Learn These 8 Signs a Woman Wants to Sleep With You

Not sure how to read a new girl in your life? Before you take off your pants, learn the signs a woman wants to sleep with you and avoid awkward moments.

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Women are complicated in so many ways. Yet, sending mixed signals is one of the most baffling things that they are capable of. A lot of men are caught unawares because women can surprise them by initiating the first move or rejecting any of his moves altogether. It’s confusing, for sure, but you need to be careful that you’re reading the signs a girl wants to sleep with you correctly before you drop your pants. You could risk a very awkward conversation indeed!

Women can be naturally seductive and sexy. But, that doesn’t mean she’s giving you “come hither” signs. She’s simply being herself. Of course, that doesn’t make it easy for you to work out whether she’s telling you she wants something else or not. You don’t know her that well yet and she’s very unlikely to come straight out and tell you what she wants at this point.

It goes without saying that if you really want to sleep with her, you need to know if she is ready and willing. If not, you’ll end up asking for something that they’re not planning on giving. That’s embarrassing on many levels and she might end up thinking that all you’re interested in is sex. [Read: Physical signs of female arousal: 20 ways to recognize the horny girl mode]

Looking for signs a woman wants to sleep with you, but why won’t she sleep with you in the first place?

Many men want to know this question. But, before we answer it, there’s one very real answer – because it’s up to her. Maybe she just doesn’t want to. Perhaps she just doesn’t feel like it. It could be that she’s not ready yet. The reason isn’t really your business; if she isn’t giving it up, that’s because it’s her prerogative.

Of course, you already know that, but you’re still curious, right?

Women may refuse to sleep with you because of various reasons. They include, but are not limited to, their level of attraction to you, their interest in sex altogether, and their principles and ideals. So what are the common reasons she won’t hop into bed with you? Here are a few. [Read: Why your long-time girlfriend refuses to have sex]

1. She’s on her period

You saw it coming, but you didn’t expect it to be that blunt. Most women will refuse sex when they are on their period. Some may concede and allow it, but that usually applies to women who are in relationships or who just plainly enjoy period sex. [Read: The ultimate guide to period sex]

2. She isn’t attracted to you

It’s the most plausible reason out there. You can’t force someone to sleep with you if they aren’t attracted to you. The date may have gone well, but you never know what a woman is thinking until you realize that you won’t be getting a second date. [Read: 12 easy ways to know for sure if a girl likes you!]

3. She’s chosen to wait for the right person

It could be you, but not at the moment. Some women need more time to decide whether they are ready to give their body to you. It’s possible they could be waiting for someone they’re certain that they’re in love with.

4. Or, she’s saving herself for marriage

Don’t laugh at the idea just because a huge percentage of women have given up on the concept altogether. A lot of girls are still sticking to the traditional path of saving themselves for their husband. If you really want her, then respect her decision and wait and see if you’ll end up together in the future.

5. She’s really just not in the mood

If you thought that was just an excuse that women concocted in an exclusive secret society while the men were out hunting – think again! Just like when a man fails to get an erection, a woman may sometimes fail to get in the mood for sex. [Read: 20 easy ways to turn her on and get her in the mood]

6. She forgot to wax or shave

You’d be surprised at how many women reject sex because they forgot to trim down there. Appearances have become so important these days that even the intimate act of making love has become a beauty pageant of sorts.

7. She’s wearing unsexy pants

It’s either laundry day or she’s trying to control herself from jumping you on the first date. Either way, the fact that she voluntarily wore that pair means that she isn’t planning on sleeping with you, at least not tonight.

Signs a woman wants to sleep with you

Whatever the reason may be, you can relax in knowing that you won’t have to second-guess yourself if you know her motives for the evening. Will she sleep with you or not? Here are the signs that she is ready to get the deed done.

1. She touches you in intimate places

Hold up. I’m not saying that a woman will immediately grab your groin when the moment presents itself! However, a woman can show that she is interested in taking your relationship to the next level if she openly touches uncommon areas of contact. These include your ears, neck, thighs, your torso or your feet. The last one’s touched using her own feet, of course. [Read: How to get a girl all horny and wet just by sitting next to her!]

2. She’s purposely drawing your attention to her lips

It could be a provocative plea that she is voluntarily doing. Or, it may be a reflex reaction to the thoughts that she is currently having about you. Not only is it seductive, but it’s a pretty good sign that she may be open to sleeping with you if you just ask.

3. She keeps mentioning sex

A woman will never mention sex on her own accord unless she is willing to put it on the table. By casually mentioning it in the conversation, she may be subtly saying that she is open to having sex at some point while you’re dating. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on during your date]

4. She wore an uncharacteristically provocative outfit to your date – but be wary here

Any woman has the right to wear whatever she wants. If she wants to go topless on your date because it’s her usual thing, it doesn’t immediately mean that she’s willing to sleep with you right then and there. If, however, she usually dresses conservatively then suddenly wears a tiny red dress with a plunging neckline, she is probably starting to entertain the idea of hopping into bed with you.

5. She invites you back to hers

It’s highly possible that this is her way of saying that she’s ready to sleep with you. Women usually leave it to the guy to ask if they can come up to their place and promptly reject them if they don’t feel like sleeping with the guy. If they invited the guy themselves, it is usually an acknowledgement of their plans to finally seal the deal. Just remember that you may only get a make-out session or a glass of wine for your troubles if it pleases her.

6. She responds very enthusiastically to your goodnight kiss

A passionate make-out session at her doorstep could serve as your opening. Not only is she in the mood, but it seems like she is ready to eat you up before you even get through the bedroom door. Do her the courtesy of asking if she’s interested and take her to a bed where you can provide her needs privately. That is unless she wants to do it in public. [Read: 10 effortless ways to get a girl to kiss you by subtly arousing her]

7. One of the signs a woman wants to sleep with you is when she seems turned on by a lot of things

If she sounds more sensual than usual, you can bet that she’s ready for an intimate night with you. You can hear the ecstasy in someone’s voice when they are turned on. You can see it in the way they move. Her skin will feel really warm and her pupils will be dilated. Don’t ask to give her physical exam, but do pay attention to her the whole night. [Read: The 10 step-by-step guide to get a girl to have sex with you in no time!]

8. She tells you she wants you

Of course, life would be much easier is all women did this when they were ready to get down and dirty! If she tells you that she wants you, then that’s one of the pretty solid signs a woman wants to sleep with you. In fact, it’s not a sign, it’s a confirmation!

You can look for signs a woman wants to sleep with you, but remember this …

Yes, a woman may seem ready for sex; however, you should not presume that it’s a done deal even with the signs we’ve mentioned. It’s better to feel for the moment and ask when the timing is right. It’s okay if they don’t feel like it. You might have another chance in the future if you treat her right and don’t push her to rush. [Read: Is your date going to turn into a one night stand?]

Once you know that a woman is ready to have sex with you, asking her won’t seem like such a daunting task. By learning the signs a woman wants to sleep with you, you’ll feel more comfortable knowing that the chances of her agreeing will be higher.

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