26 Qualities of a Good Woman Every Good Man Should Look For

A good woman should be loved, cherished, and held onto at all costs. Learn how to identify the qualities of a good woman, so you don’t miss out!

qualities of a good woman

We all possess both good qualities and some not so good. The key? The good outweighs the bad. In relationships, that balance isn’t always easy to achieve. Some qualities of a good woman are highly overlooked, usually leaving the best women on the shelf or crying over another ruined relationship.

If you aren’t paying attention, you might miss out on a special woman who could change your life for the better.

[Read: 23 foolproof relationship tips for men to transform your love life]

What exactly is a “good” woman?

What does good really mean? Does that mean she looks a certain way, or does she act a certain way? Is it a blend of the two? They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so it really has nothing to do with looks.

However, a good woman will be there for you through thick and thin. She won’t take any disrespect from you, for sure, but she will do whatever she can to support you.

A good woman is loyal and loving, but she’s also someone who knows what she wants. The word ‘good’ is so confusing because what one person deems to be good could be totally lacking for someone else. However, if you want to avoid letting a truly wonderful woman slip through your fingers, learn the qualities of a good woman.

Memorize them if you must, and then when you see this precious creature, do whatever you can to hold onto her. Treat her well and she will always treat you better.

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Qualities of a good woman that tell you she’s the one for you

Being a good woman isn’t about always putting others above yourself or giving in. It is in the moral compass that you have, the empathy you display, and the way you love. If you find a woman with these good qualities, you are one hell of a lucky guy. Don’t let her get away.

1. She is nurturing

The ability to nurture is one of the best qualities that women possess. It is the ability to care for someone and to see their individual needs. Nurturing someone doesn’t mean that you “take care of them.” You recognize a person’s individual needs and seek to fulfil them when you can. If you have a woman who nurtures, you are golden. [Read: How to spread love to those who need it]

2. She is forgiving, but only when necessary

One of the best qualities of a good woman is forgiveness. Some people just say, “I forgive you,” and some people mean it. There is a supreme difference. The woman who truly forgives doesn’t bring up your past ills at every fight.

If she forgave, she has forgotten. It remains in the past. However, don’t assume that means she will forgive you for anything – this is a woman who respects herself and if you do her wrong too many times, she’ll walk away. [Read: 15 tips to eliminate selfishness in relationships]

3. She isn’t spiteful

One of the hardest things not to be is spiteful. When someone does something to hurt or embarrass you, it is super hard to turn the other cheek and not want to return the favor. A woman who gets over something that hurts her without seeking to strike back is a woman with some pretty amazing qualities.

4. She isn’t jealous

Women have a tendency to be jealous, not just in their relationships, but all the way around. Jealousy is a hard quality to deal with and it can destroy any good relationship.

It isn’t just about being jealous when you are out with or talking to other girls. It is about being jealous of any success or accomplishments they have. Not being jealous is one of those perfect qualities of a good woman. [Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship & learn to overcome it]

5. She is patient

Patience really is a virtue. It is difficult to sit and wait for the things we want. A woman who waits patiently for what she desires is rare. Not insisting on having what we want, when we want it, is a pretty unique quality in the new age of instant gratification. It makes for a much more harmonious life together too. [Read: 34 ways to develop a stronger bond in your relationship]

6. She is empathetic

She feels for what someone else walks through. Not everyone is born with empathy or with the same degree of understanding. A highly empathetic woman cares for the people around them. When you hurt, she hurts, which makes communication a lot less arduous in your relationship with her.

7. She challenges you

An often overlooked quality of a woman is the ability to challenge you. It is so much easier to be with someone who thinks that everything you do is incredible and is your “yes, woman.”

But, what they don’t do is make you the best you are capable of being. One of the qualities a good woman is the courage to challenge someone they love, even if it makes them upset. Because you want good things for them. Challenging someone is the hard road to take, but it is taken with love and concern. [Read: 14 steps to emotionally connect with someone]

8. She encourages you

Sometimes, it is hard to take the difficult path, and you need a little encouragement. The woman who helps push you along and point out all the things you are capable of, is someone you want in your corner.

They are the ones who say, “Don’t give up,” “You will get there,” and “Get back on that horse” when things are rough. Encouragement is what lifts us up when we need it, and takes us higher even when we don’t think we can.

