We all assume that getting wet should be easy, but for some, it’s not. But, by learning how to get really wet fast by yourself you can conquer the problem.
Everyone thinks the vagina can get wet with just the snap of a finger—which is entirely wrong. We mean, yes, some women can get wet quickly, but there are many women who suffer from vaginal dryness or a low sex drive. Understanding how to get really wet fast by yourself is essential knowledge for most women.
The vagina is not a continuous waterfall. It has its limits!
If having dry sex was the only option, most women would probably rather eat sand. We all know what it feels like when we’re not wet enough but still try to somehow make it work. It can be… well… dry.
And dryness means uncomfortable and painful sex. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Sex is supposed to be slippery, fun and wet, so this means you’re going to have to get your juices flowing and learn how to get wet enough to really enjoy the smooth experience!
[Read: The 15 best lubricants hiding out in your kitchen]
The importance of “self-discovery” in learning how to get yourself wet
How does the body create vaginal fluids? Good question. There are two glands called Bartholin glands responsible for producing arousal fluids. They’re located at the top of the opening of the vagina. When you’re aroused, those glands start pumping out fluids. Tada! A wet vagina is achieved.
Far too often we tend to think that masturbation is something we shouldn’t talk about, or even worse, something we shouldn’t do.
But, if you want to have an enjoyable and healthy sex life, masturbation is vital. Why? Because it helps you understand what you like. You get to know what works for you and how to get yourself closer to the big O. [Read: Step-by-step – How to make yourself squirt and experience your first squirting orgasm]
Then, you can share that information with your partner and hit the high notes every single time. Of course, it also means that you know what to do when you’re alone and enjoying yourself too.
We tend to assume that sex is only about the times you’re with a partner. But sex is a huge subject that covers several sub-areas. Sex is about discovery. It doesn’t have to be serious all the time, it can be fun!
So, set some time aside to get to know what you like. That means learning how to make yourself wet and how to get yourself closer to orgasm. [Read: How to touch yourself – 16 touches that’ll always leave you satisfied]
How to get really wet fast by yourself
When it comes to the vagina, if you want to have comfortable and enjoyable sex, then you’re going to need to make sure it’s wet.
Vaginal lubrication occurs naturally when blood flows towards the genitals when aroused. Now, there are times when you’re not aroused, and becoming wet will be a challenge.
There are also times when you are aroused, and nothing is happening down there. This can be caused by low estrogen levels, medication, irritants, lack of foreplay, and stress. The vagina isn’t simple as we thought.
So, if you’re wanting to get wet fast, there are a couple of ways to help you learn how to get really wet fast by yourself. After all, you don’t always need a partner to get wet. [Read: How to have sex with yourself and learn what turns your body on]
1. Get your head straight
If you want to get wet fast, understand your vagina is connected to your head. If you’re stressed at work or going through exam season, you’re under stress which can affect your vagina’s wetness.
Forget about the things going on in your life and focus on the moment at hand.
2. Watch something naughty
Do you have a favorite porn clip or sex scene from a movie? If you want to get wet fast, watch something sexually arousing. This puts your head in the right space.
So, think about the material you’ve used in the past that turned you on. Whatever gets the juices flowing down there is what you need to use. [Read: Alternatives to porn – 16 ways to get hot and wet without porn]
3. Start from your head and work your way down
Find a private space for you to relax. If it’s your bedroom, make sure you lock your door! While laying down, focus on your head, feeling the tingles going down your body.
Think about your erogenous zones, imagining what it would feel like if your partner was touching them. [Read: 14 sexy self-pleasure tips to help you masturbate]
4. Get handsy
Oh yes, it’s time. You’re in the right headspace, you watched something naughty, and now it’s time to get your hands involved. If you want to get wet fast, masturbate!
Use your hands to stimulate your clitoris and with the other hand, grab, slap, and rub your erogenous zones.
5. Use toys
If masturbation isn’t working for you, why not use some sex toys?
If you want to get turned on quickly, whether you’re with your partner or solo, sex toys can be a great way to get things started. Spend a couple of minutes using a vibrator or dildo, and you’ll be ready to go.
6. Pull out the lube
If you’re not interested in spending the time making yourself wet naturally, well, then there’s always lube. It’s certainly the fastest way to get things wet.
With a couple of pumps of lube on your fingers, you’ll get things ready to go in a matter of seconds. If you’ve suffered from vaginal dryness, lube will be your best friend. [Read: 13 perfectly slippery alternatives to lube that work just as well]
7. Get your partner involved
Sometimes, all you need is a helping hand. Foreplay is a crucial part of sex and often overlooked. But if you want to get wet quickly, it’s time your partner started to touch you in the right places.
