17 Subtle and Flirty Signs She Wants to Be Your Girlfriend

You’re casually dating right now, but you are not sure what she thinks? Here are the signs she wants to be your girlfriend.

Signs She Wants to Be Your Girlfriend

How do you know for sure that the girl you are dating wants something more from you? Sometimes all you need to do is keep an eye out for the subtle signs she wants to be your girlfriend and is serious about you.

Well, if you’re not sure you should take the next step, there are a few signs to watch to help you figure out if she wants to date you as much as you want to date her!

You may not recognize any of these signs. If that is the case, don’t freak out, it doesn’t mean she isn’t interested. Not everyone wants to rush into a committed relationship right away. Remember, communication is your friend. If you don’t pick up on any of these trusty signs that she wants to date you, just ask her what she thinks!  [Read: 19 sure signs you’re in an exclusive relationship already]

How to read the subtle signs she wants to be your girlfriend

Dating can be a really fun experience. It can also be exhausting, frustrating, and confusing. Everyone has had terrible dates and bad exes. To enjoy dating, consider that meeting new people and getting to know them is a fun experience within itself. 

When you are lucky enough to meet someone you click with, you naturally start dating regularly. But you don’t want to come across as pushy or clingy, so you make a point to keep things casual at first. 

However, just because you both are casually seeing each other doesn’t mean she won’t have developed serious feelings for you. As she gets to know you more and more, her feelings towards you may continue to grow. You just need to pay attention to the signs she wants to be your girlfriend when they crop up, and decide for yourself how you want to progress with the relationship.

If you think that she wants to be your girlfriend and you feel the same way about her, wonderful! It’s still a good idea to have a discussion about what you two are, and what you want out of the relationship. [Read: A guy likes you but doesn’t want a relationship: will he ever be ready?]

What to do with the signs that she wants to date you

If you see signs that the girl you are dating wants to be your girlfriend, but you don’t feel the same, then it might be time for the relationship to come to an end. This is especially true if you are seeing other people as well– you don’t want to inadvertently hurt anyone’s feelings. If you don’t want to date her the best thing to do is to let her go find someone who does. 

Read on for signs that the girl you are dating wants to be your girlfriend, and decide for yourself how the relationship shall proceed.

1. She listens

If your girl didn’t care about your life, she wouldn’t spend hours listening to you talk about work or school simply because these things don’t have anything to do with her. 

But when someone really likes you, they invest in your life and take interest in what is going on with you. They take what you say seriously and want you to open up to them. This creates an emotional connection and trust between the both of you. 

If the girl you are dating can remember little things about you and really listens, its a good sign that she wants to be your girlfriend. [Read: Ready to make it exclusive? Ways to raise the topic without feeling awkward]

2. She’s introduced you to people close to her

Introducing you to her inner circle, particularly her family, is a big sign that she’s serious about your relationship and wants to date you.

This goes the same for her close friends. Think about it, if you had someone in your life who was temporary, would you make a point to introduce them to all your loved ones? No way!

If your girl is making sure everyone from her grandma to her best friend knows about you, its because she sees your relationship becoming serious. To her, you’re more than just someone she has sex with. You’re someone she wants to date. [Read: 20 Caring ways to show a girl you love her & are serious about her]

3. You have deep conversations

Anyone can idly chat about surface level issues. A sign that she wants to date you is her desire to have intellectually stimulating conversation with you.

Even if the topics are tricky ones like politics and religion, you battle through them. Covering serious topics helps give her a better idea of how you think. Why would she care what you think, except that she wants to be your girlfriend? [Read: 16 next level signs she’s definitely looking for serious with you!]

4. She is vulnerable with you

If she wants to connect with you, she’s going to open up to you.This isn’t something she’ll for a purely sexual relationship. But, if she sees you as something more, such as a potential partner, then she’ll make herself emotionally vulnerable.

Maybe she will tell you private information about herself, or let her guard down about something she is sensitive about. Whatever it is, tread lightly. Being vulnerable is brave, and should be treated with respect and kindness. 

5. She talks about a future with you

This is more subtle than it sounds. It will not be as obvious as her saying that she wants to get married and have your babies.

If she mentions traveling in the summer and invites you along, well, she’s talking about the future. See, the future doesn’t have to be years from now, it could even be weeks or months. If she is including you in any future plans, then you can take it as a sign that she sees herself as your girlfriend in the future.