9. She is your rock

A very good quality that most men negate in a woman is strength. Not the physical kind, although that can be helpful. The kind of strength I’m talking about is someone you lean on when your legs are a bit weak. Someone with strong shoulders and a willingness to roll up her sleeves when you need her. It is that type of strength that makes a good woman. [Read: 15 reasons why dating an independent woman is the right move]

10. She finds humor in the hardest times

Another of the best qualities of a good woman is to take lemons and make lemonade. Seeing the bright side of things is a rare and unique quality. When the rest of us sit around and wallow, the perfect woman finds humor. She looks for the good, and turns things around to make them okay. That is a great quality to have by your side. [Read: 25 signs and qualities that make you a really good boyfriend]

11. She is loyal

Loyalty comes in many forms. A woman who possesses loyalty doesn’t bash you to her friends. She sticks up for you, sometimes even when you are wrong, and is always there to have your back. In a partnership, loyalty is about the strongest bond that you possess.

12. She is faithful

Faithfulness is a quality that isn’t just about not cheating on someone. It means that if you are someone important to her, you hold priority in her life, forsaking all others in body and mind. Faithfulness is one of the key ingredients in a happy relationship. [Read: 9 ways to avoid temptation and remain faithful]

13. She is fun

Not everyone can be “fun.” Fun is about being spontaneous, wanting to enjoy life, and making the most of every day. If you find someone with the fun quality, she makes every moment worth living.

14. She is not envious

Envy is different from jealousy. A woman who isn’t envious doesn’t want what other people have. She wants what she has. Being envious of other people distracts you from what you have yourself. Not being envious is a positive character trait. [Read: The real differences between jealousy and envy]

15. She is competitive

Although not considered a good quality in our society, being competitive means you strive to be the best possible. It isn’t just about getting ahead of other people. It’s pushing yourself and focusing on a goal. People who dream and follow through with their ideas take you along on their wonderful ride.

16. Gratitude defines her

Being grateful is a very good quality. No one is required to do anything for you, although most people don’t see it that way. Being grateful means you are thankful for what you have and for the things people do. That means not taking advantage of, or believing people in some way owe you. [Read: 20 things to be grateful for that you don’t appreciate enough in your life]

17.She is gratuitous

Someone who is gratuitous does things not to get things, but just because they want to help out. The quality of gratuitousness is rare in our society. Typically, people do things for what it brings to them. A gratuitous woman does it just because she is kind and good-hearted. [Read: 15 traits that’ll make you the perfect boyfriend material for your girl]

18. She is altruistic

Much like gratuitous, an altruistic woman does things because of a moral and kind compass. If they see someone in need, they willingly help out and pitch in. What they do, they do for others, not for some ulterior selfish motive.

19. She doesn’t try to change you

Far too man people try to mould you into the version they want you to be. A good woman accepts you for who you are. She doesn’t try to change any aspect of you. Of course, you also have to be sure not to change anything about her either. [Read: Don’t push away a girl who show you these 20 signs she cares about you]

20. She inspires you to be better

One of the qualities of a good woman is that she inspires you to do better. You look at her and you want to do better, you want to be better, and you want to achieve more. Of course, you should do this for yourself but you also want to do it for her too.

21. She motivates you when you don’t want to do anything

We all have those days when we just want to lay down and do nothing. However, a good woman will give you a good, firm shove and get you to move! She does it because she knows it’s the best course of action for you. She also motivates you to do more in your life, and not just settle. [Read: 19 life quotes to motivate you to live a better life]

22. She picks you up whenever you’re down

A good woman won’t let you sit and struggle on your own. She’ll grab you by the shoulders, pick you up and give you a good shove to keep on moving. She will give you the pep talk to end all pep talks and in the end, you can’t help but feel as upbeat as her.

23. She is positive

Another of the qualities of a good woman is that she has a positive attitude towards life. She knows that bad things happen sometimes, but she’s also aware that happiness is a choice. This is contagious and helps you to feel more upbeat as a direct result. [Read: How to think positive and reprogram your mind to stay positive]

24. She communicates

Far too many women expect you to be a mindreader. Rather than just tell you what they want or what is bothering you, they expect you to pick up on small non-verbal hints. It’s not possible much of the time! However, a good woman communicates her needs and feelings to you, making life so much easier.

25. She tries her hardest with your friends and family

We can’t all get along with everyone but a good woman will do her very best to be kind and pleasant to your nearest and dearest. She won’t cause problems for the sake of it, and she’s careful in her interactions, because she know show important these people are to you. [Read: Wife material – 25 signs she’s definitely way more than just dating material]

26. She won’t put up with disrespect

A good woman will not sit around and let you treat her poorly. She knows that she’s a prize worth fighting for and that her good qualities make her special. So, make sure that you do everything you can to mirror these qualities back to her, or run the risk of losing her from your life.

Not everyone is perfect all the time. If you have a woman with good qualities, then make a huge effort to hold onto her.

[Read: How to be a better boyfriend, the best she’s ever had]

She isn’t always going to exhibit the best side of herself, but if you know she has the qualities of a good woman, that is all you need to know.

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