26 Signs Your Ex-Girlfriend Doesn’t Want You Back & You Should Give Up

You’re heartbroken about your breakup. But do you know the signs your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back? Here’s what to look for and how to move on.

signs your ex-girlfriend doesn't want you back

You want to figure out if there’s even a chance that you can be together with her again. So, let’s do it. Learn the signs your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back. That way, you can move on.

It’s pretty common for people to sit at home, thinking about their ex. Some even creep into their social media, try to connect with their friends, and maybe even like a photo of them. They might do almost anything to get their attention.

Why? Well, because they miss them. They want them back. And so do you.

Now, does this work? No. If it does, it is usually the people you don’t want back that you can’t get rid of. But while you might try hard to get her attention, she might not care. If anything, she might not have any intention of getting back together with you.

It’s a hard thing to accept, especially when you’re in pain. Who wants to admit that their ex-partner doesn’t want to be with them? [Read: The guide to understanding if your ex is actually thinking about you]

How to read the signs your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back

No one wants to come to terms with this. But, at some point, you must. You don’t really have any other options. If you don’t move on, you’ll be the guy still hooked on their ex from years ago. And that will only keep you back in life.

It’s a tough one.

1. She tells you

You may be stubborn, but if she’s told you again and again that she doesn’t want anything to do with you, she’s not lying. If someone goes out of their way to be as blunt as possible, take this as the only sign you need to move on.

Whether she still has feelings for you or not, it doesn’t matter. She doesn’t want to be with you. [Read: How to stop thinking about someone you still like a lot]

2. She doesn’t reply to your calls/texts

Maybe you send her a text here and there, but she’s not replying to anything.

In the beginning, maybe she would reply, but things have changed. If it’s been weeks or months of her ignoring your calls/texts, she’s over the relationship and making a clean break.

3. She changed her phone number

Well, if anything, this is a hint you’re becoming too much. If someone goes out of their way to change their phone number, she really doesn’t want you to talk to her anymore.

If this is the case, not only do you need to back off but get the hint she’s not interested. [Read: How to recover from a breakup and move forward in life]

4. You’ve been cut from her family

You were chummy with her mom and had a good relationship with her dad, but that’s ended.

If you’ve run into them and they were cold towards you and aren’t interested in conversing, she’s probably told them it’s over which is one of the clearest signs your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back. If you just had a fight, they wouldn’t act like this.

5. She doesn’t try to reconcile

Maybe one of you screwed up, and the relationship has been called off. But if she’s not taking a step to reconcile the relationship, that’s a sign she’s not interested in fixing things.

But this is a sign only if it’s been a couple of weeks or months. If it’s just a few days, maybe she wants some space.

6. “You deserve someone better” 

Ah yes, that old line. She’s very loving and sweet but then tells you that you deserve someone else. Well, that’s because she’s trying to let you down easy and hint that you will never be together again.

7. She’s returned your things

Maybe you had some of your things at her place, but they’ve come back to you. This isn’t because she’s doing some spring cleaning. She wants your things out of her life.

Having your items at her house still gives you a reason to talk to her, and she doesn’t want that. That is one of the big signs your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back.

8. She’s seeing someone else

If your ex still loves you, she wouldn’t try to be moving on so fast. Or at least, she wouldn’t be posting it on social media. But your ex posts pictures with new dates which is a clear sign she’s making.

If a new guy is in the picture, you’re out of it. [Read: Why it’s normal to feel strange when your ex dates someone new]

9. She avoids seeing you

She knows where you go to grab a coffee or the gym you work out at. But she’s staying far away from any of those places.

Even in places she usually frequents, you don’t see her there. And there’s a reason why. She doesn’t want to see you.

10. If she sees you, she’s not happy

So, let’s say you run into her. Well, excitement is the last word you’d use to describe her facial expression. She’s not happy to see you.

And when she talks with you, you sense anger and irritation. If she had feelings for you, it would be completely the opposite. [Read: How to avoid an awkward conversation with the ex you just ran into]

11. She blocks you

If she blocks you off of all social media, well, she’s clearly not interested in having you in her life. She doesn’t want you seeing what she’s doing, who she’s with. Nothing. If anything, take this as a hint she’s moving on.

12. If she responds to texts, they’re one-worded

You get more excitement texting your grandma than you do when you text your ex. If her responses are one-worded and lack any emotion, that’s a hint she’s just being polite.

13. She cancels seeing you

Maybe you made an agreement to see each other and talk things over, but she canceled the meeting rather last minute.

Sure, maybe something came up, but if she was really interested in being with you, that would never happen. She had a second change of heart and decided it was a bad idea.