6. She’s off online dating

So you’ve been dating for a while, and you notice that she deletes her dating profile on Tinder or Bumble. That’s a solid sign that she’s not looking for anyone else. The reality is that she’s not interested in finding someone else because she has you. [Read: How to know if she is slowly falling deeper in love with you]

7. You’re the first one she calls

Whether it’s good or bad news, you’re the first one she calls to tell. You’re her go-to person, the one that she knows will always be there for her. 

Why is she calling you? Because you’re the first person she thinks about when something happens in her life. Now, that’s a solid sign that she wants to be your girlfriend.

8. She knows the small things

You could tell someone what your favorite flavor of ice cream is, but that doesn’t mean they’re going to care to remember. But if someone is interested in you, they’re going to be like a sponge, absorbing every little detail about you. 

If she’s not just using you for sex, then she’ll remember all the small things about you, from your favorite movie to your favorite flavor of ice cream. [Read: Is she only an attention whore or someone to be serious about?]

9. She says she’s looking for something more

If she wants to date you, she has probably hinted to you that she wants something more.

She may have told you that she’s ready for something serious or that she’s not into casual relationships. These are all hints that she is looking for something exclusive, so listen up! If she tells you that she wants something serious from you, then there is no mystery as to what she might want.

10. She takes care of you

If you’re sick, she calls you and sees how you are, maybe even bringing over some soup. These are small acts, but they’re clear signs that she cares about you.

Women will tend to show signs of nurturing towards people they have feelings for. These are the little signs that they show they care, and isn’t that what dating is all about?

11. She’s physical with you

This doesn’t mean she’s licking your face at the mall or grinding against you at the club. More that she is physically comfortable around you— holding hands, putting her hand on your arm, etc.

These seem minor to some, but it’s a huge indicator that someone likes you. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches that show someone truly cares for you]

12. She surprises you

She doesn’t have to buy you a new Mercedes or show up in lingerie. Those things, while awesome, don’t really indicate that she wants to be exclusive. When I say surprise, I’m talking about things that are more thoughtful. Maybe she surprises you with breakfast in bed or bakes your favorite cookies. These are surprises that take careful thought and an interest in your likes and dislikes. [Read: 14 signs to know if you’re just dating or in a relationship]

13. She gets your humor

Relationships thrive on a sense of humor. If she laughs at all your jokes, even the corny ones, you can take it as a sign that she at least likes you. Besides, everyone wants to date someone who can make them laugh! 

14. She tries to take interest in your hobbies

If she was just with you for the sex, she would not be very interested in your life outside of the bedroom. Signs that someone wants to date you are an interest in your life, including your hobbies. 

Does she come to your games to cheer you on? Does she feign interest when you talk endlessly about a new game you got? These are things someone who cares about you does, like a girlfriend. [Read: 25 Signs your ex wants you back & just can’t stop thinking of you]

15. She wants to get to know the people who are important to you

Just as a sign that a girl wants to date you is introducing you to her family and friends, she will want to meet yours. 

Is she interested in meeting your family? Is she polite and respectful to your relatives, and ingratiating to your friends? These are all good signs that she sees a future with you. 

But if the girl you are dating is not interested in meeting your nearest and dearest, or is rude to them, then you can safely call the relationship quits. Even if she did want to be your girlfriend, it would be a hard sell after being rude to your bestie. 

16. She wants to spend time with you outside the bedroom

This is probably the simplest and most telling test of all. A girl who wants to be your girlfriend will want to spend time with you outside of the bedroom. They will want you to come with them to parties, to eat dinner together and relax on the couch. 

If you only see them for one thing, then you know the scope of the relationship. 

17. She asks you what you are looking for in a girlfriend

Does the girl you are dating ask a lot of questions about what YOU want in a relationship? Ask yourself, why would she want to know? The answer is obvious— she wants to be your girlfriend, and is testing the waters to see if you feel the same way. Consider lots of questions about what kind of girlfriend you want to be a sign that she wants to take that role. 

[Read: What does exclusive mean and are you there?]

So, as subtle as they may seem, these are the clearest and most obvious signs she wants to be your girlfriend. Now all you need to do is put the pieces of the puzzle together!

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Natasha Ivanovic
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and ...
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