22 Signs She Wants to Be Exclusive with You & Wants Your Commitment

You’ve been dating for a while, but you aren’t sure how she feels. Does she want a commitment with you? Here are the big signs she wants to be exclusive.

Signs She Wants to Be Exclusive with You

So you’ve probably been dating a girl for a while, or you two have been casual for some time now. Is she okay with continuing to stay in the talking stage? Or is she falling just a bit harder for you and wants something more real and deeper with you? If you’re interested in taking the next step *or even if you’re not ready for it*, it’s always good to know the signs she wants to be exclusive with you.

Many men think they can carry on a casual relationship without any feelings being involved. But here’s the truth, everyone has feelings. We’re human. You do too, and so does she. What matters now is how deep those feelings run.

So, maybe you dated her for a little while and noticed she takes this relationship seriously. Or, maybe you want to take the next step yourself and ask her to be your girlfriend.

[Read: The talking stage vs dating – How to tell them apart and know your exact status]

The most obvious signs she wants to be exclusive with you

No one wants to feel rejected which is why we’re so scared to make moves towards exclusivity. Of course, you never truly know how she feels unless you ask her.

But if you want to figure out how she feels about you, then there are some signs to follow that give you a clearer idea.

Every woman is different, so, she may show some of these signs she wants to be exclusive, while not showing others. But, don’t freak out, give it a little bit of time, and it’ll all become clear. It’s time to find out the truth. [Read: 20 signs she’s falling in love with you and is hoping for something more]

1. She’s off dating apps

This is a huge sign she wants to be exclusive! This is equivalent to you not going to your favorite pick-up bar. She’s not looking for someone else to be with nor is she interested in it, so she deleted her dating app.

She hints at you that she deleted her app which is a great moment for you to talk about where you both want this relationship to go. That’s your window of opportunity, so take it. [Read: When to define the relationship – 20 signs it might be right now]

2. You’ve met the important people

We all have a group of important people we want someone special to meet. These could be friends or family, but the point is, they met you. These people are the ones who are looking out for her best interest.

And if you’ve met them more than once, you passed the test. If you were someone she wasn’t really interested in, she would never introduce you to the important people in her life. [Read: Dating bs relationship – How to read the signs and know your status]

3. She surprises you

Now, this could be on a sexual, emotional, or mental level. She could show up at your house naked, but she could also bake you a cake for your birthday. Point is, she invested her time in showing you signs of affection.

This is a sign she cares and wants to be exclusive. It’s not about the big things she does, it’s the little things you need to keep an eye out for.

4. She knows you on a deeper level

If you just have casual sex and nothing more, she wouldn’t want to get to know more about you. Why would she? You’re not someone special in her life, rather someone to fill a need.

Sorry, that may sound harsh, but it’s true. But if she wants to get to know more about you, well, she’s interested in you.

Women don’t waste their time on getting to know someone they don’t see a future with, so if she actually wants to get to know you, it’s one of the clearest signs she wants to be exclusive with you. [Read: 20 signs she’s leading you on, using you, and only pretending to love you]

5. She tells you she wants a relationship

Maybe on your first date, she told you she’s looking for something serious and you know what. She wasn’t lying. Don’t overlook those sentences because she tells you exactly what she wants.

She wants something exclusive. If not, she wouldn’t have said anything. Or she would have said something later on.

6. You’re her go-to person

If you were only casual, she wouldn’t see you as someone she could come to for help. But in this case, she does. She trusts you.

You’re the first person she calls when something good happens, and you’re the last person she talks to before going to bed at night. Sure, she has best friends, but you’re someone she sees sharing her life with. [Read: 25 sure signs she’s serious about you and wants a real relationship]

7. She’s met your family

Now, no one actually likes to meet parents. It’s a very stressful event, especially when you really like your partner.

But if she’s willing and excited to meet your parents, that’s because she wants to see where you come from and who you are. She wouldn’t care unless she had feelings for you. [Read: 19 clear signs the two of you are ready for a serious relationship]

8. She mentions the future

Now, we’re not talking about twenty years from now. Okay, sure it could be about the real distant future, but we’re focusing on the future over the next year.

She’s talking about what you guys can do for the summer or where you can vacation during the winter holiday. No matter what goals she has in mind, they have you in them. This is definitely one of the signs that she wants to be exclusive with you. [Read: 12 key moments in a relationship that predict your future together]

9. You’re on her social media

A girl would never post a photo of a guy on her social media unless everyone knows he’s just a friend. If she does, that signals she is taken to any guy she wants to secretly impress.

Now, if she posts photos of you, she wants people to see that you are together. If you’re invisible on her social media, she doesn’t want someone to see. [Read: 12 hints a girl drops if she wants to get exclusive with you]

10. She spends holidays with you

Valentine’s day, her birthday, your birthday, these are all important holidays, yet, she chooses to spend them with you. It’s easy to text someone ‘happy birthday,’ but she goes out of her way to make sure that you enjoy your day. This shows she takes the extra step to be in your life.

11. You spend days and nights together

Anyone can spend a night with someone, that isn’t hard. What’s hard is spending a day or more with someone. Now, if she likes you, she’ll spend her days and nights with you no problem.

She doesn’t care if it’s a Friday night or a Tuesday afternoon. She’ll take advantage of the time she has with you.

