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The Perks and Quirks of Dating a Writer

Dating a writer is the stuff of many a romantic movie. It comes with its own literary sets of ups and downs. Do you have what it takes? By Colleen Anne Javellana

The Perks and Quirks of Dating a Writer

Writers see the world through different eyes. Often misunderstood, they find solace and beauty in the written word. One often finds it difficult to describe the allure of a writer. There is just something so enchanting, so mysterious about the aura these writers often project.

While a lot of people are initially intimidated by writers, one couldn’t help but admit to be drawn by them. Perhaps it is the air of fantasy that seems to draw people to writers. Imaginative and with a penchant to dwell in a world of fantasy, writers would often weave intriguing stories that would be such a delight to those who are willing to listen.

Often intuitive, writers are attuned to people’s thoughts. They can know what’s on your mind before you even say a thing. It is often scary how writers could often read people. After all, writers tend to do a lot of introspection. They are very good observers and nothing seems to slip by them.

There are people who say that dating a writer is a bad idea. They say that writers have a bad temper, have a whirlwind of emotions, and are downright insane. Perhaps what people say is true. Dating a writer is never for the faint of heart. Those brave enough to date artists have the privilege to know what it’s like to dance in the rain, to dance through life without much care in the world.

Every writer is unique, just as every person is unique. Many have their own idiosyncrasies. Perhaps the reason why the world is not often ready to love a writer is because many of them have delusions of grandeur. The world would often dismiss those they can’t explain. Writers are often impressed by the silliest of things, such quaintness appeals to them. In a world where most people walk around with an armor of sanity, these writers can often choose to retreat to a world filled with whimsical fiction.

Little quirks of being a writer

Most writers would often describe themselves as outlandish. They find comfort in solitude, as most of them are introverts. While not necessarily shy, they will choose to stay away from crowds because they often find noise to be too intimidating, that they would drown in it. While many people would think writers are the last of the social butterflies, the truth is writers have gotten so used to keeping mostly to themselves that it becomes normal. [Read: How to get your shy crush to ask you out]

People would say that it is difficult to date a writer because they tend to be emotional. A lot of writers seem to have feelings like water. Free flowing and ever changing, depending on their thoughts on what they want to write. A writer’s spirit is just like that, something that cannot be contained.

Dating a writer is very much like looking at art. The beauty of art cannot often be described by how it looks, but by how one feels. Dating a writer evokes the same feelings like listening to Mozart for the first time. While the ride might be tumultuous, the journey is worth it.

What is it like to date a writer?

In order to date a writer, one must remember that it very much like reading a book. There is mystery, as there is beauty, and each turn of the page gets even more exciting.

#1 Dating a writer means getting used to solitude. Writers love and appreciate being alone. In fact, they can go for hours without talking. They would just sit there in comfortable silence, writing their thoughts in their journal, reading a book, or typing away at their computers. Those who do not understand the value of solitude would often wonder how people could dwell in such silence.

While silence can be rather overwhelming for most people, it is a form of retreat for writers. It is how they find solace in a troubled world. Writers feel the world’s scars greatly so solace is a form of escape. It is how writers regain the strength and inspiration to let their minds spill onto the pages of a manuscript. [Read: How to initiate a conversation with a shy person]

#2 Dating a writer can make you immortal in the pages of a book. A writer would often immortalize those who have played a significant role in their lives by adding similar characters in their works. Whether they do it consciously or not, they will often let these people live forever in their writings. When writers are in love, you will live forever in the pages of their book.

You are imprinted in their works of fantasy, a part of you shines in the characters that they shape. Your soul lives on in the struggle that the characters face. Your heart shall beat in the love that the writer shows for every character they shape and the worlds that they weave.

#3 Dating a writer means you’ll be taken into a whirlwind of emotions. Writers are often known to have conflicting emotions. A writer can often feel happy one minute, and burst into tears the next. This is why people often misunderstand writers, even those closest to them. One can never quite predict a writer’s emotions.

In order to date a writer, one must be patient. Writers cannot often contain their emotions. In fact, a lot of them seem to feel too much, and in order to quell these emotions, they choose to write about them. Practice patience with your writer, because these emotions help them shape the ugliness into beautiful, flowery words. [Read: 5 giveaways that your partner is too emotionally unavailable]

#4 Dating a writer means you’ll enter a world of mystery. One thing about writers is that they are never an open book. Something always stays hidden, much like the moon. No matter how you try to read them, you can never quite predict their thoughts. What writers show the outside world is hardly what is reflected in their private writings. Writers are elusive, such is their allure.

#5 Dating a writer means to be deeply and truly loved. When writers say that they are in love, they mean it. To be loved by a writer means to be truly, deeply, and profoundly loved. Writers often fall in love with those who inspire them, it is you who puts their heart on their pens.

To be loved by a writer means to have a dedicated and devoted lover by your side. It is to be loved by the last of the hopeless romantics. Writers would often send you letters of love, prose that profess their undying devotion. Writers would often think of ways to make your heart flutter through the words they write and the sweet nothings they say.

They learned to love because the first love of a writer is their craft. To love the written word means to possess a deeper understanding beyond what mere human minds can fathom. To be loved by a writer means to be loved in a way that only they comprehend.

To date a writer is much like reading a beloved book. The pages are often frayed and dog-eared from years of wear and tear. Yet each page, gives you a sense of home, of belonging. If you have the chance to date a writer, by all means take it. Such a chance doesn’t come very often.

[Read: 10 adorable ways you can tell your writer “I love you”]

Writers know how to say “I love you” in more ways than one, and they will make you feel it. Writers don’t often open themselves up to the world, so when they open up their hearts to you, you can be assured that you’re one of the luckiest people on earth.

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Colleen Anne Javellana
I'm a quirky and passionate individual who believes in True Love. I live for deep conversations and a good novel to read. I am in love with Life, and I want to ...
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