14. You two are FWB

Sometimes, it can be tricky to know if your ex is over you or if you’re still sleeping together. If she’s not looking to have a relationship with you. Now, you are friends with benefits. Don’t be fooled by the sex, because that doesn’t mean anything. [Read: What you need to hear about sleeping with an ex you still love]

15. She doesn’t care you’re seeing someone else

Maybe you’re with your rebound, and you thought it would piss her off or make her jealous, she’s as cool as a cucumber. She’s not interested in who you’re dating because she doesn’t care.

16. She shuts you down when you try to win her back

You might not be convinced that it’s over, but she is. So, if you’re trying to win her back by buying her flowers, offering to take her to dinner, or dressing the way she wanted you to, then you are probably wasting your time.

If she’s ignoring your attempts or shutting you down, then it’s definitely over.

17. She’s being mean to you

She is probably a pretty nice person because you went out with her and want her back. But if she’s not even trying to be polite to you anymore, that’s one of the bad signs that your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back.

She thinks that if she’s rude to you, you will finally get the hint and leave her alone. [Read: 23 signs of a mean person, why they’re bitter, and how to deal with them]

18. She refers to you as her “friend” 

Oh, the friend zone. No ex-boyfriend wants to be referred to as her friend, right? So, if she’s calling you a “good friend” or she’s happy she still has you as “her friend,” that’s the kiss of death.

She is making it very clear that she no longer has any romantic interest in you. The word friend is a very obvious attempt to get you to see that you have been down-graded in her life.

19. She tries to set you up with someone else

This one might be even worse than being friend-zoned. Not only does she not see you in a romantic way anymore, but she also wants to push you off onto another girl she knows.

She thinks that if you get involved with someone else then you’ll forget about her. And even if you don’t go out with that person, it’s still a strong message to send you – she’s done with you.

20. She removes all signs of you from social media

If you suddenly notice that your face has been completely removed from all parts of her social media, well, that wasn’t an accident.

Think about it – it probably took her a long time to delete all of your pictures. She did that not only to give you a big sign that she doesn’t want you back, but she doesn’t want other guys to think she has a boyfriend – which she doesn’t. [Read: How to know if your ex is over you and wants nothing to do with you]

How to move on when your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back

Now that you have figured out the signs that your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back, you need to know how to move on.

Breakups are never easy, but you have to figure out a way to move past them and get on with your life. So, here are some tips to help you do that.

1. Grieve

Just because she didn’t die doesn’t mean that you aren’t grieving the fact that you lost her. A breakup is a kind of like a death.

It’s the ending of something that you loved – your relationship with her. So, instead of going into denial or trying to win her back, acknowledge your sad feelings. It’s okay to feel bad. It doesn’t make you any less of a man. So allow yourself to go through the grieving process.

2. Talk about it

Part of the grieving process is talking to other people about it. Talk to your friends who are guys or girls and your family. In fact, talk to anyone who will listen.

Not only does this help you get some support and encouragement, but it also helps you to process your feelings out loud through conversation. [Read: 16 lessons to recover from a breakup one day at a time and move ahead]

3. Accept it

If you’re at the stage where you’re not wanting to see the signs that your girlfriend doesn’t want you back, then you are not accepting the breakup.

You’re trying to look for signs that she still loves you. And that means you’re in denial. You hope she will magically come back to you. But the longer you keep your head in the sand, the longer it will take you to get over her and move on.

4. Spend time with friends

It’s always a good thing to distract yourself after a breakup. Go to baseball or basketball games with your guy friends. Go clubbing or take up a new hobby with them.

Keep yourself busy with all the other people in your life. That way, you will fill up the time you used to spend with her. Plus, you won’t feel as lonely.

5. Reflect on what when wrong

Relationships don’t just end for no reason. There were reasons. Even if you’re confused as to what they were, she feels there were enough of them to break up with you.

So think back and try to figure out if you did anything wrong. Or if she did. Either way, if you want to have a healthy relationship in the future, you’re going to need to know what you can do better next time.

6. Start dating again

You can’t stay alone, single, and lonely forever. Well, you could, but that’s no fun, right? Just because this girl broke up with you doesn’t mean there’s not another one out there for you that will be better matched with you. This breakup gives you the opportunity to find a better girlfriend, so be positive about it and get out there and start dating again.

[Read: 20 wild steps to get over a broken heart and heal like you don’t care]

It’s definitely hard, and you’re probably not going to agree with the signs your ex-girlfriend doesn’t want you back because you’re still in denial. Eventually, you need to face it. It’s tough, but you need to move on.

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