Big vs Small Dick: 21 Best & Worst Qualities to Pick the Best Penis

Let’s settle the debate – big vs small dick, which is better? Or, are both equally as good in their own right as long as the man knows how to use it?

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Be honest, which side are you on in the big vs small dick debate? Does size really matter to you, or are you more concerned with how a man uses whatever he’s packing?

If you were to ask anyone off the street what they’d prefer, they’d pick the big one without batting an eyelid. It’s what we’ve always been told, right, big equals better, hotter, and sexier? But is that really true? Or have we been fed a myth that’s now been accepted as the truth?

Big or small?

In truth, size does matter to a degree and anyone who says otherwise has a penis that’s malfunctioned more times than they care to count. A lot of men aren’t willing to admit that their size concerns them and that it’s one of the reasons why it’s difficult for them to satisfy the ladies.

We’re not just calling out the little guys here. Size can be an issue for every guy. Not because they are lacking or have too much, but because they don’t know how to use their penis in accordance with its size.

You might think that a big dick is the king, but that can hurt a woman if it’s used in the wrong way!

Size matters because you have to prepare for any eventuality that requires you to adjust. You have to know how, where, and when to move it. In order for you to know how to please someone using a penis of any size, you have to acknowledge that YOUR SIZE matters. [Read: Does size matter to women or is there more to it?]

The different kinds of penises and the sizes that matter

Before we go any further, we need to understand that every penis is different, just like every pair of breasts out there. You have the big ones, the small ones, the growers and the showers, the big heads and small heads, the ones that are hung downward like a horse and the ones that are short and stand almost upright, and so much more.

If you want to be able to tell the size of a man’s package just by looking at him, check out this feature on how to know if a guy has a big dick – 18 signs he’s clearly well-endowed to know more about that.

So the funny thing about penises is that it’s not easy to accurately define a big one. Do you take a man’s nationality or race into consideration, or would that be unfair?

But as we’re talking just about the size of a penis here, let’s stick to that for now. So what really makes a penis a big one in general? Is it just the length alone? Or is it the girth *circumferential thickness*? Or would it be both? To be honest, both kinda matter here.

A thin and long pencil dick would tickle, but it wouldn’t really get the job done, would it?

On the other one, a chode, which is what we call a fat cock that’s unusually short and thick would probably feel like fucking a toad! *okay, gross comparison, we get it!* [Read: The Chode + 16 pop culture sex terms you should know by now]

What makes a dick a big one or a small one?

Ideally, when you’re talking about a good dick, we’re talking about a perfect cock, we’re talking about one that’s fairly well endowed with a good length and reasonable thickness as well. [Read: The perfect cock – What makes a penis stand out from the rest?]

If a girl wraps her thumb and index finger around your penis to form a ring, and she can’t touch the two fingertips, that’s a very good sign you have a thick penis. With regard to the length, if you drop your pants, and you hear her gasp, well, you’re obviously packing a good one.

In terms of inches and real measurement, if you’re a man with a penis just over 5 inches, you can consider yourself the average. If you’re packing a couple of inches or more, good for your ego, and you now have a big dick. On the other hand, if you’re a couple of inches less than 5 inches, that’s considered a small penis.

Why is 3 inches the magic number for a small prick? Well, that’s because the first three inches of a woman’s vaginal canal is the mosts sensitive and give her the most pleasure, so if you can hit those spots, you’re still golden.

Porn and the anxiety it gives men and their penises

The problem with the whole comparison of a big vs small dick, starts with porn. Almost every guy you see in porn seems to be packing a little 10-inch python in his shorts. And that gives everyone in the real world a skewed image of just how big a big penis is, and what makes one an average one.

You need to remember that these actors in porn movies are picked specifically for their “hidden” talents. Just as women with huge boobs were once the preferred actors of mainstream porn, bigger penises have been preferred the same way. Bigger dicks just take up more screen space and look better in movies.

So the next time you drop your shorts in front of a woman, or you see a man drop his shorts in front of you, remember that porn is not the standard. And more importantly, what you imagine would be big may not always do the best job!

Big vs small dick – What size really matters?

The question people keep asking is this: Is bigger always better? Most people assume that it is, but if you’ve ever encountered a gargantuan appendage, you’ll know that sometimes size can be a problem either way.

Some guys with the most unassuming packages can actually get girls off more than the ones who have anaconda-level schlongs. The size that really matters – the one that every man and woman would find ideal – is the size of his brain.

Small or big, penis size won’t matter if a man doesn’t know how to make it work. It’s going to take a lot of experimenting, but the end result will more than make up for all the hard work you put in. [Read: What does she really think of your penis?]

The pros & cons of a small penis

There are upsides and downsides to both large and small penises. That’s why the whole big vs small dick debate has raged on for years. Let’s check out the pros and cons.

Cons of a small penis

Some of these cons may be obvious, but let’s reiterate them one by one.

1. Low self-esteem. This can be easily remedied when you accept your situation and maximize your other winning attributes, like your wit and humor. Treating your partner like a princess won’t hurt either. [Read: 10 signs of low self-esteem and 5 ways to increase it]

2. Can’t get it in. If it’s not going in, just let it go. Put something else in like a finger or a vibrator or maybe your tongue.

