We all go through lulls in life every now and then. But if you are frequently finding that you feel like no one cares, here are 10 things you can do.
I think everyone has those days, where we feel like our world is crumbling down around us and no one seems to care about us or our life in that moment.
This usually puts us in a bout of depression, and we can never seem to muster up the energy to do anything but lie in bed, wrapped in copious amounts of blankets, and mope about the fact that nobody cares.
Personally, I go through these bouts more often than your average lady. And although it’s tough and I have a hard time with it sometimes, it has made me something of a self-proclaimed expert when it comes to getting myself back into a happy mindset once the sudden “no one cares” ideology takes hold. [Read: 10 self-reflective questions to help you stay true to yourself]
Turn that frown upside down—what to do when no one cares
It’s never fun when you get into these kinds of moods, and it’s even less fun trying to find a way to get out of them. But there are a number of different things you can do when you feel like no one cares. These are tried and true things you can do when you suddenly find yourself feeling like no one cares.
#1 Tell someone what’s going on. Honestly, how can you say that nobody cares about your situation right now, if nobody actually knows that something is wrong? Many people get in the mindset of, “No one will care about it,” so they don’t say anything.
But the truth is, if you’re hurting or in need of some support, people are going to care. They will and they do. Just pick up the phone and call someone.
#2 Realize that your mindset is negative. When you’re in a negative mindset, everyone’s reactions to whatever is going on in your life can be taken in a negative manner. Which means that you aren’t even noticing when people are showing how much they care. [Try: Is your negative thinking ruining your life?]
You really need to be consciously aware that when you’re in this mood, your opinions and views of other people’s actions are skewed—greatly. You will think their reactions are negative or non-caring, when you’re the one who is actually making things seem that way.
#3 Stop sulking. Lying in your bed surrounded by nothing but your own depression and sadness is doing nothing but making you feel even worse about what’s going on in your head. Sulking leads to even more feelings of loneliness, since you’re not around anyone.
So make a point to get off your bed, shower, get ready, and get out of your house when you begin to feel this way. Being alone will only add to the feeling of nobody caring about you. Surrounding yourself with friends and other people will help you see that they really do care. [Check out: 7 powerful ways to combat and break out of loneliness]
#4 Listen to upbeat music. There is a lot of scientific evidence backing the idea that listening to happy and upbeat music will improve your mood. The feeling of no one caring is associated with depression, unhappiness, and loneliness.
So turning on some happy music that makes you feel good will help alleviate all of those feelings. Want to know the best part? If you grab a hairbrush, stand on your couch, and sing your heart out with each melody that plays, your mood is certain to increase, due to the endorphins that are released while singing.
#5 Stay busy. When people get bored, they have a tendency to dwell on all of the little wrongs in their life, and blow them up to something that they’re not. This, in turn, causes the feeling that nobody cares about your issues. [Try: What to do when you’re bored at home]
If you want to stop that feeling, you have to stay busy and keep your mind off of negative thoughts. Go join a club, get some happy reading material, and engage in activities that make you happy.
#6 Use a journal. When you start feeling like no one cares, it’s always a good idea to write down your feelings. Get all of your thoughts about what’s going on down on a piece of paper, and mention all of the reasons you think no one cares.
Then, when you’re done, just reread what you’ve written and it will make you feel better. Not only can you get all of your thoughts out of your head, but actually seeing your concerns with a different point of view can help you see how irrational your thoughts truly are. [Check out: 11 sweet and intimate ways to show how much you care]
#7 Find help elsewhere. Sometimes, the feeling that no one cares is a fleeting thought that will be gone within a day or so. However, this can also be an indicator of a much more serious problem concerning chronic depression.
If this is a reoccurring feeling that is more common than feeling happy and cared about, then you should seek professional help to make sure your mental health is not at risk. You can see your doctor, a psychologist, or even start by finding help on a website devoted to mental health.
#8 Volunteer somewhere. It’s strange how much helping others can make you feel better. It gives you something to do, shows you that maybe your own issues aren’t as bad as others, and gives you a sense of purpose. [Read: 5 ways volunteer work can help heal depression]
So get out there and see if you can volunteer at an elderly home, dog shelter, or food pantry. There are many organizations looking for volunteers all the time, and it won’t take more than a few hours, a couple of times a week to eradicate the feeling that “nobody cares.”
#9 Get a pet, if you can. There’s a reason that the majority of the population has a pet of some kind. They have the ability to make you happy, no matter what. The fact that someone in your life depends on you so much for their own life is enough to put you in a happy mood.
Your pets will care about you, no matter what happens. Their unconditional love is what will tear you out of that pit of a mindset you’ve been stuck in lately. [Ready to move forward with your life? Try: 12 life questions to help you visualize your future]
#10 Know that you’re not alone. Feeling like no one cares is a lonely feeling. You feel like everyone has abandoned you and you’re left to deal with difficult situations by yourself. But that is not at all true. If there’s one thing you take away from any of this, know that you’re not alone.
You’re not alone in how you’re feeling and you’re not alone to deal with it by yourself. There are so many people out there going through the same situations and people do care about you. So don’t sit there, thinking you’re alone in this world. You’re not now, nor have you ever been.
[Next, read: Low self worth – 5 steps to see yourself in a better light]
A lot of people don’t know what to do when it feels like no one cares. And these are the best ways to go about dealing with the situation if you’re feeling that way—and ward off similar feelings in the future.
