Fatal Attraction: Signs You Only Like Emotionally Distant Women

If you’re unsure why every woman you end up with seems to be a nut case, it may be because you only like emotionally distant women.

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Some guys hit the jackpot every time they go out and find themselves a woman to date. They’re attractive, smart, funny, and can even cook! However, some other guys have a history of dating girls that end up going crazy after a few short weeks of being together. In that case, you may be someone who only likes emotionally distant women.

They have a certain allure that draws you in and captivates you. No matter how much you say you don’t like that type.

The downsides of emotionally distant women

As you can imagine, emotionally distant women aren’t the best types to be dating. I mean, they are emotionally unavailable and distant, after all! That being said, there happens to be a few, obvious drawbacks to them.

They’re needy. They get really emotional over almost anything. They need constant reassurance. They can’t be themselves around you. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg of drawbacks of emotionally distant women.

Signs that you only like emotionally distant women

If you keep scratching your head because you just can’t figure out how you have the worst luck when it comes to finding women that are normal, it could be because you’re more attracted to these damaged ladies.

If you want to know if this is really the case, here are 10 signs to help shed some light on your unfortunate situation.

#1 You love the chase. Guys who love emotionally distant women are the guys who are mostly after the chase. If you are really into a woman because you have to work extra hard to get her, but then find yourself uninterested once she finally reciprocates those feelings, you probably jump all over emotionally distant women.

This type of woman really doesn’t pay you any interest because she’s just not emotionally ready to deal with another person in her life, but you go after her anyways because the chase is so entertaining. [Read: What you need to do when she’s playing hard to get]

#2 You feel the need to ‘fix’ situations. Are you the type of person that always has to fix stuff? If so, then you might only like emotionally unavailable women who just can’t connect with you on an emotional level. These women appear broken and fragile to you and if you have the personality that makes you want to fix them, you could find yourself dating these women without a second thought.

#3 You like feeling extremely masculine. I know that all men like being masculine, but if you’re the type of guy that really needs that extra manly boost for some reason, – like you need to compensate for something. Then you may find yourself attracted to emotionally distant women.

These women are weak and fragile and there’s something about them that makes them seem like they need a man. This is why you feel so manly when you’re with them. And if you need that feeling to be happy, you’ll realize that these women will find their way into your life. [Read: Here’s how you can be masculine without being a jerk]

#4 You need to be needed. Some people just need to feel like they’re needed by others in order to be happy. You may not know that this is you. If you’re happiest when people ask for your help or they need you to be around for some reason, then it is you.

Emotionally weak and distant women tend to be more needy and more dependent on you than if they have their emotions in check. If you’re the type that needs to be needed, then you probably only like emotionally unavailable women.

#5 The “damsel in distress” type is sexy to you. Sure, there’s probably some fantasy out there that has to deal with a poor damsel in distress that is rescued by the big, brave knight and then they bang each other until the sun sets below the forest treetops.

If this sounds like something that would turn you on, then you might find yourself in relationships with emotionally unavailable women more than most. These women seem like they need saving and you’re attracted to the idea of being the savior. [Read: Damsel in distress – Why most men find them irresistible]

#6 You love unpredictable behavior. Although everyone loves a little bit of spontaneity in their relationship, you LOVE never knowing what’s going to happen next. If you are drawn to the idea of always being on your toes with someone, then you most likely are extremely attracted to emotionally distant women.

Since their emotions are relatively all over the place, you never know where they’ll throw you next. That excitement can be addicting, which is why you’ll find that you’re really attracted to this type of woman. [Read: 21 things men do that’ll turn any girl into a crazy girlfriend]

#7 You even like women who get mean or sassy. For some reason, there are men out there who enjoy mean or sassy women. If you’re the type that gets all riled up and excited when your woman is frustrated with you, then you might find that the majority of the women you’re dating are emotionally distant. [Read: 15 types of toxic relationships to watch out for]

#8 Mysterious women drive you nuts. In a really good way. Just like some men love the chase, some men love the idea of getting a mysterious girl to open up to them. It’s like winning the lottery for them if they achieve it.

Women who are emotionally distant have mystery down pat. They don’t let a whole lot of their own emotions out because they’re in such chaos – meaning you’ll be questioning what they’re thinking. If this sounds like something you go for, then you could only like emotionally distant women.

#9 Your friends always warn you about the girl. Now, this is a sign that I shouldn’t even have to put on here because if your friends are warning that a girl is “crazy” or doesn’t seem like a good fit for you, you should just know.

However, if you only like emotionally distant women, you often hear your friends protesting your advances toward a girl like that. So listen up and if you hear some complaints, it could be because you’re headed down the road emotionally distant women lay out for you. [Read: The trophy wife – Who is she and why do all men desire one?]

#10 You’re turned on by the idea of a girl who is recently out of a relationship. Some men love women who have recently been dumped and are in need of some gluing back together.

This isn’t just because they’re brokenhearted, but because they like to prove that men are good and that not all of them would break their heart. If this is you, then you could be only attracted to emotionally distant women. [Read: 15 reasons why the nice guys always finish last]

How to stop only liking emotionally distant women

Okay, so you’ve admitted you only like girls who are emotionally distant, now what? If you really want to get over your infatuation with this type of woman, you’ll need to follow these steps.

#1 Realize it will never work. You might be turned on by the idea of her right now, but if you get close enough to her emotional instability you’ll find that there’s a lot more chaos there than you can handle.

#2 Get to know her better first. Instead of diving into dating a new girl exclusively, get to know her better. Spending time just talking with her can tell you a lot more than you would find out by just getting physical.

Ask her about her life, past, and present situation before deciding if she’s stable enough for you. [Read: Emotional maturity: 13 clues to know if someone has it]

#3 Realize the positives of an independent woman. You think you love being needed and being the person who fixes everything for a woman. Have you ever thought about how much more an independent woman has to offer you?

I think you’ll find that you’ll be more turned on by what qualities an independent woman can bring to a relationship than what emotionally distant women can contribute.

[Read: Emotionally unavailable women: How to get through the ice]

If you only like emotionally distant women, your love life is almost always going to be in shambles. These signs help you realize if you’re only into this type of woman so you can learn to stop liking them.

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Annabel Rodgers
Annabel is a lifestyle writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here) and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things love, dog,...