s a sad thought to have and one many people experience. Plus, having a dry spell can also make you feel undesirable.

There’s another blow to the ego. 

8. You’re on the hunt for a partner

You want a partner. You want to be in a relationship. Maybe the sense of loneliness pushes you in this direction or the thought of consistent sex is also on your mind.

If you’re suddenly interested in buckling down, make sure it’s not because you just want to get laid. Remember, there are apps for that. [Read: The 9 best hook up apps for the hot and horny]

9. You pretend you have a sex life

It’s okay to admit you’re not having sex. Most people trying too hard on social media in regards to sex are the ones not getting laid.

If you post photos of your body in provocative poses and brag about things, you want attention and not in the best way. [Read: Safe and natural ways to increase your libido]

10. You’re actively going out

You take your weekends seriously, making sure you hit up every bar, club, and every library in town. You check off all the eligible places to meet a potential match.

Hunting is fine, we all do it, but when you’re sexually frustrated, you literally look like you haven’t eaten in ten days and you’re desperate for prey.

11. Skin-to-skin contact really affects you

Usually, when someone walks by you and brushes against your shoulder, you hardly pay attention to it. However, any skin-to-skin contact drives you silently insane. [Read: Skin hunger and the human need to touch someone]

12. You live through other people’s sex lives

When it comes to sex, you’re deeply interested in the sex adventures of the people around you. You make sure your friends keep you updated on any sexual encounters because you live vicariously through them.

Hey, you have to get your kicks somewhere, right?

13. You’re really jealous

You usually don’t care about other people’s relationships, but hugging or kissing couples make you jealous. You almost dislike them as people even though they’ve done nothing wrong to you.

Relax; it’s just one of the signs of sexual frustration. [Read: Why am I so jealous? 8 ways to recognize the reasons & fix it]

14. You have sex, but it’s meh

You finally have sex, but even then, it’s nothing special. This could be due to your connection, your partner or you. It will take some time to feel satisfied, but if you’re not aroused by your partner, find someone else.

To get you out of this sexual frustration, your mind needs to be blown. [Read: How to have the best sex of your life]

15. Everyone tells you that you need to get laid

If your friends suddenly hook you up with blind dates, it’s because they’re trying to save themselves. They love you, but they also can’t stand this angry, stressed version of you.

If your friends and even family make comments, then you probably are sexually frustrated, unless you have other things going on.

16. You’re restless and have too much energy

When you’re sexually frustrated, you have lots of extra energy because you’re not spending it going to town on someone else. This leaves you feeling wound up and antsy, sort of like you’ve had way too much coffee.

If you feel like this, yet you haven’t had any caffeine, you could be sexually frustrated. [Read: Sex, calories, and METs: The fitness guru’s guide to sex]

17. You start to feel that you have zero interest in sex

This might seem like a strange sign that you’re sexually frustrated, but stick with it. The stress of sexual frustration can actually cause you to be uninterested in sex, at least for the time being.

Once you get your groove back on and reap the self-esteem-boosting benefits of a good old-fashioned romp in the sheets, you’ll likely notice that your libido kicks back in. [Read: 10 things that can improve your dwindling sex drive]

18. You feel a little nervous and on edge

If you’re sexually frustrated, you’re more than likely going to be in a cranky mood and will get annoyed really easily. Even the littlest things will set you off without warning. But, you can feel nervous for no reason too.

You don’t know what the problem is and you may not even have a reason to feel that way, but you’re generally on edge.

19. Nothing really puts you in a good mood

Of course, this is assuming that you haven’t tried getting laid or getting yourself off. But if you’ve tried everything else and you just can’t get in a better mood, then you could possibly be sexually frustrated.

When someone is sexually frustrated, it’s not like they can watch a funny movie and be cheered up. Only that sexual release can change their mood. [Read: How to make yourself happy – 20 habits of incredibly happy people]

20. You start to think about your exes

When you’re sexually frustrated, you basically cling to everything you once knew on a sexual level. So if you’re thinking about your exes a whole lot and haven’t had sex with someone in some time, you’re probably sexually frustrated.

Just take our advice and be wary of texting every ex whose number you still have in your phone. This probably isn’t the best way to deal with sexual frustration. [Read: Should you text your ex? The guide to help you decide]

21. You watch movies and wish you were the characters getting it on

When you get sexually frustrated, you’re probably going to be seeing signs of other people having sex everywhere you look, wishing you were in on the fun. If you watch a romantic or steamy movie, you’ll get jealous pretty easily. [Read: 20 unromantic movies with surprisingly romantic twists]

How can you overcome the signs of sexual frustration?

If you’re seeing the signs of sexual frustration, you’re sure to want to end the dry spell. But remember, it could be that your first bout of sex after your dry spell ends isn’t enough to blow your mind.

So, what can you do to overcome this annoying frustration? [Read: How to tell if a man is sexually frustrated when you’re on a date]

1. Get laid

We’ll start with the most obvious one. While your first sexual encounter might not be the most exciting one, it could lead to more. Stick with it and things will probably get better!

2. Distract your mind

It’s hard to distract yourself when all you can think about is how horny you are, but you have to try. Learn something new, try a new hobby, do whatever you need to do to keep your mind off your sexual frustration.

Understand that it probably won’t go away completely but it will dull itself down to the point where you can cope with it. [Read: How to stop having negative thoughts that drag you down]

3. Exercise instead

Turn all that frustration into something useful and pour it into your health. Join the gym if you aren’t already a member, join a sports team, or head out jogging.

Burn off some of that tension in a healthy way and you’ll feel much better for it.

4. Masturbate

If you have stopped masturbating because you’re fed up, it’s time to start again. Try new things and make it as interesting as possible. Maybe try some porn, some erotic fiction, or some toys.

Spend some time learning more about your body so than when you finally end your dry spell, you can enjoy it far more because of your new discoveries. [Read: 13 homemade sex toys you have to try – solo play or with a lover]

5. Write a journal

Hear us out before you roll your eyes. We’re not talking about keeping a journal like you did when you were a teenager. Simply writing down how you feel from one day to the next can be very cathartic and can help to release some of that pent up tension.

6. Try meditation

Again, calming the mind is key when you’re struggling with the signs of sexual frustration. Try meditation or mindfulness and that should help to calm you down and reconnect with the here and now.

It’s not as hard as you think – just give it a go! [Read: How to be chill and learn to live a happier life as a result]

7. Try a friends with benefits arrangement

If finding a partner is an issue, is there someone in your life who is a potential friends with benefits candidate? That way, you get to work through your dry spell without any emotions becoming involved.

If you’re seeing the signs you’re sexually frustrated and there’s no other option, perhaps this could be something to bring a great amount of fun into your life. [Read: How does being best friends with benefits really work out?]

Sexual frustration comes to us all, but it doesn’t last forever!

You’re feeling annoyed and horny right now, we know, but take heart – it won’t last forever. Every single sexually active person on the planet has felt this way at some point in their lives.

Dry spells come and go, and it probably doesn’t even have anything to do with you. As life ebbs and flows, so does your sex life.

So, remember, as dry as it is right now, you’ll soon see a change in the air.

[Read: How to get horny and beat your dry spell]

It can happen to the best of us. If you’re acting a little cranky or get horny seeing a banana, you could be exhibiting the signs you’re sexually frustrated.

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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