3. Not visually pleasing. All you need is full disclosure and a way to distract your partner from looking at it.

4. Less G-spot orgasms. That’s why there are clitoral orgasms. Fingers and toys can help with that as well. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Unfortunately, with the big vs small dick debate, big wins on this point. [Read: How to hit the G-Spot and make her squirm with pleasure]

Pros of a small penis

Worry not, less endowed men! There’s always a silver lining to having a penis that’s smaller than average.

1. Overcompensation. But in a good way. Your partner will definitely appreciate the things you do to make up for the lack of length and girth.

2. Blowjobs are insane. The small size allows girls to go all out and do whatever the heck they want to with your penis. They love that they can comfortably get busy without choking or gagging. [Read: How to get a blowjob – 12 secret techniques to get her to enjoy it]

3. Backdoor possibilities. Most women complain that anal hurts. They’re more likely to experiment with this if their partner’s penis is small enough to snuggle comfortably in their butthole.

4. You can hone your oral pleasing skills. What else can you do? Most guys with small penises make more of an effort in learning to please a woman using their mouth and tongue. [Read: The best tips and tricks to give her oral sex like a pro]

5. Sex toys are now up for consideration. It’s easier to suggest the idea of toys when you have no other option. At least this time, the guys and girls won’t be shy about asking for it.

The pros & cons of a big penis

Just because you’ve got a big package, doesn’t mean you won’t have to worry about some of these problems.

Cons of big penis

1. Can’t get it in. And you thought only the little guys had this problem. Just because vaginas expand, it does not mean that there’s no limit. Women will say no, especially when trying to put it in if it already hurts. [Read: The biggest big dick problems you probably didn’t think about]

2. Internal injuries. A lot of situations with big penises can hurt women. They can bleed internally, develop infections, and even blood clots from bruising.

3. No deep throating. The least you can hope for when you’re hung as a horse is a few licks on your penis. If a girl can’t take it all in, there’s no point in pushing her to her limit. [Read: 16 ways to get her to give you head]

4. No anal. It’s difficult to even try when it already hurts to put it in a vagina. We can’t imagine the literal butthurt of trying to squeeze it in through a sphincter.

5. Condoms. There’s never any available ones for big guys. They make them, but they sure don’t stock them.

6. Complacency. Guys with big dicks think that their size is enough to please a woman. Many a woman will completely disagree. [Read: Well endowed – What it’s really like to sleep with a big dick]

Pros of a big penis

Of course, along with the cons are also the pros of being hung like a horse.

1. G-spot orgasms are more likely. If the guy knows how to elicit them, that is. Still, having a big penis will guarantee access to the big G.

2. Big penises are turn-ons. There’s something primal and arousing about seeing a really thick, long and hard penis. Looking at it might just even give your partner an orgasm.

3. Bragging rights. Having a big penis makes you more popular and attractive. Sorry, but it’s true. When it comes to big vs small dick, the bragging rights are all yours. [Read: Men with big balls – Pros, cons & what girls think of huge testicles]

4. Self-esteem levels are off-the-charts. Big penis equals big ego. Men know that having a big penis gives them an advantage over their peers in terms of sex and… um… sex.

5. Lots of options for positions. The fact is that you can work better around a bigger penis than a small one. There’s no risk of it slipping out, especially if it’s deep in there.

6. Big penises are fetish-friendly. Fetishes utilize different body parts and toys. There’s not much you can do with a small penis, but a big one is the perfect prop for any and all fetishes. [Read: How to tell if your girlfriend has had bigger without asking her]

Do you need to do something about your size?

Now that you know what’s good and what’s not, you can finally start to make some headway with your penile predicament.

Rather than pop bottles and bottles of supplements and splurging on the deadly penis pumps out there, or, God forbid, get a penis reduction surgery, you’re better off learning about how to please your woman the right way.

Now, you may be wondering if we’ve even considered the possibility of a micropenis and a ginormo-penis. Yes, we made that up. [Read: Weird penis – 10 freaky behaviors that are totally normal]

Most men with micropenises are not built for sex. A vagina is deep. Even the shallowest one is still too deep for micropenises. The best case scenario for a micropenis is that it can be rubbed on a clitoris. And guys, that’s totally okay! Any type of orgasm is still a win for most women.

Ginormo-penises, on the other hand, sound like the best thing ever. But in reality, it’s more than most women can actually handle. It can be painful and can even cause serious injuries when not handled properly. If you’re gentle enough and have a huge stock of lube, you’re good to go.

Big vs small dick, which is the winner?

Neither. They’re both as advantageous or problematic as the other.

You’re best skipping the body modifications, and just settle for pleasing a woman as best as you can using your wit, your character, your fingers, and your tongue. In the big vs small dick argument, both have their pros and cons.

Make peace with your nether regions and focus on more important matters!

[Read: How much does size really matter when it comes to penises?]

Size is not an illusion, but its importance is a state of mind in the big vs small dick debate. Some people think that size is non-negotiable, but there are 7 billion people out there. There’s bound to be someone whose vagina or butt is perfect for your penis.

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