Whether it’s kissing, rubbing, spanking, caressing, or biting, foreplay will help you naturally get wet.
8. Have regular sex
Who would have thought this is a way to get wet? If you want to get wet, you should focus on regular sex.
During sex, deep penetration massages around the cervix which stimulates the lubrication glands. With regular sex, you keep the lubrication glands in tip-top shape.
9. Use Kegels
Though it will take some time in the beginning, it’s well worth the long-term benefits. Kegels are an amazing way to stimulate your lubrication glands.
By practicing Kegel exercises at least ten minutes a day, you’ll strengthen your pelvic floor which provides you with stronger orgasms as well. It’s a real win-win. [Read: Why both men and women should do Kegels]
10. Stay hydrated
If you want to get wet fast, stay hydrated. We all know the other benefits of drinking water, but, you probably didn’t know how much it affects the vagina.
Hydration reduces vaginal dryness and keeps the natural juices flowing. Drink plenty of water two to three hours prior to sex if you can.
11. Do your best to relax
It’s easy to get consumed with achieving this goal. In turn, it can backfire and prevent you from becoming wet. When in doubt, take a deep breath and relax. It’s important you don’t push yourself too hard or else it won’t work as planned. [Read: 21 positive mantras to help you focus and relax]
12. Do you suffer from chronic dryness?
If you’re trying to get wet fast, but you’re struggling with getting wet in general, focus on your vaginal dryness.
Finding the root cause will help you fix the issue and naturally lubricate your vagina. From there, work on becoming wet quickly. [Read: The 15 sexy benefits of solo masturbation]
13. Understand why you need to be wet
It’s true, you need to be wet. The vagina purposely secretes arousal fluid when a woman is physically or mentally stimulated. Essentially, the vagina prepares itself for vaginal intercourse.
If the vagina doesn’t become wet, it can be very painful when having sex. Think of trying to push a hot dog into a bun without any ketchup or mustard. Ouch. [Read: Female masturbation – 17 naughty facts about the naughty secret]
14. Forget any shame or embarrassment you feel
Of course, we shouldn’t have to mention this one, but it’s important to do so. Some people still struggle with embarrassment, or even worse, shame when it comes to masturbation and self-exploration.
Shrug this off and focus on yourself. There is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. In truth, everyone does it, we just don’t talk about it enough! [Read: Going solo – The 15 sexy benefits of masturbation]
15. Timing is everything
Don’t attempt to learn how to make yourself wet and explore what you like at the wrong time. If you’re due to go and meet a friend or go to work in an hour, that’s not the time to get down with yourself!
You need to have no time constraints and a totally relaxing atmosphere. If you have one eye on the clock, how are you supposed to relax and focus on what feels good?
Also, you don’t want to worry about someone walking in on you either, so choose the right time. Of course, a lock on the door also helps! [Read: Mutual masturbation: 14 Intimate ways to connect without touching]
No matter if you have a partner or not, you need to know what you like. Everyone is different, so you cannot rely on your partner to know what you enjoy or don’t.
If anything, they’re just as lost as you are. Spend some time seeing what stimulates you. Watch porn, read an erotic novel—try to cover all scopes in order to see which one stimulates you the most.
Just explore and see what works and what doesn’t. If something doesn’t work, you don’t have to do it again!
17. Be in a comfortable space
Remember when we said that arousal is mental? So, if you try to make yourself wet in your office, it’s probably going to be a challenge. You can’t fully relax knowing someone may walk into your office.
So, choose a space that is safe and comfortable for you, that way, you reduce your distractions and anxiety. Also, add some cushions, throws, candles, anything that makes you feel totally in the moment, comfortable, and able to enjoy what you’re doing.
18. Be in the moment
So, you’re lying on your bed, starting to touch yourself, and then all of a sudden, you remember the laundry—NO!
You’re not supposed to be in your head, you’re supposed to be connected to your body. So, you want to move your thoughts and direct them to your body. Think about your breathing, touch yourself slowly, feel your skin. [Read: 15 ways to finger yourself and actually enjoy it]
19. Don’t just focus on your vagina
This is a classic mistake women make. We tend to focus solely on our vaginas, which, we’re not saying is a bad thing.
However, you need to make sure you’re not forgetting other erogenous zones such as your breasts, neck, ass, and torso. You need to stimulate your entire body, not just your vagina.
20. Get in some clitoral action
Now, we said to not forget your erogenous zones but that doesn’t mean you should leave your clitoris out of the action.
