When you’re getting hot and heavy with a woman you like, your ultimate goal should be to make her orgasm. Here’s how to make sure you don’t fail.
One of the biggest insecurities a person can have during sex is not being able to make a woman orgasm. After all, isn’t that the point of engaging in sexual activity – other than procreation, at least? Everyone should be able to finish and be satisfied at the end of having sex, but there are just some people out there who don’t know how to make it happen. For whatever reason, they’ve never learned how to make a woman orgasm, and it’s probably costing them a few FWBs.
How to make a woman orgasm: Give her an orgasm she’ll never forget!
By giving a woman an orgasm, you’re pleasing her in ways that’ll make her want to keep coming *excuse the pun* back to you for more. Not only is this important in your sex life, but it’s also important in your relationship if you have chosen to remain monogamous.
The truth is that women are much harder to get to reach climax than are men. Most women take an average of 20 minutes to reach completion after penetration, which doesn’t even include all the foreplay that needs to take place beforehand.
If you’re looking to make a woman orgasm but just aren’t sure what you’re doing wrong, here’s how to find out. We’ve compiled a list of these foolproof, and not to mention fun, methods on how to make a woman orgasm and leave her wanting more.
#1 FOREPLAY. I can’t stress enough how important foreplay is to getting your woman off. If a woman doesn’t receive any foreplay, it takes her much longer to reach an orgasm because she hasn’t been stimulated in any other way.
You have to spend at LEAST 10 minutes on foreplay before getting to the main event. Doing everything from fingering her to oral should be enough to arouse her and make her want the real thing. [Read: Foreplay done right: The art of really turning her on]
#2 Find out what she likes. Every woman is different. If you really want to know how to make a woman orgasm, you’ll have to figure out what that one thing is that really sends her over the edge.
You can do this my experimenting or just outright asking her what it is. Chances are, she’ll tell you exactly what you need to do to make it happen.
#3 Read her body language. Arched backs and big moans are a huge indication that you’re moving in the right direction. Reading a woman’s body language during sex is almost as important as remembering the foreplay tip from #1.
A lot of women won’t tell you what to do because it can be an awkward topic to cover for some. So watch how she reacts to different things and continue when it seems like you’re getting a positive reaction, or try something different if it doesn’t seem like it’s going so hot. Master this and you would have learned half the secret behind knowing how to make a woman orgasm. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on]
#4 Find the G-spot and keep at it. Women can orgasm in two different ways, but if you want her to finish by penetration, finding the G-spot and staying on it is a great way to get her there fast.
#5 Get into the right position for your size. Not all guys are huge and can hit the G-spot from every position. For those of you who are on the average or even smaller end, you’ll have to find a position that allows for maximum G-spot stimulation.
#6 Get some help in the form of toys. Not all women can finish with just another person doing the work. Some women need the help of vibrating toys. Invest in some great toys and add them into your regular sex activities.
Don’t fear the toys. Just because you can’t make her finish on your own doesn’t mean you’re not an exceptional lover. Some women just take more work, and toys make it a lot easier to orgasm. [Read: 13 must-have couple’s sex toys for naught first timers]
#7 Be there for her emotionally – even when you’re not getting naked. A woman can really only orgasm when she feels comfortable and secure around that person. Men don’t really need that added emotional stimulation, so it can be hard for them to understand.
Just be there for her and be sweet to her, even when you’re not getting down and dirty. Tell her how you feel. Open up to her, and it’ll be much easier for her to reach completion when you are in the bedroom. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches to feel connected and loved]
#8 Keep things interesting by surprising her. Unpredictability is a mega turn on for women. You can’t just stick to the same old routine and expect her to be able to orgasm. Be spontaneous and surprise her. You’ll find that she finishes much easier when she has adrenaline pumping through her veins.
#9 Don’t change positions too frequently. A lot of people want to keep things interesting by switching up positions. The problem with that is that a woman’s G-spot isn’t being stimulated for a long enough time for her to finish. You can definitely try new positions, but stick to one long enough to finish her off.
#10 Clit, clit, clit! The G-spot isn’t the only way a woman can orgasm. You’ll have to stimulate her clit in order to really get her going. In fact, most women who can’t reach climax during sex admit that they don’t get the clitoral stimulation they need. [Read: Clitoris stimulation: 10 sexy ways to please the clit]
#11 Don’t be selfish. It’s easy for a man to just pop in, finish, and roll over. The problem with this is that it’s selfish and the woman almost never orgasms this way. You have to think about her first and then once she’s done, you can finish yourself.
#12 Find her sensitive spots and stimulate them. Many people forget that a woman’s nipples are extremely sensitive and can mean the difference between a happy ending for her or a sad one for the both of you. [Read: 11 fun and fascinating facts about breasts]
#13 Use your words. Most men want to know how to make a woman orgasm, but they don’t understand the secret power of their own words. Women respond to verbal stimulation almost as much as they do to your physical touch. So don’t just go to town on her and be silent. Tell her what you like about her, how much she turns you on, and exactly what you want to do.
These compliments and encouragements will drive her nuts and turn her on even more, making reaching orgasm much easier for her.
#14 Set the mood well in advance. Don’t just walk in the door and try to hop on her! Set the mood far in advance. Text her that morning and tell her how much you want her, and keep the anticipation building the entire time. You’d be surprised at how much anticipation can lead to the best sex *and orgasm* she’s ever had. [Read: The step-by-step guide to satisfying a woman in bed every single time]
#15 Ask her how you can do better. If all else fails, just ask her what she wants from you. Some women may be too shy to tell you that it takes something a little different in order for her to finish.
By asking her, you’re getting a direct answer as to what you should be doing differently in order to make her orgasm. She won’t feel bad or even mad about your asking, either, since she wants to finish even more than you want her to. [Read: 18 sex tips for men that’ll leave all women craving for more]
Getting a woman to orgasm can mean the difference between getting laid a lot and having a terrible reputation, not to mention a low self-esteem. And these tips on how to make a woman orgasm are just what you need!
