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Blue Balls: Why Guys Get Epididymal Hypertension & How to Cure It ASAP

Are blue balls a myth or is it just an excuse guys use to get into a girl’s pants? Some guys play on it, but the science might actually surprise you. 

what are blue balls

You’ve no doubt heard of them, but what are blue balls? And, do they really exist? So many questions, so few answers!

Maybe you’ve heard your boyfriend say, “you’re giving me blue balls.” But, it’s easy to assume that it’s just an excuse guys are using to get you to agree to their sexual advances.

The term blue balls gets thrown around a lot in conversation and usually goes hand-in-hand with a guy uncomfortably readjusting his balls. So you’re probably wondering, do they turn blue? Does a guy’s balls start to look like Papa Smurf?

Whether you’re a curious girl who wants to know the truth, or a guy who really wants to figure out what’s happening with his balls, read on! [Read: Why are men so obsessed with their penis size?]

What are blue balls?

When a guy gets aroused and retains his heightened state of arousal *a huge erection* for a considerable period of time, his testicles could start to hurt. This painful sensation a guy experiences when he’s aroused but unable to ejaculate is known as blue balls.

If you’re in bed with your guy and dry humping him or teasing him for a while, he may get blue balls. And he may even convincingly tell you that the only way to make it go away is by having sex. [Read: Dry humping and the virgin’s guide to better orgasms]

Have you ever fallen for that excuse to have sex?

You should probably know that, no, the testicles do not actually turn blue. There are no clear and visible signs or symptoms of blue balls. Almost all the time, all the proof you have is his word. 

But just so you know, he may not always be faking it.

You might also be wondering whether blue balls hurts. Well, guys who experience blue balls say that it does. And the guys who don’t experience it, well, they either fake it or ignore it. [Read: Have you fallen for the just-the-tip sex excuse?]

Are blue balls real?

Whether you have balls or you’re a partner of someone who has balls, you probably want to know more about this whole subject. The first thing we can tell you is that this is no myth. Blue balls are here and they’re not going anywhere anytime soon.

Once you know how it works, why it happens, and what you need to do, you don’t need to be ignorant or fooled by a guy into having sex just because he has “blue balls.”

The truth of the matter is this – blue balls or not, if you don’t want to have sex with a guy, you should always say no. [Read: The strangest, and most interesting facts about sex you probably don’t know]

What kinds of guys get blue balls?

Literally every guy can get it. But there’s a slightly higher possibility when a guy is younger, throbbing with testosterone, and playing with himself for a few hours at a stretch. This is because he has all the time in the world and zero responsibilities.

Keep that going, and he’ll learn to edge. But he may also get a side order of blue balls, with no idea what to do or how to fix it!

Now, this might be surprising, but despite not having balls, women can experience something similar. Okay, it’s not actually called blue balls for women, but, if a woman doesn’t orgasm, they feel irritation and aching in their lower abdomen and pelvis.

So, since we all suffer from blue balls, the best thing we do is help each other when we start experiencing this horrid pain. [Read: Female blue balls – Blue bean and the search for answers]

Why exactly do guys get blue balls, and how does it happen?

Let’s get this truth out right now – not all guys experience blue balls. In fact, a big majority of guys have never experienced it even once in their lifetime.

When a guy gets blue balls after a prolonged state of arousal, his pelvic area or his testicles may start to hurt gradually. It could be a painful throb of agony, or it could feel like a dull pain that lasts for quite a while even after his erection goes limp. [Read: How to grind with a guy sexily and discreetly and give him an erection]

Now here’s why that happens. In all our bodies, blood flows through arteries and veins, providing oxygen to different vital organs. But when a guy gets aroused, the flow of blood through the artery into his penis increases. At the same time, the flow of blood out of his penis decreases because the vein carrying the blood out constricts itself.

Due to this imbalance in inflow and outflow of blood in his penis, it starts to stiffen and becomes erect. As more and more blood starts to flow into his private area, and less starts to get out from there because of his heightened state of arousal, the pressure could start to build up within his member and his scrotum sac *which gets enlarged*. [Read: What is tea bagging? Your steamy guide to tea bag your guy right]

For some men, as the blood flow increases, they may start to experience pain due to the increasing pressure created by the blood flow. But once he ejaculates, the accumulation of blood flows out through the relaxed vein and his member returns to the flaccid state, which can help in releasing the built up pressure.

So what are the chances of this happening when you’re in bed with your guy? Well, slim to none. It’s not that simple to keep a guy erect for a few hours straight, unless you’re coming up with unique ways to keep him horny every minute! [Read: How to tell if a guy is horny – 22 signs he’s horny AF already]

How to make a guy get blue balls

Do you want to see a blue ball in action? It’s hard to predict your chances of creating blue balls out of normal balls. But your chances are exponentially higher if you stimulate him and keep him hard for a prolonged period of time – we’re talking about an hour or maybe a lot more!