12. Her things are at your place

If she didn’t feel comfortable, she wouldn’t leave her things at your place. But she’s leaving them there partially for convenience, but also to mark her territory. This is one of those good signs she wants to be exclusive, and also that she’s not going to go anywhere! [Read: Is it a good idea for her to move in? The signs you need to know]

13. She’s over the past

Yeah, she dated some idiots, but who hasn’t? However, the big difference is that she’s not using you to get over her ex. She’s moved on from her past relationships and wants something new.

You know exactly when a woman uses you as a rebound and when she’s serious. If she’s serious, she’ll show these signs. [Read: The rebound guy – 19 signs you’re one and the best ways to avoid a girl pining over her ex]

14. Her language changes

If she starts changing how she talks about herself from “me” to “we” or “us,” then that’s one of the signs she wants to be exclusive with you.

In other words, if she used to say things like, “Next week I’m going to my friend’s surprise party,” and now she’s saying things like, “Next week we have my friend’s surprise party, and it starts at 8:00.”

She’s already assuming you’re a couple through her language. In her mind, she’s gone from an individual to a couple. [Read: Dating exclusively but not in a relationship? The grey area dilemma]

15. She hints around

Girls are not very direct when they speak. They like to beat around the bush instead of coming right out and saying things. So, it is not likely that she will just directly ask you if you want to be exclusive with her.

Instead, she might say things like, “Do you think that everyone wants a committed relationship?” Or “What do you think of casual relationships? Do you prefer them?”

This is her way of hinting around to try to get a feeling for your thoughts on exclusivity. By de-personalizing it, she is safe. Because if your responses hint at the fact that you don’t want to only date her, then her ego will be a spared because she was indirect. [Read: What does exclusive mean? 20 ways to know if you’re ready]

16. She asks if you’re seeing anyone else

It could be assumed that neither of you are dating anyone else. But unless it is specifically talked about, there is no definitive answer either way. She is probably wondering where you stand, so she might ask this question.

Even thought this seems like a direct question, it’s really asking you, “Do you only want to date me?” Asking if you’re seeing or sleeping with anyone else is a way to seem easy-breezy about the whole thing. She doesn’t want you to know that she cares too much. [Read: 16 well-hidden signs you’re not the only one she’s sleeping with]

17. Her friends all know about you

Another one of the signs she wants to be exclusive with you is that in conversations with her, she will throw out things like, “Omg, I told Katie that you are so funny!” or “Jemma just asked me what you’re doing for New Year’s Eve. She wanted to know if we wanted to hang out with her and her boyfriend.”

You see, when her girlfriends know about you, that means you are important to her. In addition, she must talk about you a lot to them if they know you and/or have met you.

18. She texts you all the time

When a girl doesn’t like you that much, she will not spend much energy on you. In other words, she may not initiate texts or calls very much. Why? Well, it could be for a variety of reasons.

First, you may not be on her mind very much. Second, she might be talking with other guys too. So, if you hear from her all the time *good morning texts, good night texts, and everything else in between*, then that is one of the good signs she wants to be exclusive with you.

Remember, talking to you a lot leaves her a lot less time to talk to or date anyone else. [Read: How to tell if a girl really likes you by the way she texts you – 28 signs you shouldn’t ignore]

19. You have a routine

When people get comfortable with each other, they tend to form routines. Now, that’s not to say that it’s a boring one. In fact, routines can be very comforting and affectionate.

Maybe you have texting routine. One of you says “good morning” and you always say “good night.” And you text or call throughout the day.

Or perhaps you always get together for a date on Wednesday and Friday nights. If she’s allowing her life to fall into a routine with you, it is a clear sign that she wants to be exclusive. [Read: 25 couple activities that make you feel loved and closer to each other]

20. She asks “what are we?”

In today’s day and age, it’s common to define the relationship. Decades ago, this was not needed. But with technology and social media, a person could be talking to endless people at the same time.

She might be confused if you are the “talking phase,” the “casual dating phase,” or something else. Sometimes the lines are blurred.

So, if she asks you, “What are we?” or “Where do you see this going?” She is probably trying to put a label on it. She probably hopes that you are either exclusively dating or even boyfriend-girlfriend. [Read: What are we? How to get someone to label your relationship]

21. She has a history of committed relationship

If you know about her relationship and dating history, this will give you one of the signs that she wants to be exclusive with you. Some people are not very good with commitment. In fact, some just like to sleep around and not have any relationships whatsoever.

But she could be a quality girl and only have long-term monogamous relationships. That’s not to say that people who don’t aren’t quality people. But if she’s mostly been in committed romantic relationships in her life, then she is probably expecting the same with you if she has hung around you for a while. [Read: How to talk about a past relationship and not piss your girlfriend off by saying the wrong things]

22. She asks for an STD test

Let’s face it – it’s risky to sleep around and/or date a lot of people at the same time. There are a lot of sexually transmitted diseases floating around out there. Hopefully, if you’re sleeping together, you are at least using protection.

If you’re not sleeping together yet, she may ask you to take an STD test so she knows you’re clean. That might mean that she doesn’t have sex with very many people, and she wants to know who she’s being intimate with.

So, this is a good sign that she wants to be exclusive with you. She is thinking that you might be the only one she’ll be with for a while.

[Read: How to make your girlfriend happy and feel like the luckiest girl ever]

So, are you seeing many of these signs she wants to be exclusive with you? Or is she showing more casual dating vibes? Well, look at what the signs tell you and take the plunge into something deeper if you’re ready as well!

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