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What Is a Karmic Relationship? The Testing Ties that Help You Grow

What is a karmic relationship? This type of relationship is sent to test you, teach you, and help you grow. It’s not always pretty, but it’s necessary.

what is a karmic relationship

What is a karmic relationship, you ask? Well, some people are meant to cross our paths for a reason. This isn’t always for a pleasant reason either. But some relationships are meant to teach us something deeper, something we need for personal growth. This is a karmic relationship.

What is a karmic relationship?

Everyone has at least one karmic relationship in their life. This can be a friendship or a relationship, but it’s more likely to be a romantic connection. This type of relationship is different to a soul connection or a soulmate. They don’t mirror your qualities and isn’t someone sent to you for a lasting reason; instead, a karmic relationship is not meant to last.

There are specific ways you can tell whether someone in your life is there as a karmic connection or whether you’ve simply met them randomly. Not every single person in your life is sent to you, but some are. Before you start questioning who is in your life and what they have to teach you, think about what is a karmic relationship in real terms. Next, learn to spot the signs.

[Read: The 10 signs you’re stuck in a karma smackdown]

How to recognize a karmic relationship in your life

The chances that you have a karmic relationship in your life at the moment are high if many of the points below resonate. Just one point isn’t likely to mean much, but several linked together *not necessarily all* should give you a good idea of what is really going on beneath the surface.

#1 Your relationship is usually on and off again. If you’re with someone and then you’re not, but they don’t go away and always end up coming back, the chances of this being a karmic relationship are quite high.

This relationship is designed to teach you a lesson, but they aren’t simply going to disappear after you learn the lesson. You must be the one to let go of them, to show that you’ve grown. Until you let go, they’ll just keep coming back and the cycle will repeat itself. [Read: How to overcome the things that keep you stuck]

#2 It isn’t a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship is a two way street, with both partners having their needs acknowledged and met. What is a karmic relationship? A selfish connection which only benefits when needed. It’s also likely to be very one-sided, with one person getting all the positive aspects and the other simply giving, giving, and giving some more. [Read: How to recognize a taker who uses people in a relationship]

#3 They’re hard to let go of. I already mentioned that you should let go of the karmic connection for complete growth, but it is difficult. This type of relationship is addictive and hard to wave goodbye to.

#4 There is a sense of ‘meant to be’ about it. You will feel like this person was sent to you, but it won’t feel particularly positive. You’ll feel strangely pulled towards this person, perhaps even addicted. While things aren’t working out, you can’t figure out why. If you want to know what is a karmic relationship in real terms, that’s the biggest indicator. [Read: Is it possible to fix a toxic relationship?]

#5 You click from the start. From the moment you meet this person, you notice the pull and attraction. This person was meant to be in your life. They ignite something inside of you that you can’t explain in words. You just feel it and might even feel like you’ve met them in the past, or maybe in a former life. There is a sense of familiarity about them.

#6 You find it hard to separate yourself from them. When they’re not around you, you think about them all the time. When they’re with you, you feel consumed or suffocated. This type of relationship is extremely intense and you might even feel like you’re dependent upon them to feel balanced, or to even feel anything. [Read: Emotional attachment – 12 signs your fierce attachments are unhealthy]

#7 When you’re around them, you notice your fears and inadequacies. You don’t feel comfortable or positive when you’re around them, instead you notice your insecurities, inadequacies, and fears. You worry about being left alone or rejected by them. This karmic partner will force you to recognize your deepest concerns. You might even start to feel like you’re not good enough.

#8 They’re extremely rocky. This type of relationship is not going to be easy sailing. It’s unpredictable, stormy, full of intensity and arguments, and not a relationship where you show your best side. [Read: How to be mature and start facing life like an adult]

#9 You notice your worst side. A karmic relationship will make you see your bad side, to notice your temper and negative traits. This person will press every single one of your buttons. You won’t be able to stop it. The point is, you must learn how to handle it.

Learning from your karmic relationship

So, what is a karmic relationship? One which isn’t healthy, positive, and probably won’t stand the test of time. If it does last a long time, you refuse to let go of it, and if that’s the case, you’ll keep going around and around in the same hamster wheel. You’ll constantly be drowning in negativity and always looking in the mirror at your fears and concerns, rather than being positive and happy. [Read: How to unfriend someone in real life, cut ties and find your peace]

This is a person sent to you for a specific reason. Learn to recognize what it is. Then, work out what the lesson is. Once you dig deeply and explore what the lesson might be, work out the best way to experience what it’s supposed to show you.

Once you feel like you’ve learned what you were supposed to, cut the cord and let go for good. If you keep allowing this person back into your life, they will keep coming back. The cycle will repeat itself.

This is not a relationship designed to last or bring you endless happiness. This is not your soul mate or someone who you are supposed to spend the rest of your days with. They are supposed to show you something and then leave your life. [Read: How to recognize a soul connection when they walk into your life]

Once you let go of a karmic relationship, do so with love and thanks. Yes, this was a lesson *probably a hard one*, but it was sent to you with good intentions. A karmic relationship is never sent to you for negative reasons, i.e. just to watch you squirm.

There is something you should learn to enable you to move into the next stage of your life with a greater sense of knowledge and personal development. There is a reason to it all, simply work out what it is.

[Read: The karmic connections that are in your life right now]

Many people ask “what is a karmic relationship” and assume it’s like a soulmate connection. Now that you know what it is, and how to recognize it, you can see that the two are very different indeed.

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Nicky Curtis
Nicky Curtis
Having stumbled from one relationship drama to another throughout her 20s, Nicky is now somewhat of a guru in the crazy world of life and love. Telling it how i...
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