From time to time, your sex drive can dwindle and become nearly nonexistent. If that’s you, then you need these 25 sexy ways to get it back.
Everybody struggles with libido issues at some point in their lives. You just get into a slump and can’t find a way out of it-no matter how much you will yourself to get in the mood. This can cause a number of different problems in your relationship and even wreak havoc on you psychologically.
Whenever there’s a sex rut in a relationship, both partners become frustrated and can lash out for ridiculous reasons simply because they’re not being sexually satisfied. It can also cause insecurities with the partner who isn’t experiencing the dip in their sex drive because they may blame their partner’s lack of desire for sex on themselves.
I, for one, have experienced this from time to time and have discovered my lack of libido usually comes from the ending of the “honeymoon stage.” In short, I get bored and used to the person and things aren’t as exciting as they once were.
Why you just aren’t horny anymore!
To fully understand how to get your sex drive back into gear, you should first distinguish what’s causing you to not feel like getting busy between the sheets. While everyone is different and might just have a different libido, there are a number of contributing factors.
#1 Increased stress. Stress plays a huge role on a number of different bodily functions and your libido is definitely one of them. Who wants to have sex when they’ve got too much other stuff going on in their heads?
#2 The end of the “honeymoon phase.” Just like for me, other couples get into a low-sex rut when that initial phase of excitement and all things new ends, and they are used to and comfortable with each other. [Read: 10 signs you’re past the honeymoon stage in your romance]
#3 Your crappy diet. Too much sugar, sodium, and junk food in general can cause major problems when it comes to helping you get it up or get it wet. Anyone who eats an unhealthy diet may struggle with their libido.
#4 Low self-esteem. If you’re not feeling hot or sexy, you’re not going to want to take your clothes off and get it on with someone.
#5 New medications. There are certain medications with the side effect of decreasing your sex drive. If you just started a new medication and are feeling less than excited to hop in the sheets and get it on, it might be to blame for your lack of desire *be sure to talk to your doctor about any concerns and before stopping any medication*.
Horny ways to increase your sex drive and keep it high
As much as being stuck in a no-sex rut can be horrible, there is some good news. It’s fixable! There are a number of different things you can do that will not only have you wanting to jump your partner whenever you get the chance, but it will keep that feeling in place for a long time. These 20 ways to increase your sex drive can help you avoid being stuck in that low libido phase for good.
#1 Determine the issue. If there’s an actual issue within your relationship causing you to stop wanting to have sex with your partner, you’re going to need to figure out what it is. If they said something or did something that made you feel less than sexy, it can make you avoid sex with them.
#2 Solve it! If there was a relationship problem, try your best to fix it. Talk to your significant other and let them know why you’re just not feeling it anymore. They’ll probably be more than eager to fix it. [Read: 10 naughty ways to get over a sexual dry spell quickly]
#3 Exercise more. Not only does exercising produce endorphins that help in getting you all hot and heavy, it also makes you look good. And when you look good, you feel good. And when you feel good, you’ll want to show it off and enjoy your body.
#4 Have more sex! Just like you crave the foods you eat the most, having more sex will make you want sex more often. The more you have sex, the more your body will be expecting it and want it. So have sex even if you’re not feeling it, and you’ll start feeling it more and more.
#5 Do some experimenting. Maybe you’re just bored with the sex you have been having and it’s no longer exciting. Trying new positions is a great way to increase your sex drive. [Read: 17 of the best naughty sex ideas to spice up long-term sex]
#6 Get the adrenaline pumping. Go sky diving, ride a rollercoaster; just do anything that will get your heart racing and your adrenaline going. Your heart rate will rise and you’ll get in the mood fairly quickly.
#7 Drink some red wine. But not more than two glasses. Red wine is an aphrodisiac and will help you start feeling horny in no time.
#8 Get handsy with your partner. Not even in a dirty way, either. Just hold their hand more often or rest your hand on their thigh. The contact releases oxytocin-also known as the “feel good” hormone. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches that’ll make you feel more loved and horny]
#9 Smell their sweat! I know this sounds gross but smelling your partner’s sweat can actually make you hornier. Their pheromones have a way of making you feel all hot and bothered. So hit the gym together!
#10 Eat aphrodisiac foods. Make a meal full of the following foods: chocolate, figs, bananas, avocados, almonds, oysters, and strawberries. They’re all aphrodisiacs and will get you in the mood. Here’s an idea: have your lover feed you chocolate covered strawberries! [Read: 10 dishes to get your sex drive to skyrocket instantly]
#11 Watch some porn. For obvious reasons, watching porn will more than likely get you feeling horny and ready to have some much needed sex. The visual stimulation is all you need.
#12 Reduce your stress. Find ways to reduce stress. Whether it be yoga, exercise, or just reading a book, relaxing is one of the first steps to clearing your mind to make room for sexy thoughts.
#13 Talk about sex often. Having conversations about doing the dirty during times when you can’t actually have sex will make you think about it a lot more. Those thoughts will definitely be felt below your belt. [Read: 10 naughty conversation starters to get you both really horny]
#14 Get a bit more sleep. All too often we can use the excuse that we’re simply “too tired” for sex. So get some more sleep! Sex is a very physical activity and you need energy in order to want to do it. Catching those extra zzz’s is a great way to increase your sex drive and keep it high.
#15 Wear something sexy. Even dressing up in something sexy can make you want to have sex more. You know you look really hot underneath all those clothes, and that’s enough to get you ready for a night of indulging in some naked fun!
#16 Make your house somewhere you’d want to have sex. Leaving your place a mess will not spark any romantic thoughts. You’ll be too worried about needing to clean up and won’t have any room for sexy thoughts. [Read: How to turn your room into a sensual, sex bedroom in no time]
#17 Invest in some new toys. Get some sexy new toys to add to your regular sexcapades. There’s not much that will get you more excited for sex than the chance to put some of those new toys to use.
#18 Do something exciting together. Just like adrenaline gets your body pumping, trying something new together will release oxytocin and endorphins which will definitely make you want to get in between the sheets together.
#19 Never skip foreplay. A lot of the time, couples *particularly women* aren’t really in the mood until there’s been some foreplay. Foreplay is crucial in getting someone ready to have sex. Always engaging in foreplay will definitely increase your sex drive. [Read: 9 fun, sexiest foreplay tips you could ever use in bed]
#20 Check with a doctor. When all else fails, make an appointment with your doctor to get to the bottom of why you just don’t feel like having sex. There could be some underlying medical reasons keeping you from wanting to get frisky with your lover.
[Read: 10 naughty sex games for couples to feel really horny again]
If you struggle to rekindle the desire for sex, you’re not alone. You and many others out there can definitely benefit from these ways to increase your sex drive and keep it high.