You can masturbate by stroking your finger across your clitoris, but, you can also mix up the speed and pressure of your fingers. Play around with the pressure and speeds, finding a pattern that suits you. [Read: How to stimulate the clitoris and leave yourself squirming for more]
21. Don’t rule out anal play
You may be crinkling your nose, wondering if anal play is really necessary, and it is! Well, it’s not that you have to do it, but you should give it a try.
In reality, your anus is extremely sensitive with nerve endings easily stimulated. You can rub your finger around and on your anus, playing with pressure, or you can use a sex toy—just make sure you use lube and use another finger for anal play.
22. Give orgasm denial a try
If you are able to get to the point of orgasming, don’t rush to finish it. When you’re about to climax, stop, denying yourself the orgasm.
Then work yourself up again and do this two or three more times before orgasming. It makes your orgasm stronger and more intense. [Read: 6 sizzling ways to control your orgasms and make them better than ever]
23. Don’t forget a towel
Okay, for sure, you may need the towel to clean up the wonderful mess you made, but that’s not exactly what the towel is for. But, instead, use the towel to place over your vagina while masturbating. The texture and pressure make it more arousing when you rub against it.
24. Mix things up a little
You don’t have to do the same technique when masturbating. Instead, mix things up. Rub your clitoris while you play with your anus, use a sex toy in your bathtub or hump a pillow. Mix up the techniques and stimulate your different body parts. [Read: How to hump a pillow and the many naughty ways to do it right]
25. Erotic fiction is a great option
If porn isn’t for you, or you want to try something a little different, how about erotic fiction? Reading about two people *or more* getting down and dirty could be all it takes to get your juices flowing! Then, you can get to work and really see what works for you.
26. Remember to share your findings!
Once you’ve found out what works for you, remember to share what you’ve discovered with your partner! We know that one of the main reasons we masturbate is to know what works during sex.
So, tell your partner what you want and if that doesn’t work, show them! [Read: 20 sexy things guys like in bed but won’t ask for & why they don’t]
27. Don’t be afraid to explore
What is it that turns you on sexually? Do you like watching porn? Reading erotic novels? Getting tied up? You need to figure out your sexual preferences because everyone is different.
If you follow the advice of your friend, that could be a reason why you can’t get wet – they have different sexual preferences than you. When you know what you like, you’ll satisfy yourself on your own or before sex.
28. Try breathing exercises to connect to your body
Connect yourself to your body. If you’re not feeling connected with your body, then you probably won’t be able to get yourself wet. Become aware of how your body reacts when you touch it, how you breathe, and what erogenous zones respond best.
That way, you know how to get really wet yourself and how your partner should touch you. Deep breathing can help you to cut out the outside noise and really turn your attention inward.
29. Keep some naughty material easily accessible
Whatever it is that turns you on, make sure you have some easily accessible material. The more time you spend trying to find a good porno to watch, the less you’re actually interested in turning yourself on.
Limit the amount of work it takes you to get turned on, so keep a nice folder handy on your computer or phone that you easily tap open when needed. [Read: The naughtiest borderline titles on Netflix]
30. Experiment with different touches to your clit
The clit is a magical part of the female body. It’s literally only designed for sexual pleasure, so it’s very unique. This is why you need to pay attention to it as it helps you achieve wetness.
We’ve already said play around with it but you have to try things that you’re not sure about. For instance, you might not think tapping will turn you on, but how do you know unless you try tapping your clit?
Stroke your clit up and down or from side to side. Whatever brings you pleasure. Once you get going, change pressure, speed, and technique, mix it up a bit and see what works. It helps you produce vaginal fluid for sure. [Read: How to stimulate your clitoris and arouse yourself in no time]
31. Dedicate some time to playing around
The only way to figure out what turns you on and makes you wet is if you experiment with different techniques and erogenous zones.
Spend some time trying different pressures, strokes, and caresses over your zones. Play around with your body, it’ll tell you what it likes.
32. Connect with your partner and don’t rush
If you want sex with your partner, then you want to be wet. But it takes two to tango, right? Connect with your partner in foreplay. Don’t rush to penetration. Spend time kissing, touching, grabbing your partner. Connection makes you wet, and they touch you the right way.
Women take longer to get wet, so, if you spend more time in foreplay then you’ll be able to get aroused. [Read: The key to the best sex of your life is foreplay]
Remember, it’s about having fun!
Learning how to make yourself wet is supposed to be fun too! Forget the serious side and just go with the flow.
Close your eyes and turn your attention inwards. Really feel every touch and every sensation.
This is your time and there is no better way to focus on self-care than to really get down with your own hand, or toy – whatever works for you!
[Read: 23 clever and convenient things that are perfect dildos for masturbation]
If you need to know how to get really wet fast by yourself, time to get your head in the game. Use these tips to help you out.
