12 Signs She Wants You to Chase Her: Is She Just Being a Tease?

It used to be a lot more cut and dried, guys pursued girls. Now it can be either, these signs she wants you to chase her will help you know what to do.

signs she wants you to chase her

There’s an old joke that rocket science is way easier than trying to figure out what goes on inside a woman’s head. And if you have any experience in dating, chances are that you will definitely agree. Especially when it comes to the signs she wants you to chase her.

In the dating game, men have to make the first move. And if you do, you are faced with two outcomes: come out too strong and she’ll think you’re a creep and run for the hills. If you come on to her gently, she’ll say you lacked effort. To these, menfolk say, “Make up your mind, ladies!”

Do women really want to be chased?

The easy answer is yes. But to be specific, women want to be chased by the guy that catches their interest. Women are less likely to find difficulty in attracting the opposite sex compared to men.

As a result, they simply make them wait and chase her until she finds the right one for her. In short, she wants you to chase her to get to know if you’re a keeper. She tests you to see if you’re worth dating in the end. Women won’t directly tell you that they like you, but they put out subtle cues to keep you hooked on her. [Read: 12 obvious signs she wants you to ask her out]

Signs she wants you to chase her

For this reason, it is crucial men pay attention to the subtle cues women give that tell you when to stop chasing her or when to go forth and continue to shower her with affection.

#1 She’s hot and cold at the same time. Most guys will be familiar when a girl blows hot and cold at the same time. It is that semi-annoying thing they do where they act all friendly and flirty at one time of the day. When you reciprocate the same affection, she suddenly acts cold and avoids you suddenly.

When this happens, just go for it. She means no harm, and she merely wants you to chase after her. [Read: What you need to do when a girl plays hard to get]

#2 She replies quickly to your messages. When a girl replies quickly to your messages at any point of the day, it is an obvious sign that she’s looking forward to hearing from you. It means she likes you and wants you to keep reaching out to her.

#3 She readily says yes to invitations. When a girl wants you to get off her back, she quickly dismisses any coffee or dinner invitations. She’ll probably say her schedule is full. However, if a girl likes you and she wants you to keep pursuing her, she’ll find a way to accept your invitation even if it means canceling previous plans.

#4 She keeps careful attention to how she looks when you’re together. You’ll notice this when you catch her on her own wearing plain clothes compared to days when she’s meeting you. This doesn’t mean that she’ll dress to the nines on a date, but the difference is noticeable. Obviously, she dresses up because she wants your attention. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you *without really asking*]

#5 She makes meaningful conversation when you are alone. Not superficial things like what’s new on Netflix or random work gossip, girls who want to be pursued give you a little peek into their personal life by meaningful conversations. She wants you to have the same curiosity by showing you a little behind-the-scenes side of her.

#6 She teases you. Teasing means a lot of things and interpreted in a lot of ways. But if you find her teasing you a little bit, it means she’s comfortable around you and warmed up to your company past the stiff and “formal” interaction stage. This is considered the next step and is a cue for you to keep moving forward. [Read: How to tease a girl over text and get her to flirt back with you]

#7 She reaches out to you incessantly if you stop communicating with her. There are times that the chase gets a bit too tiring and you decide to stop for a while. Lo and behold, a role reversal happens, and she starts initiating communication to you.

What is this sorcery? Well, it’s an obvious sign she’s worried you’ve given up. A subtle hint that she wants you to keep up with the chase.

#8 She acts mysterious sometimes. Either by giving you vague responses when confronting her about the possibility of dating, or whenever you find yourself alone with her. Acting mysterious is a tactic girls use to see if you are persistent enough to dig deeper into her life. Also, it adds romance to the whole courting affair.

#9 She avoids the big question. At some point you arrive at a situation where you want to ask her whether you’re ready to be an item after all the courtship.

And when you do, she tries to avoid the topic or veers it off in another direction. It’s not that she doesn’t want to, and eventually, she may say yes, but girls really love to take your time and dangle the carrot a little bit longer. So, have patience. [Read: 10 clear signs you should back off when pursuing a girl]

#10 She doesn’t interact with you much, but she says that she misses you. This is quite mindboggling. You will notice this when she turns down invites, but then she tells you that she missed you. If she truly misses you she’ll hang out with you more often. This obvious sign shows that she wants you to keep pursuing her.

#11 She asks you if you missed her. She asks this teasingly most of the time. The best way to respond is to say yes and invite her out for a date. That leaves her cornered with little choice but to say yes. [Read: How to know if a girl likes you: 12 signs that won’t let you down]

#12 She plays hard to get. Men have a love-hate relationship with girls playing hard to get. It can be confounding as what she says doesn’t correlate to what she does. She might say that she’s not interested, but her flirting and touchiness says otherwise. When a girl plays hard to get, it obviously means she wants you to chase her.

[Read: How to play hard to get with a girl – And do it just right]

In a perfect world, dating would be easier if women straightforwardly respond to your advances. Women want to make sure you’re for real so there will always be the chasing stage. It is up to you to recognize the signs she’s giving off.

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Paul Timothy Mangay
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