But then, why would you want to do it? He’s going to be in intense pain, you’re going to snigger and giggle. He’s going to get annoyed. And before you know it, he’s jacking off furiously and painfully while balancing his mind between a state of arousal, and anger towards you.

Who needs this drama?! [Read: How to give a guy a boner – 20 easy moves for rock hard erections]

What do the doctors say about blue balls?

Called epididymal hypertension in medical terms, most doctors don’t seem to care too much about blue balls. There are hardly a handful of studies about it. In fact, no one even truly knows the real reason behind why only a few guys experience it, while the majority of the male population don’t experience it.

If you think blue balls need medical attention, you’re just freaking out. The medical community doesn’t really care it and over time, this problem calms on its own. The only time a guy with blue balls should see a doctor for it is if he experiences serious pain in his testicular region. [Read: The most common health reasons why sex is painful for men]

Are blue balls unhealthy?

Blue balls are not going to damage a man’s health. They cause the guy some discomfort and varying states of pain, but so far, no one has found any conclusive long-term health conditions associated with blue balls.

Both of you just sit down together and marvel at the painful, but once in a lifetime opportunity, of getting to see or experience blue balls. It doesn’t happen often, so that’s a story worth sharing and repeating!

But let’s find out what causes pain during erection, how blue balls work, and more facts about blue balls to make you a know-it-all! [Read: The most powerful powerful ways to stop being horny]

Vasocongestion and blue balls

Vasocongestion is the expansion of tissues in the human body due to increased blood flow. Many people confuse this with blue balls, but it isn’t. The male erection is, of course, caused due to vasocongestion where the tissues expand to take in more blood, but the same thing happens with your cheeks when you blush.

Even the cramping you feel when you’re on your period is due to vasocongestion. [Read: The complete guide to having amazing sex on your period]

Priapism and the four hour erection

Has your boyfriend taken any erectile dysfunction pills before having sex? Very rarely, erectile dysfunction pills or even hormonal irregularities could leave your man with an erection that lasts for over four hours. Even an ejaculation may not help him go limp.

If he’s experiencing a case of painful blue balls due to the little blue pills, rush to the emergency room. It isn’t blue balls anymore. It’s a case of Priapism which could damage the tissues in his penis and prevent him from ever having a hard erection again. [Read: The reason behind why losing an erection bother guys so much]

In truth, some guys just get confused

If your guy complains of blue balls after a prolonged period of arousal, it’s not always certain that he’s suffering from blue balls. Most guys just bear the pain or even brag about it, in the hope of getting more sex. But there could be reasons other than blue balls for his discomfort down there.

Here are 6 reasons why a guy could confuse the pain with blue balls. [Read: How to have safe sex in every single way it is possible to]

1. He’s extremely aroused

If your man is extremely aroused, the flow of blood could increase the pressure in his groin. This could cause an uncomfortable pain each time he flexes the muscles in his groin to lift his member up, because more blood is pushed into his penis than required.

2. The ball banger

If your guy experiences blue balls while having sex, it could probably be his ball sacs hurting after it constantly hits against your body while having rough sex. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever!]

3. Broken penis

Did you apply a lot of pressure on his member while blowing him or while riding him? At times, aggressive sex could damage your guy’s tissues down there and both of you may not notice it until after the deed. [Read: 9 sex positions that could leave a guy with a broken penis]

4. Limp and up

Constant states of getting erect and going limp because of prolonged foreplay could leave his member feeling sore, weak and painful.

5. Urinary tract infection

At times, blue balls may turn out to be a case of urinary tract infection, especially if he has difficulty peeing or if he feels a burning sensation down there. [Read: 7 problems ‘down there’ you shouldn’t ignore]

6. Testicular torsion

This is a something that can turn out to be quite dangerous, and the guy may even lose one or both of his testicles if left unchecked. At times, the spermatic cord at the back of his balls may get twisted intentionally or accidentally resulting in sharp pain around his testicles or in the abdomen area.

It’s not blue balls because in reality, the pain is due to the oxygen supply getting cut off to the testicles.

If your boyfriend complains of blue balls and the pain doesn’t go away within a couple of hours, take him to the hospital. At times, the constant pain he experiences when he gets an erection could also be a symptom of partial testicular torsion which gets twisted due to the pressure buildup during an erection. [Read: How to last longer during sex without any difficulty]

Common myths about blue balls

The idea of blue balls has been floating around for years, and that means there are some pretty commonplace myths associated to the condition too.

Let’s take a look at a few and let you know why you shouldn’t listen.

1. His balls will turn blue and fall off

No. Seriously no.

His balls are not going to turn blue and they are certainly not going to suddenly fall away from his body. If that happens, it’s definitely nothing to do with blue balls and probably a new medical condition that nobody has heard of yet. [Read: Do women like the penis? Things that make a perfect cock]

2. He needs to orgasm through sex to feel better

In the next section you’re going to learn about all the things you can do to help cure blue balls without actually having sex. So, if a guy tells you this, it’s very likely he’s just horny and wants to get it on.

