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Do You Think Alike? 20 Questions to Ask Your Best Friend

They say opposites attract, but what about like attracts like? Find out if you and your best friend think alike with these 20 questions.

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When it comes to your best friend, more often than not, you probably share the same opinions about certain topics. However, there might be a thing or two you both don’t see eye to eye on. While you may not bring up these subjects all that often because you know it will result in the two of you arguing, there are also some topics you don’t even know you disagree on.

I thought I really knew my best friend better than anyone else. We’ve been best friends for about 13 years now—so you can imagine we’ve talked about everything. Little did I know we’re actually really different people.

Does that mean we’re not really meant to be best friends? Does it mean we’re too different to be best friends for much longer?

The truth is if we’ve lasted 13 years without anything major coming between us, we probably think enough alike that the friendship will keep on going. You know what they say, if your friendship lasts more than seven years, it will probably last a lifetime.

Questions to ask your best friend: Do you think alike?

In your friendship, does like attract like? Or are you one of the classic “opposites attract” cases? If you think you know everything there is to know about your best friend and think you both see eye to eye on all different subjects, ask them these 20 questions and you might be surprised what you find out.

#1 If you had to choose between money or love, which would you choose? This speaks volumes about a person. Most people are going to choose love—mainly because if you say money you’re probably considered selfish. However, there are people out there who value security and living well over living with love in their life. Find out if you and your bestie have this one in common!

#2 If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live? You might not know if your best friend wants to really live where she is and be happy, or if they’re secretly dying to live elsewhere. This could show how much the two of you think alike or show how different the two of you really see your lives playing out.

#3 Dessert or a fancy drink? This one is really more for fun than anything else. But nonetheless, it can tell you a little something you may not have known before. It can show how much they value a great drink or a delicious dessert.

#4 What is your stance on abortion? This can be a touchy subject for many people, but it shouldn’t be with your best friend. It’s an important question too many people don’t talk enough about. It also can show you a lot about your best friend’s personal views and choices.

#5 How do you feel about helping the homeless? This is a coin toss per person. Some feel helping is vital to bring down homeless rates while others believe help is actually enabling it. Do you and your best friend have the same thoughts about this huge controversial topic?

#6 If you could only use one kind of cosmetic product for the rest of your life, what would you choose? Not only is this a fun one to think about, but it can actually divulge a lot about your best friend. It might even show an insecurity of theirs that you never knew about before.

#7 Christmas or Halloween? Which does your best friend value more? Is it the same as you? Maybe their response is why they never wanted to go out on Halloween and why they were all gung ho for cookie decorating and all things Christmasy!

#8 Would you rather live to an old age and have an average life, or live a short life but full of adventures? This one will be surprising no matter which direction it goes because of the reasons associated with it. Maybe you guys think completely differently. This is the question that will really define that.

#9 Would you rather go skydiving or cliff jumping? Although this isn’t the most telling question, it could help you see the difference in how adventurous the two of you are. An added bonus: it might even stir up a new adventure for both of you to take on together.

#10 Do you like breakfast for dinner? I’m often surprised how different the responses this gets. You’re either hardcore for breakfast food at dinner, or you find it to be an abomination. What does your best friend think?

#11 Do you ever think the world will be at peace? Get them to think a little harder about the world today and see if you both are optimistic or think the world is doomed to suffer forever?

#12 What do you think could help the world be more peaceful? This is a great follow-up for the above question. What do they think can help make the world a better place? Maybe one of their ideas is something you’ve never even thought of. [Read: 11 simple ways to inspire the people around you]

#13 If you could change one thing about society, what would it be? This really brings to light the different issues out there today and which your best friend sees as the most important. Are you two on the same page with this?

#14 Bars or clubs? They are similar, but definitely not the same. Could the two of you have fun out during the night or do you both want something different when heading out?

#15 What’s more relaxing to you? A day at the spa or a night out with your friends? This differs from person to person. But if you like the spa and they like a night out, trying to relax together might be a little difficult.

#16 If you had to eat only one food for the rest of your life, what would it be? Either they’ll choose their favorite food ever or think about the nutritional aspect of eating only one food forever. Regardless, you can determine if you both think alike in terms of choosing favorites over logic.

#17 If you were stranded on a deserted island, what’s the one thing you would want with you? I actually just asked my best friend this question, and we said the exact same thing. It’s surprising what people value more over different things.

#18 If you had one day left to live, would you spend it with family or go on an adventure? Some people would want to relax with loved ones. Find out if your best friend is thinking like you or if the two of you are on opposite ends of the spectrum.

#19 When you pass away, what would you want people to remember you for? Maybe it’s something they’ve already done or maybe it’s something they still want to accomplish. Either way, this gives insight as to what they think the most defining thing in their life is/will be and if it’s in sync with what you want out of life.

#20 What’s the one thing on your bucket list that you absolutely MUST complete? Everybody has that ONE thing they want to accomplish before their days are over. Do you think alike? Is your bucket list the same or similar to your best friend’s?

Even if you think you know the answer to some of these questions, your best friend’s responses might actually surprise you. These will definitely help you determine how much you and your bestie think alike!

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...