3. Only men can get blue balls

We’ve already addressed this one but it’s a common myth so let’s reiterate it here.

Women can get the same kind of sensation when they’ve been aroused for a long period of time. Obviously, they don’t have balls, but it’s felt in the clitoris and vulva in general. This is called vasocongestion too. [Read: What does a vagina feel like?]

4. Blue balls can cause long-term problems to his health

No. Blue balls aren’t dangerous and will do nothing to his health at all.

5. Blue balls are very common

Blue balls are actually rare. Although a guy might claim to have had blue balls, it’s more likely that he was frustrated because his girlfriend didn’t want to have sex.

That’s not blue balls, that’s just being a jerk. [Read: Don’t want to have sex? The honest reasons and what you need to know]

How to not get blue balled and how to cure them when they happen

There are two ways to prevent blue balls – ejaculate or just don’t become aroused in the first place.

We know the second option isn’t ideal. Stick to prevention method one, you can’t go wrong with that one

If your guy wants to get rid of blue balls, here’s what you need to do. [Read: Why does sex hurt? 15 quick signs something’s not right]

1. There’s really only one major cure – masturbate

At the end of the day, the easiest and most efficient way is to masturbate. If you’re at your in-law’s house, tell him to just go to the bathroom and rub one out.

We know, it’s not the time or place but he’s suffering right now. So, he can take a couple minutes, pull out his phone and go onto PornHub. The point is, ejaculate for immediate relief. [Read: Cum like a porn star – How to shoot a powerful load every time]

2. Cold compress

Sometimes you can’t masturbate. Instead, use a cold compress which plays the role of acting as non-adrenaline. Non-adrenaline is the hormone released after you orgasm. With the cold compress, it constricts the blood vessels and lowers the blood flow to the testicles. [Read: Big balls – The pros, cons and what women think of them]

3. Go for a run 

Who wants to exercise when they have blue balls? Make him get up and go for a run; it helps reduce the pain. You want to get the blood flowing and away from your testicles.

Move around, and his balls will thank you. 

4. Lift some weights or something heavy 

It may seem weird to you, but lifting heavy object causes the Valsalva Manuever. This is the feeling you get in your lower abdominal muscles when you lift weights. This changes your blood pressure and relieves it from the testicles.

The result? Reduced pressure in the genitals. [Read: The 7 at-home tests you need to do on your own balls to make sure your testicles are healthy]

5. Time heals all

So cliché, we know. But time does heal all.

It takes around an hour for the pain to subside, so, turn on a movie and try to distract him. This one is probably the most painful way to get rid of blue balls, but sometimes you literally have no other options. [Read: What do women really think of your penis? A look into their minds]

6. Meditate or do some yoga

Meditation calms the mind. It may not help much with his loins to begin with, but it does help increase blood circulation. Use a meditation app or just set a timer in sets of 15 minutes.

Tell him to sit in a comfortable place, close his eyes and breathe deeply. Before long, he’ll start to feel more relaxed.

7. Massage

Get him to sit down comfortably or lie on his back. Massage him around the thighs and abdomen. It can help increase the flow of blood around his pelvis, and away from his balls.

Of course, if you’re not into it, he can do that for himself. [Read: Boxers or briefs? What do girls like on a guy]

8. Cold shower

No one really knows why this works, but it does. It could be the cold jet of water, the relaxing sensation, or you just feeling calm. Make him get under the shower and cool off for a while.

If he’s totally against a cold shower, a warm one might also work.

9. Have sex!

Nothing beats this, as long as you’re okay with it. Be gentle, or he’ll just end up experiencing more pain. A quickie is all you need here and the job will be done, so to speak. [Read: 15 sexy ways to have a quickie that leaves both of you satisfied!]

How long does blue balls last?

This one is difficult to answer because every set of balls and their owner is different! The general rule of thumb is that after one hour, the discomfort should start to subside. However, that could vary a little in either direction according to the guy.

The best course of action is to wait for an hour, and if it doesn’t disappear, it’s a good idea to go and get things checked out, just in case it’s something more serious. [Read: The average penis – 10 easy answers that’ll make you a know-it-all]

Blue balls aren’t an excuse to pressure a woman

Many women have been in this position. Their boyfriend starts talking about blue balls and that he needs some help. Well, sometimes, you don’t want to help, sometimes you just want to cuddle and watch Netflix—no chill.

Although blue balls actually are a painful event, that gives him absolutely no right to pressure a woman into having sex with him out of pity.

Never feel pressured into doing the deed just because your man is pretending to be in pain. Even if he is genuinely experiencing blue balls, you now know there are many other ways to relieve the pressure. If he says the only way is to have sex, don’t believe him.

[Read: 18 fascinating and unknown facts about the penis that can change the way you look at it!]

So is your guy just lying about his painful blue balls, or is it a case of something a little more uncomfortable? Now you know all about blue balls, you can deal with the situation easier.

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